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Obsessed: Bruce Jenner and the Dichotomy of Gender Expression

Obsessed: Bruce Jenner and the Dichotomy of Gender Expression
Scrolling across my feed, a myriad of trending topics flash repugnantly, as they usually do. Today one caught my eye, one that made me wince. Low and behold, trending as usual: Bruce Jenner, only this time, the headline read: Bruce Jenner in horrible Crash — One person dead. This struck me viscerally, beckoning my memory to an image of Princess Diana’s street car. There are already rumors circulating that it was a “Paparazzi Chase” that caused the accident. Oh, how the press loves to talk about Jenner, I have yet to hear the end of it, I don’t want to talk about it and now a person is dead. I guess now is as good a time to talk about this as any other.

We could start with the endless loads of speculative nonsense. Of course, traditional gender policing has to take place first, right? People had to try to deem Jenner male or female, gay or straight, and all based on appearances (because the world would explode if we couldn’t label Jenner immediately.) When Time magazine stepped forward claiming Jenner’s transition, I stewed in my chair. Was it their place to tell the world? Did it matter how legit the sources were?

Here’s my personal opinion. When people were showing me photographs, did I think Jenner was transitioning? Hell yes I did. Was it my place to perpetuate that idea? Absolutely not. It’s never anybody’s place to out a trans person. It’s never anybody’s place to out a gay person. So why do we, as a society, continue to buy the tabloids that perpetuate the invalidating idea that gender expression is still something shocking? Why do we continue to sensationalize the everyday journey of the transgender person, and make it something other than normal? The dichotomy of gender expression is one that has been repackaged and rebranded over and over again throughout history, and it all boils down to one thing. Heteronormative thinking, or in other words, anything that isn’t straight and cisgender is weird or worthy of a bad photoshopped cover story. Trans people are more than our narratives. We are living, breathing human beings, and Jenner is too.

The year is 2015. Today is a new day. When Jenner is ready to tell the world what’s up, I’ll be waiting. Until then, godspeed.

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Love Letter to an Absent Twin: An Interview with <em>Favorite Son</em> Author Will Freshwater

Love Letter to an Absent Twin: An Interview with <em>Favorite Son</em> Author Will Freshwater
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The novel Favorite Son was recently named by Goodreads.com as the #1 “Best Underrated M/M Book of 2014” and a “Favorite Book of 2014” by Love Bytes Same Sex Romance Reviewers. The plot revolves around a Washington, D.C. power broker who appears to have a picture-perfect life: looks, luck and love. Protagonist John Wells then finds himself blindsided by a series of betrayals. In the space of a single day, John’s world unravels when his career falters and his marriage implodes.

Author Will Freshwater agreed to chat with me about the inspiration behind writing his first book, including the encouragement of gay stand-up pioneer Bob Smith.

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Stroud: You’re a lawyer by training and profession. What inspired you to write a novel?

Freshwater: I started writing Favorite Son after my partner of thirteen years and I split up, changing my life in a really profound way. And then September 11th happened. So I thought, “What if I had a story about this guy who had the perfect life and lost everything?” Writing it was a way for me to deal with the losses I was undergoing. And the more I wrote, the better I felt.

Stroud: The prologue of your book describes the birth of the main character and the fact that he was a twin.

Freshwater: The prologue is completely autobiographical. No apologies! I wrote exactly what had happened to me. I had a twin brother who died shortly after we were born and I just changed the names. I found that it gave much greater depth to the story.

Stroud: Tell me a little about what happens to John.

Freshwater: John Wells is in a relationship, and he meets a really good-looking guy on the D.C. Metro. Off the cuff, he decides he’ll give the man he just met an alias — and chooses his deceased twin brother’s name, Peter. The alias quickly becomes a character in the story. Suddenly, there’s this character, Peter Wells, who steps up and says, “John, you haven’t done a very good job in terms of living your life — you’re unhappy, you’re in a bad relationship — maybe I should give it a shot.”

Stroud: Prepping for this interview, I learned there are many examples of creative types who are surviving twins: Thorton Wilder, Diego Rivera, Elvis Presley and Liberace, just to name a few. Many critics believe there is an ever-present search for unity among artists who have lost a twin. True for you?

