Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey succinctly tackles the topic of gay labels and bottom shaming within the gay community with a new video he posted to his YouTube page. Dempsey expertly deconstructs the heterosexual masculine/feminine framework that surrounds “tops” and “bottoms,” while also rationalizing that it’s perfectly ok for people to prefer one position over the other, with the caveat that it’s not motivated by shame.

Watch the intelligent, and incredibly handsome, Dempsey discuss the gay community’s fixation on “Who topped? Who bottomed?” using humor and logic, AFTER THE JUMP…