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Shelly Oria’s ‘New York 1, Tel Aviv 0’: Book Review

Shelly Oria’s ‘New York 1, Tel Aviv 0’: Book Review

BY GARTH GREENWELL

Disorientation afflicts nearly all of the characters in Shelly Oria’s nimble and disarmingly moving debut collection of stories. Many of them are (like Oria herself) Israeli immigrants in New York City, navigating multiple cultures and languages; others find themselves in worlds where the usual rules (of weather, say, or time) break down; all of them are bewildered by desire.

Newyork1telaviv0_bThe narrator of the title story has come to the United States after finishing her military service, because “staying in Tel Aviv meant starting my life,” and “It’s a scary thing, starting your life.” As is true throughout the collection, Oria is excellent in detailing how the texture of daily life differs in the two countries: “When I first moved to New York, I kept opening my purse every time I entered a building, before realizing that there was no security guard. And every time I felt relieved, and every time I felt orphaned, and every time I felt surprised at both.”

The book’s title comes from her attempt to keep score of the advantages and disadvantages of her two cities. She never gets very far: “I forget to keep track, and I have to start counting all over again every time.” She meditates on the strangeness of Central Park, “the idea of having a designated area for greenery”: “Tel Aviv isn’t carefully planned like that—trees often choose their own location, and most streets stretch in unpredictable directions, creating a pattern of impulse.”

What’s true of the streets of Tel Aviv is also true of the magnetic men and (more often) women that Oria’s protagonists can’t fully know or possess, and many of the stories are haunted by infidelity. In “This Way I Don’t Have to Be,” a woman is addicted to sleeping with married men. She watches them during sex for the moment they imagine the possibilities they’ve left unlived, when “their entire lives turn to air,” an unsettled state of longing we sense the narrator craves for herself.

In “None the Wiser,” a sly, acid, wonderful story about jealousy and age and grief, a woman’s own desires gradually become clear as she gossips about her neighbors. And in one of the collection’s standout stories, “The Disneyland of Albany,” Avner, an Israeli artist who has left his family behind to seek his career in America, discovers his wife’s infidelity from stray remarks his young daughter makes during a visit.

In the collection’s final story, which might also be its finest, “Phonetic Masterpieces of Absurdity,” the book’s preoccupation with erotic disappointment combines powerfully with one of Oria’s other major themes, the tragedies and absurdities of ongoing conflict in the Middle East—a conflict that her characters can never fully escape, at home or abroad.

CONTINUED, AFTER THE JUMP

The story’s protagonist, Nadine, is interviewed and photographed by Mia, an artist whose current project involves photographing sex workers. Over the course of Mia’s visits, Nadine is surprised to find herself more and more entranced by Mia, even as she’s bored by her questions: “All of Mia’s questions are the same question. Something something sex worker something something choice something. Nadine always pauses before she answers. It appears as if she is thinking hard, she knows that. But the pause is the time when she says with no sound, Ask me something real.”

Nadine wants to communicate a more nuanced idea of her relationships with her clients, the way even this transactional sex can be the occasion, however compromised, of authentic communication: “One thing she wishes she could explain to Mia: she doesn’t mind the moans. Or more honestly, though this embarrasses her: the moans are her favorite part. When seeing a client for the first time, that is what she’s curious about, and she waits for that one moment, when the animal in him speaks to her.”

OriaNadine is changed by meeting Mia, not least by falling in love with her. (It seems to be the first time Nadine has been so strongly attracted to a woman.) And Mia is changed as well. Her encounters with Nadine—including the only physical contact between them, a brief, unguarded massage—allow her to return both to Israel and to another series of photographs, this one of members of the Israeli military.

It’s so normal in Israel, Mia says, the idea of the military, of everyone being part of that military, a country of soldiers. Eighteen-year-old kids getting M16s, being trained, and no one sees how f–ked up it is. It’s, like, ‘What choice do we have,’ ‘we’re surrounded by enemies,’ all that stuff. And for years I’ve been wanting to shout: But can you still see? Necessary or not, can you look at it?

This is a rare moment of vulnerability for the distant photographer. (Earlier in the story Nadine wonders, “How can you get to know someone who reaches for the camera every time she feels something? You cannot.”) Talking with Nadine shakes something free in Mia, and allows her to return to her other, more difficult project. The story’s final scene, which takes place months later, affirms the depth of the connection they’ve formed, even as it denies them the kind of relationship they both long for.

Oria’s characters are often stripped of the usual, prefabricated categories of identity: “I think, Who is this person?” the narrator of the title story wonders, “That me who isn’t Israeli and isn’t American, isn’t gay and isn’t straight–who is she?” This disorientation makes them profoundly vulnerable, able to ask with a sometimes devastating bluntness the most dangerous questions: “I think: This is what there is, this is my life. I think: Do I want it or not?”  