Freshwater: It definitely influenced my writing in Favorite Son. The twin motif took on a life of its own. I didn’t find out I had a twin brother until I was in my teens. It was a huge tragedy in my family, but we talked about it once and then it was, “Let’s just move on.” This book was an opportunity for me, as a forty-year-old man, to process feelings that I’d been carrying around since I was thirteen.

I was much smaller, much weaker than my brother. He was almost twice my size, but he died — and I didn’t. I survived. There’s — guilt’s not the right word — maybe a sense of responsibility that I had an opportunity that my twin didn’t have, so I’ve really got to make it count.

In the book, that’s what starts to drive John. He realizes that success is really about happiness, connection, love, family and community. But he realizes it only after he’s assumed the identity of his deceased twin.

Stroud: So Peter metaphorically resurrects while, in a way, John dies in Favorite Son. Is that something you experienced personally — a moment where you felt like you’d died and your twin lived?

Freshwater: Again, it was somewhat autobiographical. When my first partner and I split, I felt like it was a death – actually, my death. That life, that existence, that identity ended very abruptly. There was no way back– or, the only way back was forward. I had to start over. I really did see it as not just a new beginning, but a birth. In Favorite Son, John leaves his old life in D.C. behind and starts a new life in Provincetown.

Stroud: The “original” twin — like your character John or like you — can quickly access an internal otherness by saying, “Wait a minute. Let me arrive as the twin that isn’t here.”

Freshwater: Exactly. I say in the prologue that having a spare anything is generally a good idea. Novels are usually love letters. If that’s true, Favorite Son was in some ways a love letter to my brother because I never really got the experience of knowing him or having a relationship with him. Writing this book gave me the opportunity to imagine what that would have been like.

Stroud: When I read your book, I saw it as a love letter to Provincetown.

Freshwater: Such an amazing place — and not just because of the physical beauty. There’s a creative energy there. It’s where I feel the most authentic. I started going to P-town when I was nineteen and coming to terms with being gay. Seeing this place, where people could be openly gay without fear or judgment, really rooted Provincetown in my mind as the go-to place for me.

And that’s what happens to John. His life in D.C. is very black and white. Then he jumps on a ferry to Provincetown, and it’s like The Wizard of Oz; suddenly everything’s in Technicolor. He becomes a different person, and the world opens up in front of him.

Stroud: I’m curious about the romantic relationship that John, living as Peter, finds. Tell me a little bit about the inspiration for Danny.

Freshwater: I didn’t know about Danny when I started writing the book. I was much more focused on John dealing with all his losses. When he gets to Provincetown, these characters — there are a lot of secondary characters — just sort of popped up out of the woodwork.

Stroud: In real life, or in your imagination?

Freshwater: In my imagination, definitely not in real life. These are fictional characters. I had John doing the things that he would do when he got to Provincetown, and along the way these people just manifested. Danny just sort of appeared. He wasn’t someone I anticipated, but as soon as I started writing about him I thought, “What a great foil he would be to John Wells!”

John is sophisticated and well educated. What better foil for him than this blue-collar carpenter living and working in Provincetown? I didn’t want their relationship to be cookie cutter, but painful; to have its ups and downs, because I knew that’s what would be most gratifying to the characters — and to the readers.

Stroud: How does being an openly gay man influence your writing?

Freshwater: When I’m writing, there always seem to be gay characters and gay themes. I don’t know if that’s because I write what I know — or because I’m using them as a way to process my own experiences and feelings. In any case, even when I try to get away from them, they manage to work their way back in and naturally become a part of my writing.

Stroud: What advice would you give for those who dream of writing a novel?

Freshwater: Focus on writing, not on publishing. People say to me, “Wow, thirteen years. That’s a long time to work on a project!” I say, “Yeah, but I had so much fun!” Every year brought with it new experiences and new layers that I could incorporate into the book. The process is rich and rewarding and transformative. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I hadn’t spent the last thirteen years writing this novel.

Stroud: In your acknowledgements, you mention gay comic legend Bob Smith.

