It happened after trying mdma – I felt genuine sexual attraction to men. I thought it would be temporary but it wasn’t. Im a student and every seminar I’ve been to ever since that night, I’ve eyed up the guys in the room. Problem is that all my freinds have known me for years as straight old dave – I don’t want to dress differently or talk differently now that I’m not straight anymore.

I saw a guy last night at a house party and he had earrings and his lips were very pink (it seems I’m more attracted to these sorts of people that ‘look’ gay) and I wanted to flirt with him. I went over and he seemed somewhat interested, but I had no idea what to do. Would it have been right to presume that he’s gay just because of the way he was dressed? Even if I did try something on, I’ve been into women my entire life and never really considered what it would be like to be gay.

Sorry, you guys must get this a lot but I’m extremely confused. I know prejudice against gay men is basically non existent in 21st century britain but I can’t help but feel that if pepole see me suddenly ‘turning’ gay at an age when I should understand my sexualities they’ll think I’m cringingly desperate.

Is there some kind of ‘becoming non-straight’ starter kit?