In Oria’s excellent collection, these questions result in stories that are heartbreaking, inventive, and almost miraculously alive to the subtleties of feeling.

Previous reviews…
Colm Tóibín’s ‘Nora Webster’
Saeed Jones’s ‘Prelude to Bruise’
Michael Carroll’s ‘Little Reef and Other Stories’
Francine Prose’s ‘Lovers at the Chameleon Club, Paris 1932’

Garth Greenwell is the author of Mitko, which won the 2010 Miami University Press Novella Prize and was a finalist for both the Edmund White Debut Fiction Award and a Lambda Award. His new novel, What Belongs to You, is forthcoming from Faber/FSG in 2015. He lives in Iowa City, where he is an Arts Fellow at the University of Iowa Writers’ Workshop. Connect with him on Facebook and Twitter.


Garth Greenwell

www.towleroad.com/2014/11/shelly-orias-new-york-1-tel-aviv-0-book-review.html

10 Worst Cities For LGBT Rights

10 Worst Cities For LGBT Rights
Across the United States, cities are increasingly embracing equal treatment and access for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Americans. In a foreword to this year’s Municipal Equality Index, Chad Griffin, President of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), said that “cities continue to demonstrate that all corners of America are ready for equality.”

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Gay Iconography: 'Constant' Praise For k.d. lang

Gay Iconography: 'Constant' Praise For k.d. lang

Lang

Before Melissa Etheridge, before Ellen, before Rosie, there was k.d. lang. The Canadian singer-songwriter with one of the most moving voices on the planet kicked open the closet door in 1992 when she appeared on the cover of The Advocate.

“I am very proud to be part of the evolution of the integration of gays in society. It is certainly something I didn’t do alone but I am proud to be a part of it,” she told Gay Calgary Magazine in 2008. “This woman in Toronto, Debbie Pearson, came up with the term ‘dykon’ which I think is hilarious. If I helped people have a more open, healthy relationship with their parents or friends, or more importantly themselves that makes me really happy. Anything I can do to help people feel more comfortable and confidant in who they are, that is great.”

Her coming out kicked off a lot of media exposure in the early ‘90s, including the now iconic Vanity Fair cover featuring lang in a barbershop chair receiving a straight-razor shave from Cindy Crawford. The shot, by photographer Herb Ritts, as well as a rumored fling with Madonna, helped turn lang into a household name and launch her album Ingénue’s commercial success.

Check out some of our favorite ‘dykonic’ k.d. lang performances, AFTER THE JUMP

 

Lang’s first introduction to international audiences came courtesy her performance at the 1988 Winter Olympics opening ceremonies in Calgary. Heavily influenced by country singers, especially Patsy Cline, lang grew up in Alberta and said she knew from a very early age that she was gay. ‘I never even gave it a second thought,” she told The Daily Mail in 2008. “I wasn’t scared to act on it. I just did it and I didn’t feel like I was the only person in the world who felt that way.”

 

Her most well-known track, “Constant Craving,” peaked at No. 38 on the Billboard Hot 100, No. 2 on the Billboard adult contemporary chart and earned lang a Grammy Award in 1993.

 

She’s also well-known for her androgynous style. She described her experience in an interview with The Guardian in 2008: “I like going through the world kind of ambiguous … Being androgynous changes the sexual playing field too, because a lot of gay guys flirt with me, a lot of straight women flirt with me.” She played up her femininity in her campy video for “Miss Chatelaine,” above.

 

Lang leapt at the chance to record “Sing It Loud,” written by Joe Pisapia, who co-produced her album of the same name. “For me to sing that would be such an anthem for people who feel slightly left of center,” she told the Huffington Post in 2011. “You know, I kind of represent a different section of humanity, and I just thought it was a good song to support that.”

 

You may have caught k.d. lang’s gorgeous rendition of Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah” during the opening ceremonies of the 2010 Vancouver Olympic Games. While her ability to belt a beautiful ballad hasn’t changed, she has seen a change for the LGBT community. “I think the gay community has grown up and evolved,” she said to Curve Magazine. “I think society is more open about sexual orientation in general.”

What are your favorite k.d. lang performances?


Bobby Hankinson

www.towleroad.com/2014/11/gay-iconography-constant-praise-for-kd-lang.html

19 Awesome Responses to the Anti-LGBT #DefendtheDuggars Ongoing Tweet-Off

19 Awesome Responses to the Anti-LGBT #DefendtheDuggars Ongoing Tweet-Off

  Duggars

The change.org petition asking The Learning Channel to cancel 19 Kids and Counting over the Duggars’ “LGBT fear mongering” that caught fire on the internet earlier this week also managed to catch the attention of right-wing Christian activists who are concerned with (but don’t actually understand) first amendment protections. 