Freshwater: I’ve been a big fan of Bob’s writing for years. When I read his latest published novel, Remembrance of Things I Forgot, I was so moved that I looked him up online to express my thanks. We became pen pals and friends. Almost a year later, we actually met. ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, often referred to as Lou Gehrig’s disease) had impacted his speech. Bob’s writing was fluid and his wit was always there, but when we met it was almost like meeting a different person. I love both equally — they’re both incredible, amazing, creative people — but it really was like meeting two different people.

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Freshwater’s husband Stephen Cremen, comic Bob Smith, and Freshwater

Stroud: How did Smith help you?

Freshwater: When I wrote to Bob the very first time, I asked if I could share some pages with him. He was very receptive, and the pages led to chapters. My confidence in myself faltered on almost a weekly basis where I just thought, “What am I doing? This is crazy; I’m not a writer!” But Bob knew that I was a writer. He always believed in the vision that I had for the book. I kept telling myself, “If somebody as smart and talented as Bob Smith thinks that I should write this book, than I should write this book.” Without him, I would never have written Favorite Son.

Stroud: Any other thoughts you’d like to share?

Freshwater: The only thing I’d say is that the most gratifying part of this whole process has been having people reach out to me and say, “I read your book, and seeing this character struggle and ultimately succeed in finding himself and finding the life that he is meant to live, inspired me.” That alone justifies all the work, time and effort.

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Queen Elizabeth II Says Gay Marriage Is Absolutely “Wonderful”

Queen Elizabeth II Says Gay Marriage Is Absolutely “Wonderful”

QueenElizabethRainbowSparklesJust when we didn’t think she could get any more amazing, Queen Elizabeth II called gay marriage in England “wonderful.”

Or at least according to comedian/newlywed Stephen Fry.

During an interview over the weekend, Fry explained how the 88-year-old monarch expressed her approval of gay marriage in July 2013 when signing the Marriage Act, which granted same-sex couples the right to legally marry in England.

“It was only last summer that Her Majesty The Queen gave the Royal Assent,” he told The Jonathan Ross Show.

The Queen must remain politically neutral and has never spoken publicly about gay marriage, but according to sources who Fry describes as “well-founded,” her royal majesty is all for marriage equality.

“When the Queen signed the Royal Assent for the equal marriages act, allowing gay people to marry for the first time, she put it down and said ‘Well, who’d have thought 62 years ago when I came to the throne, I’d be signing something like this? Isn’t it wonderful?’”

Wonderful, indeed!

h/t: Gay Star News

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Queen Elizabeth Makes Historic First Statement Supporting LGBT Rights

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First Gay Couple Married in Montgomery County, Alabama Speaks Out About Their Experience: VIDEO

First Gay Couple Married in Montgomery County, Alabama Speaks Out About Their Experience: VIDEO

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Tori Sisson and Shante Wolf, a gay couple from Tuskegee, Alabama who were the first married in Montgomery, Alabama this morning spoke with WSFA TV’s Melissa Johnson about their experience.

Said Wolf:

“It’s humbling. We came out here yesterday to camp out…People came by gave us donuts and chocolates. I got a poem this morning from a lady I didn’t even know. So it’s been pretty exciting.”

Added Sisson:

“I’m ecstatic, I’m a little overwhelmed and I’m really overjoyed that it went really smoothly.”

Watch, AFTER THE JUMP

While things in Montgomery County are going smoothly, a majority of counties across the state have now either suspended the issuance of all marriage licenses or are only accepting applications. 

AL.com reports:

Probate judges have said it is the best compromise for the moment, until they determine which order to follow.

But not all probate judges are sitting on the fence. Probate courts in several counties are issuing marriage licenses to all comers, including same-sex couples. About the same number of probate judges have chosen to follow the order issued late Sunday by Chief Justice Roy Moore. In those counties, marriage licenses are still being issued for opposite-sex couples, but they will be denied for same-sex couples. […]

Other probate judges have said that they may change their policies within hours or days. Counties colored red are not issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Those colored green are issuing licenses to all couples. Those shaded in yellow are not issuing any marriage licenses and those colored orange are only accepting applications, but issuing no licenses. Click on a county for more information.

