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ChatGPT is the matchmaker you didn’t know you needed
OkCupid releases new in-app matching questions written by the famous chatbot
OkCupid is the only dating app in the world that matches people on what matters to them through in-app questions that power our algorithm. These questions help us remain close to what’s trending in culture, politics, and society at large.
Over the past couple of years artificial intelligence has been a hot topic, most recently with ChatGPT dominating conversations online and offline. In January, there was a 91% increase in mentions of “artificial intelligence” and “ChatGPT” on OkCupid profiles compared to the month prior. So we asked the chatbot from OpenAI what it would ask on a date, and what would it ask on a dating app?
We added half a dozen of those questions — about everything from what you value most in a partner to how you can balance your own needs with the needs of a partner in a relationship — and daters have already answered them more than 175,000 times.
Are you more of an introvert or extrovert?
Introvert (66%)
Extrovert (34%)
Are you a morning or night person?
Morning (35%)
Night (65%)
What’s your favorite way to spend a weekend?
Exploring neighborhoods (12%)
Hanging out with friends (35%)
Relaxing at home (47%)
Working out (5%)
What do you value most in a partner?
Physical attraction (7%)
Communication (38%)
Romance (7%)
Trust (48%)
How do you know when to take a relationship to the next level?
I trust my gut (88%)
I have a list of criteria (12%)
How do you balance your own needs with the needs of your partner in a relationship?
I schedule time for myself (9%)
I communicate my needs (30%)
I spend social time without them (1%)
All of the above (59%)
Artificial intelligence provides numerous benefits in both our personal and professional lives. In fact, daters who think ChatGPT is a “life saver” get almost 40% more Matches on OkCupid than those who think it’s “too big brother.” But most singles are still uncertain about how important these tools will play in building and fostering romantic relationships (beyond creating matching questions, of course):
52% of Millennials and 45% of Gen Z’ers think using artificial intelligence on profile photos is a turn-off (42% and 48% respectively are undecided)
7 in 10 daters (70%) think that using artificial intelligence to create your profile or message others is considered a violation of trust
52% of daters do not think artificial intelligence can replace interpersonal human interaction right now, but 42% said “not now, but maybe in the future”
Due to the popular response to our ChatGPT-generated matching questions, we will be adding new AI-written matching questions to our app monthly throughout 2023.
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In honor of the 50th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, OkCupid data reveals what women are prioritizing in a match
Fifty years ago on January 22nd, 1973, the United States Supreme Court legalized abortion in the landmark case of Roe v. Wade. But in June of last year, that landmark decision was overturned, bringing the topic of women’s rights back to the forefront. Over the past year, the fight for reproductive rights has become a trending conversation in the media, on social platforms, and especially on our dating app.
An overwhelming majority of women on OkCupid (87%) are pro-choice. About half (49%) of women on OkCupid say that a difference in opinion about abortion would make them think twice about dating someone. In fact, differing views on abortion are more polarizing than competing views on politics (30%) and the death penalty (6%). Most (69%) women feel they should have legal decision-making power in abortion decisions. And in 2022, more than 7 in 10 women (72%) said they would not move to a state where abortion was illegal, while about 4 in 10 women (37%) would move out of their state if abortion became illegal.
It’s no surprise women on OkCupid are vocal about social injustices — 90% of women on the app are against the government defunding Planned Parenthood (and we’re still the only dating app in the world with an I’m Pro-Choice Profile Badge, which was added by more than 1 million people), 85% support the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), 83% say we should be fighting to close the gender wage gap, 78% think the United States government unfairly over-incarcerates people of color — and they’re also sharing what else is top of mind for them as we look ahead to 2023:
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