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What You Need to Know About Anti-Trans Bathroom Bills

What You Need to Know About Anti-Trans Bathroom Bills
Bills have been filed in three states to prevent transgender people from using bathrooms consistent with their gender identity. The one in Kentucky targets transgender students. The bills in Texas and Florida apply would everywhere. Between all three, there are various provisions for:

1. Civil and criminal penalties transgender people who use a bathroom

2. Fines, criminal and civil liability for school administrators and business owners who let a transgender person use a bathroom different than their birth sex

3. People who report a transgender people in the bathroom to claim civil damages (i.e. collect a bounty)

Understandably, this has caused fear and dismay among transgender people around the country. We all have to use the bathroom, but these laws would seemingly force transgender people to choose between fines and jail, risking horrific violence or leaving the state.

While this is theoretically possible, it’s also extremely unlikely. Here’s what you need to know, and what the probable outcomes are:

1. The bills probably won’t pass

These bills are considered kind of kooky even for conservatives, who’d much rather be talking about tax cuts, “Religious Freedom,” repealing “Obamacare,” and “getting government out of people’s lives.” The Florida and Texas bills haven’t even been assigned to committees yet, and may never be heard. Beyond this, the legislators who proposed them in Texas and Florida aren’t exactly well regarded even within their own party. The Kentucky bill passed in the state senate, but both the house and governor’s office are controlled by Democrats.

Americans have 99 problems, and transgender people in bathrooms ain’t one of them. Republicans who focus on this will open themselves up to a lot of ridicule, while most of the mainstream ones would rather find issues that are better at pulling in both the base and independents.

2. Even if they do pass, it will be a nightmare… for conservatives

If by some weird quirk of fate one of these passes, the storm of lawsuits from everyone involved will be a debacle. Non-transgender people who are accidentally targeted by these laws will be suing. So will transgender people, whose lives are at risk. Business owners will be claiming that the government mandate is unenforceable; how are they supposed to spot check someone’s DNA? Police departments will have an unfunded mandate for DNA testing, and it will be a huge test of evidence and privacy laws.

People trying to claim bounties will be reporting anyone who looks suspicious, or even turn each other in to file civil suits against business owners for quick cash.

Transgender men in women’s bathrooms will also quickly make it obvious how ridiculous the bills are. The bearded guy who benches 300 lbs in the ladies rooms isn’t exactly what these lawmakers wanted, but will get anyway. If or when a butch cisgender woman gets arrested and forced to undergo DNA testing, the result would be a media firestorm.

If they do pass and get put into effect, the chaos that follows will ensure no one repeats the mistake.

3. They probably won’t hold up in court

The Department of Labor (DOL) recognizes discrimination against transgender people as sex discrimination under Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act. Some of the most recent case law also finds that restricting bathroom access for transgender workers is a form of sex discrimination. Similarly, the Department of Education recognizes transgender people as being covered by the provisions for sex discrimination under Title IX.

These are just the challenges that transgender people would mount under Title VII and IX. There will also probably be the equal protection, privacy, disparate impact, sex stereotyping, animus and enforceability challenges these bills would face from transgender people, people who were falsely accused and business owners affected by the laws.

Given the number of vulnerabilities and potential challenges to these laws, many people believe they are unlikely to stand up in court.

4. These are last gasp attempts to hurt LGBT people

“No, I think we have to go all out. I think that this situation absolutely requires a really futile and stupid gesture be done on somebody’s part!” – Otter, Animal House

Most people, including conservatives, see the writing on the wall for marriage equality. As a result, they are desperately casting about for something ways to hurt LGBT people legislatively. Recent polls show that the window for singling out transgender people is closing, and the results are acts of desperation.

Most of these attempts have involved preempting local non-discrimination ordinances with state law, or expansions of the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA) to allow people, businesses, churches and religiously affiliated organizations to discriminate against LGBT people on the basis of “sincerely held religious beliefs.”

Whatever those are.

These bathroom bills represent a futile and not particularly well thought out side show to where the real point of attack is. Their introduction may be simple grandstanding for the base, fear mongering or sincerely held paranoia, but as public accommodations access becomes settled law these bills will have less and less “pull.”

People whose greatest fears in life include transgender people in bathrooms will increasingly be seen for what they are, and the rest of us will be able to just get on with our lives.

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Transgender Discrimination Bill Scheduled for Hearing in Florida House Civil Justice Committee

Transgender Discrimination Bill Scheduled for Hearing in Florida House Civil Justice Committee

Today is the first day of the state legislative session in Tallahassee and already mean-spirited, anti-transgender legislation has been put on the calendar for a vote.
HRC.org

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ABC Family Airs Youngest Same-Sex Kiss In Television History On The Fosters

ABC Family Airs Youngest Same-Sex Kiss In Television History On The Fosters

Since we have to assume you, like us, don’t keep too up to date on your ABC Family programming, there’s a show called The Fosters that first aired in 2013 that follows the lives of the coincidentally named Foster family — an interracial lesbian couple raising a mix of biological, adopted and foster children. How’s that for diversity?

Fans of the show have been following the budding friendship of 13-year-old foster child Jude Foster and his schoolmate Connor Schoolmate. Oh, no sorry it’s just “Connor.”