American Family Association, Alliance Defending Freedom, and other anti-LGBT organizations and websites helped spearhead a #DefendtheDuggars tweetfest today. But like NOM’s Twitter warning last month that marriage equality would lead to people marrying themselves, the campaign quickly started backfiring in spectacular fashion.

Liberal haters are trying to hijack the #DefendtheDuggars hashtag with their obscenities on Twitter. Take back #DefendtheDuggars! Go post!

LifeSiteNews.com (@LifeSite) November 21, 2014

Here are just a few highlights of what’s rolling in over on Twitter:

#DefendtheDuggars because we all know God’s just not up to the job, We need a hashtag’s help with this one.

— Professor ZeitGeist™ (@Prof_Zeitgeist) November 22, 2014

#DefendTheDuggars right to try to finally learn half names of all the children they spend no individual time with! pic.twitter.com/yJpttozHG2

— Mrs. Betty Bowers (@BettyBowers) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because Josh Duggar’s boss keynoted the 2001 convention of a white supremacists group. pic.twitter.com/L8Oupv9lIx

— JoeMyGod (@JoeMyGod) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because we’re sick of Christians being persecuted & having their basic human rights put up to a vote. #OhWaitThatsTheGays

— John M. Becker (@freedom2marry) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because there should be a family on TV worse than the Kardashians.

— Emerson Collins (@ActuallyEmerson) November 21, 2014

No need to #DefendTheDuggars when nobody’s trying to take away their kids or tell them one parent doesn’t legally “count.”

— Jayelle (@GreenEyedLilo) November 21, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because statistically at least four of their sons will be gay, those boys should be allowed to get married too.

— I.G. Frederick (@eroticawriter) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because gay people who work at #TLC should be forced to pay bigots to lie about them publicly.

— Hamybear (@hamybear) November 22, 2014

Christians wrote the book on boycotting TV shows. When the tables are turned they scream “tyranny!” #DefendtheDuggars pic.twitter.com/DPYo3loMbk

— Scott Wooledge (@Clarknt67) November 22, 2014

My favorite #DefendtheDuggars supporter of the evening. This conversation turned into pure gold. #UniteBlue pic.twitter.com/gYtnAMEw7g

— Tim Peacock (@timsimms) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because my same-sex marriage threatens the sanctity of their marriage and stuff! pic.twitter.com/xACf228lqe

— Kevin (@jerseygringo) November 22, 2014

I can’t #DefendtheDuggars when they flaunt their sexuality—keep private life private! #LGBT t.co/qkfMTy8yKS) pic.twitter.com/7JTY61EhWi

— Scott Wooledge (@Clarknt67) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because they need protection from the fundamentalist LGBTQIAs pic.twitter.com/P53kjQb3rk

— u=v(l)eslie (@LeslieWheat) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars cause pic.twitter.com/8lTs7vgkOj

— maggie priceless (@MaggiePriceless) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars …. pic.twitter.com/nibxVf0vlM

— Amelie Belcher (@AmelieBelcher) November 21, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars because Michelle’s uterus is a clown car.

— Scott Rose (@ScottEqualityRo) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars right to believe Moses wrote the Constitution.

— Rodney (@rodneygallen) November 22, 2014

#DefendtheDuggars A Handy Guide pic.twitter.com/QfJJ6TYsp8

— GolemOnTheShelf (@DanielBen_Del) November 22, 2014

Why should I #DefendtheDuggars? Haven’t they already bred an army? Can’t they defend themselves? #Noh8

— Steve Marmel (@Marmel) November 21, 2014

What’s your #DefendtheDuggars response?


Kyler Geoffroy

www.towleroad.com/2014/11/defendtheduggars.html

Polish Officials Ban Winnie the Pooh from Local Playground Over Character's 'Dubious Sexuality'

Polish Officials Ban Winnie the Pooh from Local Playground Over Character's 'Dubious Sexuality'

Pooh

Officials in the small Polish town of Tuszyn have nixed a plan to have Winnie-the-Pooh used at a local playground over concerns that the bear is an “inappropriate hermaphrodite” with “dubious sexuality.”

Croatian Times reports:

Councillor Ryszard Cichy, 46, said: “The problem with that bear is it doesn’t have a complete wardrobe.

“It is half naked which is wholly inappropriate for children.”

Pooh1He then suggested a Polish fictional bear, saying: “Ours is dressed from head to toe, unlike Pooh who is only dressed from the waist up.”

The meeting, which was recorded by one of the councillors and leaked to local press, then turned on Winnie-the-Pooh’s sexuality.

One official is heard saying: “It doesn’t wear underpants because it doesn’t have a sex. It’s a hermaphrodite.”

Councillor Hanna Jachimska then began criticising the Winnie-the-Pooh author Alan Alexander Milne.

