Taylor Lianne Chandler, Michael Phelps' Supposed Girlfriend, Came Out as Intersex — She Was Not 'Born a Man'

Taylor Lianne Chandler, Michael Phelps' Supposed Girlfriend, Came Out as Intersex — She Was Not 'Born a Man'
Taylor Lianne Chandler was born intersex. Contrary to recent headlines, she was not “born a male” or “born a dude,” and she is absolutely not “a man’s worst nightmare.”

Of course, Chandler’s story — which she first published in a a Facebook post on Nov. 13 — was only deemed relevant by the media days later, because she supposedly has had a relationship with Olympian Michael Phelps. However, what is most revealing about this slew of headlines has nothing to do with her relationship with Phelps; it has to do with the media itself.

The bottom line is this: If the media covers someone who comes out as intersex, it is its responsibility to educate itself about what that means. In Chandler’s case, although some outlets did cover the term correctly, the majority failed. This is deplorable. Why? Because it just reinforces stereotypes.

Here’s the deal: Gender is not binary. Being “born a man” is a ridiculous concept to begin with. Nobody is born a man; we are born babies. (Society then creates gender roles.) And, further, the idea of non-binary people as “a man’s worst nightmare” reinforces the idea that they are somehow “tricking” people. Ultimately, this coverage shows how badly we need people to be either a man or a woman — even a trans man or a trans woman. We just can’t abide by the idea of a middle ground.

That said, on the most basic level, the term “intersex” has absolutely nothing to do with being born a male. Nothing. Per the Intersex Society of North America:

“Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. For example, a person might be born appearing to be female on the outside, but having mostly male-typical anatomy on the inside. Or a person may be born with genitals that seem to be in-between the usual male and female types–for example, a girl may be born with a noticeably large clitoris, or lacking a vaginal opening, or a boy may be born with a notably small penis, or with a scrotum that is divided so that it has formed more like labia. Or a person may be born with mosaic genetics, so that some of her cells have XX chromosomes and some of them have XY.

Chandler too was clear from the beginning about her gender. In her original Facebook post she wrote:

If you don’t understand what intersex is, Google it. I was never a man, never lived as a man. No one can say they knew me as a man or produce a photo of me as a man. There are people that remember me as an androgynous child at times because of what was forced upon me. … I have always been a female regardless of labels and personal opinions. I am not a transsexual and I have never identified with the moniker transgender, but intersex is certainly on the spectrum of gender along with them.

And in a later Facebook post following a host of these headlines, Chandler wrote of their harm to her well-being:

Two steps forward and 100 steps backwards. That is what life feels like to me right now. In a world of educated people that had all the facts of intersex and what it means and then to sell a magazine say Michael Phelps is dating a MAN. I have cried now for an hour, thrown up anything in my system till I dry heaved. I just can’t believe this is happening in 2014!

Media outlets cannot cop to ignorance for misgendering an intersex person. This is more than salacious gossip. It’s disgraceful. And the media needs to do better.

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President Obama’s Immigration Executive Actions Are an Urgent Call for Lasting Reform

President Obama’s Immigration Executive Actions Are an Urgent Call for Lasting Reform

Tonight’s long awaited decision by President Obama to take executive actions that provide administrative relief from deportation will give hope to millions of undocumented immigrants, including many of the estimated 267,000 undocumented LGBT immigrants.
HRC.org

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John Cameron Mitchell on Returning to 'Hedwig': INTERVIEW

John Cameron Mitchell on Returning to 'Hedwig': INTERVIEW

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As we revealed earlier today, John Cameron Mitchell will debut in the Broadway production of Hedwig and the Angry Inch on January 21, returning to the role he created Off-Broadway 15 years ago and immortalized in the cult-hit 2001 film. I spoke to Mitchell about stepping back into the show he penned with Stephen Trask, reuniting with fans and the rock-and-roll influences that shaped everyone’s favorite trans glam rocker.

