What’s The Best Way To Bring Up Safe Sex? Davey Wavey Has Suggestions.

What’s The Best Way To Bring Up Safe Sex? Davey Wavey Has Suggestions.

o-GAY-SEX-CONDOM-facebookThey certainly aren’t the sexiest things to discuss as you’re about to get up close and personal with someone new, but condoms should find a way into your precoital banter somehow or another.

For many guys, simply asking, “Hey do you have a condom?” does the trick — it’s direct, lets him know you’re on board to get down, and sends the message that safe sex is a priority for you. If he responds, “Uhh…no, but it’s cool,” then you know you have a problem.

Or, of course, you could try out one of these colorful tactics from Davey Wavey. Our personal favorite is, “You know what my grandmother always told me? If you cap your schlong, you’ll never go wrong.”

Check out more safe sex suggestions from Davey:

Dan Tracer

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Gay Men's Chorus Poster Vandalized In Capitol Hill Office Building

Gay Men's Chorus Poster Vandalized In Capitol Hill Office Building

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A Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington poster was vandalized this week in the Longworth House Office Building Cafeteria on Capitol Hill – the first incident of its kind in recent memory according to Executive Director Chase Maggiano.

The poster, which advertises the group’s upcoming Holiday Concert, was vandalized with the word “Fag’s” in marker. Someone attempted to cross it out, but the slur is still visible. 

In an email to Towleroad, GMCW Director of Marketing Craig Cipollini wrote:

“We’re not sure, but it looks like it happened Tuesday evening or late Tuesday afternoon. A friend of a chorus member saw it Wednesday morning when he got to work and notified us then. The poster is still up, and we will be getting a replacement poster over there later this week. Police were not contacted, but a Chorus member who works on the Hill notified the CAO [Chief Administrative Office]”

Said Maggiano:

“Sometimes we hear stories of bullying and vandalism at the area high schools we visit, but it’s pretty surprising to see this happen on Capitol Hill. This tells us that we still have equality work to do right in our own backyard.”

Previously, “HRC Compiles ‘Hall of Shame’ List, Outs 19 Least LGBT-Friendly Members of Congress” [tlrd]


Kyler Geoffroy

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Bette Midler Covers TLC's 'Waterfalls,' Melts Hearts

Bette Midler Covers TLC's 'Waterfalls,' Melts Hearts
Bette Midler’s cover of “Waterfalls” is here! Debuting through The Advocate, the song is the latest release from Midler’s forthcoming collection of covers, “It’s the Girls.”

Out Nov. 4, the album features 15 songs made famous by some of the best female voices of all time: The Supremes, the Ronettes, The Chordettes and, of course, TLC.

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Was This Guy Date Raped Or Not? He Isn’t Sure.

Was This Guy Date Raped Or Not? He Isn’t Sure.

10302482_10203076164920554_6121980236735957845_n“I’ve never been in a situation where I thought I could be raped,” H. Alan Scott (pictured) writes in a blog post published on the Huffington Post. “I’m a big guy, strong, how could I be raped? Until the moment when my legs were in the air, totally vulnerable, looking into the eyes of a man insistent on fucking me, did I ponder, Am I in danger?”

Scott details how he first met the guy online a year earlier. They exchanged a few “sexy texts,” but it wasn’t until they were matched on Tinder that they finally agreed to meet in person.

“I had intended on staying in, but got that Friday night itch to go out,” he writes. “We had been texting, so I mentioned dinner. Two hours later, we met at a restaurant near my apartment.”

“During the dinner I told myself, Don’t invite him over. I didn’t feel that sexual spark. He was attractive, but not exactly doing it for me,” he continues. “Still, I studied him, thinking about if I could actually have sex with him. As we walked post-dinner, my brain was saying, ‘Don’t do it,’ while my mouth said, ‘Wanna come over?’”

So they went back to his apartment. One thing led to another and pretty soon they were naked in bed together. All the while, Scott kept wondering, “Why did I invite him over? I wasn’t lonely. I honestly just wanted dinner.”

“Ten minutes into casual foreplay,” he writes. “I noticed his obvious intention to penetrate. I said, ‘Not tonight.’ I could tell he was disappointed, so I continued, ‘I don’t usually start with that. It takes me a while to bottom, to get comfortable.’ This is where I should have said, I guess we’re not a match, it was lovely knowing you. Unfortunately, I didn’t.”

