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Here’s how a gay dad explained ‘the sex talk’ to his young sons
‘When a mummy and a daddy love each other very much, they have a special hug… daddy’s sperm meets mummy’s egg, and nine months later, a baby is born.’
Even for straight parents, having ‘the talk’ can be awkward.
For many, explaining the biology of conception serves as a substitute for talking about the issues of intimacy and sex – leaving kids to discover the facts for themselves through their teenage years.
But as gay dad Rob Watson explains, sex between consenting adults, whatever their orientation, is rarely about the procreation of children.
To help parents give their kids a well-rounded view of sex and relationships, he’s created a video explaining how he gave ‘the talk’ to his 12-year-old sons.
‘Sex talks always come from the ‘where do babies come from’ place,’ he said.
‘I was finding as a gay dad that it was incredibly heteronormative.’
He added: ‘It was going to be a talk that I was going to have with my kids that I didn’t actively have a part in, because guess what, I’ve never had s-e-x for the purposes of making a baby.’
One person he hopes to help is his straight cousin, who wanted to ensure her children heard about different kinds of relationships, sexualities, and genders while they were still young.
She wrote a letter asking Rob how he planned address the issue of sex and relationships with his children, in the hope he could give some pointers.
‘I don’t want her to feel boxed in by some heteronormative standards,’ she said.
‘I want her, whoever she’s going to be, I want her to not look back on that talk like I’m forcing her into something.’
Rob explained how the issue of sex came up on its own on a car journey with his two boys.
After one of his sons asked whether ‘the F word means sex’, Rob decided it was time to give them a few facts about adult relationships.
He said: ‘When you are an adult and you want to be very intimate with somebody that you’re very close with, and you feel like you can be completely naked with, and you want to share that of yourself, these are the things adults do – and I described the different sex acts.’
‘And if you happen to be a man and a woman when you do this, that is how the sperm goes from the man into the woman, and could potentially fertilize an egg and create a baby. But that is what sex and intimacy is about.’
Watch the full video below:
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Mel Spencer
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