She said: “This is very disturbing but can you imagine! The author was over 60 and cut his [Pooh’s] testicles off with a razor blade because he had a problem with his identity.”

No words…


Kyler Geoffroy

www.towleroad.com/2014/11/polish-officials-ban-winnie-the-pooh-from-local-playground-over-characters-dubious-sexuality.html

Conchita Wurst Releases 'Heroes' Video

Conchita Wurst Releases 'Heroes' Video
Your favorite bearded drag queen and international superstar is back with a new video, and it’s absolutely breathtaking.

Conchita Wurst, winner of the 2014 Eurovision song contest, released “Heroes” this week, the first single since her victory. The song is slow but powerful and showcases Wurst’s impressive range of vocals.

Earlier this month, Wurst traveled to the United Nations to join U.N. Secretary General Ban Ki-moon where the pair delivered a message about tolerance. They advocated an end to homophobia and transphobia, with Wurst claiming that he dreams of “a future where we don’t have to talk about sexual orientation or the color of your skin.”

Check out the video for “Heroes” above.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/22/conchita-wurst-heroes_n_6200164.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

An Ex-Gay Therapist Was No Match For This Amazing Harvard Law School Student

An Ex-Gay Therapist Was No Match For This Amazing Harvard Law School Student

Screen Shot 2014-11-21 at 2.53.26 PMStories don’t usually start with, “Harvard University outed me.” This one does. When Scott Blair took the LSATs and checked a box on his Harvard application that he was gay, the university gay law student group called his mother’s house. She asked the reason for the call, and they told her, “Well, he’s gay and applied and we’d really like him to come.”

She confronted Scott about the call in the car soon thereafter. “Did you save the contact information?” he appropriately asked her. “No, I was hoping you were lying to them to get into a better law school,” she replied. The time had come to be totally honest, and Scott told her that no, he wasn’t lying.

“I almost want to drive this car into a tree,” said Scott’s mother. “Can you let me out of the car first and then you can go ahead?” he answered like a true lawyer-to-be.

His parents ended up joining a “Parents and Friend of Ex-Gays” group in New Jersey, even though Scott was comfortable with who he is. “That is the opposite of the group you are supposed to be joining right now,” he tried reasoning with them.

But reason rarely matters in the unfortunate world of ex-gays. His parents asked Scott to meet with one of the group’s leaders, to “understand what the homosexual lifestyle is about.” To humor them, he agreed.

By the time Scott met with him, it was the summer of his second year of law school. Harvard Law School. Scott was already a clever young man, but armed with two years of legal argumentative training, the guy didn’t stand a chance.

First, the counselor started with the “there is no gay gene” schtick. “Every study that’s reported to find a gay gene has been authored by gays,” he continued.

Scotts response: “I have no idea what studies you’re talking about, but sexuality is very complex. Everything that humans do is very complex. All a gene does is control the expression of a protein. I would be extremely shocked if one gene could control anything like that.”

The counselor looked at Scott with confused bewilderment, never having received such an answer. His next move was to pry into Scott’s upbringing –specifically his parents’ divorce. He told Scott that many people who are angry at their mothers following a divorce are “turned off” to women.

“So if I was angry at my mother, that would make me gay, but you also asked me how I felt about my father. My guess is what you’re going to say is that if I was angry at my father, that would make me want to seek the company of other men.”

The ex-gay counselor said yes, that can be the case as well. 

“Isn’t that sort of contradictory? No matter which one of my parents I hate — which I don’t — that made me gay.”

Next the counselor moved the conversation to the subject of homosexuality leading to the fall of civilizations, referencing the Roman Empire.

Except Scott is a history buff with a special interest in the Romans. “The Roman Empire only fell after it became Christian,” he told the therapist.

“Well they weren’t really Christian in any sense of the word that we would use today.”

“Saint Augustine was one of the most famous Christian theologists ever, and according to what you’re telling me, he wasn’t actually a Christian.”

“Well, you know, they were very Catholic.”

“You realize my mother is Catholic, right?”

“Well, thank you for your time,” he eventually told Scott, leaving the room.

In an interview with I’m From Driftwood, Scott reflects on the experience:

“It’s actually hard not to feel a little sorry for him, because he was gay before he ‘changed,’ and he claims that he realized homosexuality was immoral in the 80’s when he saw a lot of his friends dying from AIDS, and it’s hard to mock somebody for that.

“I would tell any kid who has to go see an ex-gay therapist or somebody that’s telling them that it’s wrong to be gay that they are smarter than somebody who thinks that and they are better than somebody who thinks that. And frankly any argument that somebody uses to support changing who you are is very, very bad. And very dumb. 30 second of thought will show you why it’s wrong.”

If we ever need a lawyer, we’re calling Scott.

See the whole interview here:

Dan Tracer

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