Naveen Kumar: What made you decide to do go into the show?

John Cameron Mitchell: Well you know, come on! The production is sitting there and I’ve certainly been thinking about it. I didn’t want to open the show, because it was just way too much pressure and time, and I could barely imagine doing it as long as the superman called Neil Patrick Harris. So, this manageable run, at a time when box office usually dips in January and before my film starts shooting next year, it was sort of a perfect slot. Certainly, it’s been in my mind that’ I’d do once more before I collapse into old age. [Laughs]

NK: So, it’s something you’ve thought about since the planning stages?

John Cameron Mitchell jcm344BW(med) by Nick VogelsonJCM: Years ago when we were thinking about Broadway, I didn’t really want to do a full run and thought maybe I could share it with someone—as they did with Fela!, because it was just so much singing and dancing. We reduced it to seven performances a week—I think Andrew Rannells did one week of eight—but no Hedwig has ever done eight and lived to tell the tale, because it’s way too hard. So, it was the enormity of it that gave me pause.

To be honest, it’s a great excuse to get in shape! [Laughs]

NK: How do you think it will be different for you this time?

JCM: Physically it will be much harder. But, the show is about finding a wholeness, and after 15 years, moving into middle age—you think about wholeness in a different way. In some ways, you are more whole, in other ways you’re more realistic about romance. The myth of ‘The Origin of Love,’ of finding a way to complete yourself—the young version of that is, ‘One person is going to complete me forever and heal the primal rift.’

And then you become a little wiser, even at the end of Hedwig, she’s alone in one way but there’s a kind of wholeness implied, because she’s been through these experiences. She’s the sum of everyone she’s met. You understand that more when you’re older, for better or worse. And, hopefully you’ve made the right choices as to who those people are. Everyone makes mistakes, and they make loving mistakes, which is really the best you can do. You make decisions based on whether you love or hate yourself.

A lot of queer people grew up feeling inferior, hating themselves from a young age, and have to heal themselves. And queer people include straight people who didn’t fit in in terms of gender, trans people, anyone. Your butch mom: She’s queer too, even if she’s straight. So, that’s the Hedwig community and it’s been built up from nothing. Of course there are Rocky Horror fans and rock fans mixed in, but we’re really different.

The people who love Hedwig love it forever, so there’s a responsibility to doing this right and being honest on stage. I’m excited about reuniting with those people—the last 15 years of their lives will inform the show as much as the last 15 years of my own, which has been very peripatetic, exciting and tragic and full. It’s going to be wiser, it’s going to be frayed. It’s not going to be as nervous as when I was a kid. I’m actually nervous about it now—but that ‘s more about how strenuous it is and keeping it together vocally and physically. It’s exciting; I need a kick in the ass right now, and there’s no bigger kick in the ass than Hedwig.

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JCMNK: Having done the show so many times years ago, do you think it will feel a bit like coming home? Do you still remember everything?

JCM: I think it will! I’ve been very much a part of this production, so I’ve seen it many times. Just watching, it kind of all comes back to me. I’m also excited about bringing in new material, in terms of jokes and improve, and getting rid of some stuff. In the old days, I encouraged the actors to really bring themselves to it. There were people who would improvise for 40 minutes! I love that, you just have to do it at the right times so you don’t mess up the story.

It’s like a rock show, like Lou Reed or Iggy Pop, there’s a flexibility, and I want to take advantage of that again and get a little messy (in my hopefully graceful way). But, we’ll see. Sometimes exhaustion doesn’t allow for messiness, which sounds counterintuitive, but sometimes all you can do is get through it. I know with this audience, it will be like crowd surfing. Their love and excitement will push me off the ground into something new—that’s what I’m excited about. To see what that’s going to bring to the show.

NK: Why do you think audiences have such a strong connection to this show and the character? This production really does feel like a rock show, people scream and go wild—it’s so thrilling.