Red = not issuing licenses to same-sex couples. Green = issuing licenses to all couples. Yellow = not issuing licenses to any couples. Orange = accepting applications, issuing no licenses.


Andy Towle

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Roy Moore Channels George Wallace In Stand Against Marriage Equality

Roy Moore Channels George Wallace In Stand Against Marriage Equality
WASHINGTON — By 1963, much of the United States was on its way to desegregation. It had been nine years since the Supreme Court issued its Brown v. Board decision finding segregation in schools unconstitutional, and five years since the Little Rock Nine integrated Little Rock Central High School in Alabama.

But in June 1963, then-Alabama Gov. George Wallace (D) was determined to carry out his inaugural pledge of “segregation now, segregation tomorrow and segregation forever.” On June 11, Wallace stood at the entrance of the University of Alabama in an effort to prevent two black students from enrolling, despite a federal order allowing them to do so.

Wallace cited states’ rights as his reason for refusing to follow the federal order. He ultimately stepped aside when President John F. Kennedy’s administration called the Alabama National Guard to intervene.

For many Americans, the “Stand in the Schoolhouse Door” remains an iconic image of Alabama and its stand against civil rights.

Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore (R) has been doing his part in recent days to make sure the state does not lose that legacy.

In January, a federal judge ruled that Alabama’s ban on marriage equality was unconstitutional. Marriages were supposed to start Monday morning, but Moore ordered the state’s probate judges Sunday night not to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, arguing that they were not bound to follow the federal ruling.

The U.S. Supreme Court, however, ruled 7-2 Monday morning not to stop same-sex marriages from moving forward, making Alabama the 37th state to legalize marriage equality.

“It’s raising a lot of memories of past history, where the state — rather than eagerly stepping forward to meet the civil rights question of the time — has been pulled along,” Human Rights Campaign spokesman Adam Talbot said.

University of Alabama Professor Joseph Smith, who studies judicial politics, agreed that there are “echoes” of Wallace in Moore.

“You have a statewide elected official standing up to a federal court and insisting that Alabama should be able to run its institutions the way it wants,” Smith said.

“[Moore] is trying to stand in the courthouse door as surely as Wallace stood in the schoolhouse door. Shame on him,” wrote Charles J. Dean, an opinion writer for the Alabama Media Group, in a column Monday morning.

Moore has defied a federal order before. In 2003, Alabama’s judicial ethics panel voted to remove Moore from office after he refused to follow a federal order to remove a Ten Commandments monument from the state judicial building.

This time around, there’s no federal order directed at him or the state Supreme Court. Because he is simply giving his opinion on what probate judges should do, Moore may not face the same disciplinary action as last time.

Monday morning, despite Moore’s order, some same-sex couples were able to wed.

Cooper and Jessie in Birmingham with son George – and their #marriage license after 26 yrs together! #ALMarriage pic.twitter.com/vL2bgSTp0B

— Equality Alabama (@equalityalabama) February 9, 2015

Couples are continuing to tie the knot in Big Spring Park #wedhsv #ALmarriage pic.twitter.com/QTdXX4IpCp

— Lauren Bale (@LaurenBaleWAFF) February 9, 2015

Rev. Ellin Jimmerson signs marriage license after ceremony of 1st same-sex couple in Huntsville #ALmarriage #wedhsv pic.twitter.com/QtUJZKqXX7

— Paige Heard (@chaplainheard) February 9, 2015

“At the end of the day, it’s still a very simple legal analysis: You’ve got a federal court order,” Jefferson County Probate Court Judge Alan King told The New York Times, explaining why he had not hesitated to issue the marriage licenses.

Other counties seemed to be holding out. In Tuscaloosa County, for example, gay couples looking for a marriage license were instead handed a summary of Moore’s order. Alabama Gov. Robert Bentley (R) said Monday said he would not take disciplinary action against any probate judges in the state.

Smith, the University of Alabama professor, said that Moore is probably considering electoral politics, similar to Wallace.

“We all know how this story ends,” he added. “The story ends with same-sex marriages being done in Alabama. At this point, any state official that refuses to go along with this is just sowing confusion and postponing what is going to happen and probably acting primarily out of concern for their next election.”

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