It’s made clear early on that Jude is probably gay. In one of their scenes together, Connor paints his nails in solidarity after Jude is bullied for doing the same:

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Which is pretty damn cute. But the cuteness doesn’t end there.

After a camping trip where something happened in the tent, the two are at a movie together and engage is some sickeningly sweet pinky holding:

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And then in the most recent episode, Jude blows up at Connor for all the mixed signals, telling him, “You kissed me! Remember? In the tent? And then at the movie theatre you held my hand. And now all day you’ve been…I just… I don’t get this. I don’t get you.”

And that’s when Connor goes in for the kiss, which by all accounts is the youngest same-sex kiss to be shown on television:

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h/t Buzzfeed

Dan Tracer

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How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Having Sex?

How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Having Sex?

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3.53.

According to Time Out, that’s the number of dates you should go on with that new beau of yours before the two of you have sex for the first time. Time Out surveyed 11,000 people across the world in major metropolitan cities asking them a wide variety of questions about what turned them on in potential partners and their general dating habits. Respondents reported finding British accents the most attractive, meeting the bulk of their dates online, and thinking that halfway through the fourth date was as good a time as any to take a roll in the hay.

What say you all? How many dates should one go on before letting things get physical? Sound off in the comments.


Charles Pulliam-Moore

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Arrest Made In Deadly Beating Of Transgender Woman Islan Nettles

Arrest Made In Deadly Beating Of Transgender Woman Islan Nettles
An arrest has been made in the beating death of a transgender woman, according to the victim’s mother.

Delores Nettles told DNA Info on Tuesday that prosecutors have informed her of an arrest in the 2013 killing of her daughter, 21-year-old Islan Nettles.

“I’m overwhelmed,” Nettles said. “I still want to know the facts, but it’s been a long time coming.”

The New York Police Department did not immediately return a request for comment from The Huffington Post.

The Manhattan District Attorney’s office declined comment when reached by DNA Info.

The name of the suspect was not known nor were the charges they could face.

On Aug. 17, 2013, Nettles was walking with friends in the early morning near her home in Harlem when they ran into a group of young men outside a police precinct. A fight ensued, and Nettles, who was knocked to the ground and beaten by one of the young men, slipped into a coma. A few days later, she died.

Police initially charged Paris Wilson, 20, with misdemeanor assault. Nettles’ friends and family were upset that the charge had not been homicide.

Then another man came forward and confessed to the beating, but said he was too drunk to remember any of the details. That man was not charged. Charges were also dropped against Wilson, according to the New York Daily News.

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Flip It And Reverse It: The Joys Of Being Versatile In Bed

Flip It And Reverse It: The Joys Of Being Versatile In Bed

tumblr_ndsogylRYo1rczqluo1_1280“More and more I’ve been feeling like even the question ‘Are you a top or a bottom?’ is passé,” blogger Rich Juzwiak writes in a new op-ed published on Gawker.

Versatility, he believes, is where it’s at. But he didn’t always feel that way.

For years, Juzwiak identified as a top. “But curiosity kept creeping up on me,” he says, “temping me to try what makes many a guy’s eyes roll back in his head uncontrollably.”

So he decided the give bottoming a try.

“The first guy who ever fucked me I met via gay.com; I don’t remember his name. He lived on the inland of South Jersey, so that’s probably for the best,” Juzwiak writes. “He was a terrible top. He knew that I was inexperienced, but told me that I just needed to relax to enjoy the experience. I felt the white heat of pain in my butt the entire time.”

But he didn’t let that one bad experience dissuade him from trying it again. (With a different gentleman, of course.)

“Bottoming remained a crapshoot (pun intended),” he says. “It could be great; it could be massively painful; it could be uncomfortable enough to feel like a big waste of time.”

Then, in 2013, Juzwaik had a prostate exam. His doctor asked him, “Has anyone ever told you that you’re a real tight ass?”

To which he replied: “Isn’t that a good thing?”

Juswaik’s doctor recommended exercises he try (including taking poppers) that might help him relax and enjoy bottoming more. Today, Juzwaik says he loves pounding just as much as getting pounded.

“One of the greatest things about being versatile is that you are potentially sexually compatible with anyone,” he writes. “I’d say I’ve topped in 75 percent of my casual encounters in the past two-and-a-half years. I was also in a relationship where I bottomed exclusively.”

“Finding your preferred sexual role…requires a deep level of introspection about something generally regarded as carnal,” Juswaik writes. “It requires work and experimentation to get it right.”

“But that work,” he concludes, “clearly, is loads of fun.”

What do you think? Is the notion of “top” and “bottom” passé? Sounds off in the comments section below.

Related stories:

How You Dance Determines Whether You’re A Top Or A Bottom

WATCH: Challenge What You Think You Know About Tops Vs. Bottoms

STUDY: Your Face Gives Away Whether You’re A Top Or Bottom

Graham Gremore

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Slovenian Parliament Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage And Adoption

Slovenian Parliament Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage And Adoption

VoteBy a vote of 51-28, Slovenia’s Parliament today passed legislation that would amend the current marriage and family relations act to allow same-sex couples to legally be married and adopt. As STA reports, “A coalition of conservative groups has already announced efforts for a referendum.” Slovenia is the 12th European nation to recognize same-sex marriage.

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Sean Mandell

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