HedwigJCM: I would go see rock shows, back before Hedwig, and think, ‘Why isn’t theatre like this?!’ I’m sure it was at key moments in history (who knows what the Greeks were like?), but I just thought: This is theatre. The Ramones is theatre. Iggy Pop is über theatre. David Bowie. Zepplin. It had a pure connection with the audience. Why doesn’t more theatre do that? Sometimes the fixed seating is a problem, the age of the audience based on ticket price has something to do with it.

In our case, I wanted a tight story but I wanted a rock-show feeling. And Stephen Trask was the man for it, because he worked in all those realms. Often, when you see a rock musical, the songs are not really rock-and-roll—they might be good—but people didn’t buy it and wouldn’t get excited.

Stephen and I put together everything we love about theatre: rock and roll, stand up, drag and performance art into a solid narrative with Greek origins. And somehow it all came together, and I credit in some part to working in a pre-digital age. I would argue that having too much information about what’s happened in the past—meaning YouTube—and being able to document your earliest stages of development, can be detrimental to a work of performance art.

If I had put my first performance of Hedwig on YouTube and watched it again, I would’ve been discouraged, because it was too rough. User comments alone have crushed many a genius. Do not read that shit! Those are people who are lonely and want to be heard, so they scream.

You have to work in the dark and turn things off. Punk rockers spent years to find that great sound. They developed in a vacuum, so they tried shit that hadn’t been done. That’s the danger of creating in a digital age: There’s too much information so you think everything’s been done before, so I can’t do anything. There is an advantage to putting yourself on a digital diet as an artist.

NK: How do you feel when you watch the movie now?

2hedwigJCM:I haven’t in a while. There was a time when I’d think certain moments were crude, or wish something were a bit suaver. It moves so quickly, almost like a highly storyboarded documentary. Because I was in it, and shooting it and not always able to look at the footage, and going on instinct. I had a cinematographer, Frank DeMarco, who was almost like a co-director because I’d be putting my wig on while he was setting up cameras. It was almost like doing a documentary with a year to think about how to shoot it. I eventually learned to love it.

I get really emotional thinking about how much it means to a lot of people. Those who don’t get it, that’s fine. But those who do, it’s heartwarming to know how much it meant to them. I subscribe to that worn our truism, ‘It’s better to be 10 people’s favorite thing than a million people’s so-so thing. I really believe that, I don’t know if it’s a karmic thing or what—but it works for me.

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Follow Naveen Kumar on Twitter: @Mr_NaveenKumar (headshot:nick vogelson)


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We All Deserve Justice

We All Deserve Justice
You don’t have to be a human rights activist to know that being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or trans can get you killed pretty much anywhere.

Tragically, we can cite numerous examples: the 2012 assassination of LGBT activist Erick Alexander Martinez Avila in Honduras; the brutal 2013 murder of Eric Lembembe, an activist and openly gay man in Cameroon; and just weeks ago, the sickening murder of Jennifer Laude, a trans woman in the Philippines.

In addition, there are the countless nameless cases — the depressing statistics in numerous reports by local and international human rights groups, as well as the United Nations.

Commonly, those responsible for the violence are rarely brought to justice. Prosecutions occur only (when they do) after long and sustained pressure by LGBT activists who are putting their own lives and liberty at risk in this cause.

Yesterday, the United Nations sought to remedy this situation.

The U.N. General Assembly’s main committee dealing with human rights adopted an updated version of a biannual resolution to demand justice for all killings based on discriminatory grounds, including murders motivated by a person’s real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. Only one country voted against the resolution–the Pacific island of Kiribati, although its no vote was later sought changed to “abstain.” The 2012 version of the resolution had had 35 cosponsoring countries–this year, it had almost twice as many, at 63.

The vote reflects an evolution in thinking that has become a broad consensus among the world’s nations: No one should be killed because of who they are, and murders and extrajudicial killings should be promptly and independently investigated.