The man, Scott says, became “more dominant.”

“[N]ot exactly physical,” he says, “but contorting me into positions that were difficult for me to get out of. I’d say again, ‘Not tonight, it’s not going to happen’ … But he’d push harder, no lubrication, as I’d attempt to wiggle my way out of his hold.”

Scott began to wonder if he was in danger.

“My legs were in the air, he had my arms gripped down, I was locked in,” he writes. “I felt trapped and a little scared … I knew I didn’t like it, I wanted it to stop, but I didn’t want to be mean. Then, as he pushed harder, I felt that rush of pain, and panicked.”

Then all of a sudden, the guy yelped out in pain.

“My cat, Frasier, had bit his foot,” Scott writes.

He had been saved by a feline.

The man let go, then cracked a joke about how Scott wasn’t hard anymore.

“Sorry,” he replied, “rape is basically a boner-kill for me.”

Sadly, this sort of thing is not uncommon in the gay community. Earlier this year, a 34-year-old Canadian man in Philadelphia for an education conference was sexually assaulted at gunpoint by a man he met on Grindr. And that’s just one of many incidents in which online hookups have gone too far.

“Sexual violence against men isn’t unheard of, just not talked about,” Scott writes. “In a National Crime Victimization Survey, of 40,000 households questioned about rape and sexual violence, 38 percent of the incidents were against men.”

“Gay or straight,” he continues, “sexual violence against men does happen. As I came to learn, it’s the grey area of is this assault or just harmless aggressive behavior? is where the confusion begins.”

Related stories:

Six Tips For Online Cruising That Could Mean The Difference Between Life And Death

How Can We Keep Ourselves Safer When Hooking Up Online?

Dangerous Liaisons: Five Gay Online Hookups That Ended In Crime

 

Graham Gremore

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Lisa Kudrow Thinks Gay Men Are 'Superior Beings,' Praises Their Appreciation Of 'The Comeback'

Lisa Kudrow Thinks Gay Men Are 'Superior Beings,' Praises Their Appreciation Of 'The Comeback'

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Lisa Kudrow aka Phoebe Buffay aka Valerie Cherish recently spoke with PrideSource about the renewed second season of her cult classic comedy The Comeback. It seems that Ms. Kudrow holds the belief that homosexuals may be the most mentally and physically exceptional humans on earth. Maybe that’s why they are so drawn to Valerie’s exceptionally uncomfortable and humorous shenanigans…

Frontiers LA reports:

“The people I work with are gay. I don’t know who I’m going to offend by leaving them out, but I need to say that I think gay men are superior beings in my mind. I do believe that.

It’s all so tricky. I studied biology and the brains are anatomically different. They just are. There’s a stronger connection with the corpus callosum (in gay men). The two sides of the brain communicate better than a straight man’s, and I think that has to be really important. They’re not women – they’re still men – and women also have thicker corpus callosums, so I think it’s the combination of those qualities that makes them like a superhuman to me.”

Kudrow offered an explanation for The Comeback‘s gay fanbase, too, citing the constant difficulties they face as a hot button minority in today’s society.

“I was watching Will & Grace once and there was this hilarious episode where Karen’s at a theater and she throws her flask and it hits someone in the head, and there’s this joke that gay men wouldn’t care ‘cause, ‘Eh, all in a day.’ (Laughs) Getting, like, smacked with something is ‘all in a day.’ So I wonder if that’s what it is – because Valerie gets, you know, humiliated – or humiliates herself – all the time. And it’s like, ‘Yeah, well, that’s the world.’” 

Leave it to Kudrow (or is it Cherish?) to make light of the embarassing and upsetting moments in life. But hey, maybe getting through all of that is what makes the LGBTQ community “superhuman,” huh? Kudrow (in character as Cherish) may get a chance to bring that insight to RuPaul’s Drag Race, too; she’s been offered a guest judge position for next season:

“You know, I’ve been asked to, but I don’t know how Valerie works on a talk show or as a judge. I don’t know. I’m thinking about it. I’m trying to figure out how it works. I don’t wanna say no!

(Laughs) But she could say all kinds of – I don’t know what we’re allowed to [say on Drag Race]. I mean, she’s indelicate and gets things wrong and, you know, I don’t know how offensive she’s gonna be.”

Check out the full interview here

Get ready for The Comeback season two, beginning November 9th.


Joseph Ehrman-Dupre

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