This view alone, though, misses an important nuance of the process around the resolution’s adoption.

During the negotiations over the resolution, a group of countries led by Egypt and Saudi Arabia proposed to eliminate language referring to the groups of people who, research shows, are most at risk of being killed.

The text these countries wanted to delete made reference to those subject to racially motivated violence; persons belonging to national or ethnic; religious and linguistic minorities or those targeted because of their sexual orientation or gender identity; persons affected by terrorism or hostage-taking or those living under foreign occupation; refugees; internally displaced persons; migrants; street children; members of indigenous communities; human rights defenders; lawyers; journalists; demonstrators; and those targeted for reasons related to “honor.”

On the surface, it might seem reasonable to eliminate specificity in a resolution dealing with extrajudicial killings writ large. Egypt, Saudi Arabia, and others, argued that getting rid of the specific groups in the text would open it up for a broader interpretation.

Experience shows otherwise. At IGLHRC we know full well that unless people targeted for violence because of real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity are explicitly included in protection efforts, they will be left out.

This is for example clear in a new publication by IGLHRC and its partners, MADRE and the Organization of Women’s Freedom in Iraq. The publication, When Coming Out is a Death Sentence, exposes grave human rights violations and brutal violence against LGBT Iraqis, where killings based on sexual orientation and gender identity go unpunished. Last June, for example, two adolescent boys thought to be gay were killed and beheaded in Baghdad, their heads tossed in the garbage. No one has been prosecuted.

Justice is often equally elusive for the other categories mentioned in the resolution adopted yesterday at the U.N. Therefore, last week, 30 human rights organizations joined together to protest elimination of the specific language, sending a direct plea to all U.N. member states to protect the right to life for all through voting against the proposal from Egypt and others.

Fortunately, the plea was heard, and the proposal to eliminate targeted protections was rejected by an 82-53 vote.

Importantly, the real target of the proposal was not the list as such, but rather just one subgroup within it: individuals killed because of real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. This became very apparent in the debate preceding the vote on the resolution and the proposed change, in which a small handful of countries desperately attempted justifying why they would eliminate protections for human rights defenders and those under foreign occupation just to avoid extending those same protections for LGBT populations.

Let us be clear. What Egypt, Saudi Arabia, and the 51 other countries who voted to exclude vulnerable groups from the resolution were saying, is that some people don’t deserve justice. Those people include Erick Martinez, Eric Lembembe, Jennifer Laude, and countless other LGBT persons and activists killed because of who they are.

The U.N. resolution sends a signal across the world: no matter who we are, who we love, or where we live, we deserve justice.

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Country Star Billy Gilman Comes Out, Says Ty Herndon Inspired Him

Country Star Billy Gilman Comes Out, Says Ty Herndon Inspired Him

billy-gilman-and-Soles4Souls-Canada1Let it be known that November 20 will from here on be known as country music’s official coming out day. Hot on the heels of Nashville superstar Ty Herndon’s public acknowledgment that he’s a happily-partnered gay man, country performer Billy Gilman has been inspired to do the same. Gilman, 26, first garnered attention as the youngest person to score a top 40 country hit (he was 12 at the time) with the single “One Voice,” has followed Herndon’s lead and posted a video online in which he acknowledges he’s a gay man with a partner of five months.

Gilman tells viewers that it was “difficult for me to make this video not because I’m ashamed of being a gay male artist or a gay artist or a gay person. But it’s pretty silly to know that I’m ashamed of doing this knowing that because I’m in an genre and industry that is ashamed of me for being me. That said, I want to say that all of the country artists that literally I grew up with – Keith Urban, Vince, Lee Ann Rhimes and all of these wonderful friends of mine have been nothing but supportive. Not that they knew but they’ve just been such wonderful people.”

With the C&W floodgates now wide open, who do you think will come out next?

Watch Gilman’s video below.

Jeremy Kinser

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