Mixed Messages: Supreme Court Denies Review of 'Ex-Gay' Therapy Ban, Trans Inmate's Surgery
The court’s action lets New Jersey’s ban on ‘ex-gay’ therapy stand, but ends a prisoner’s hope for gender-affirming surgery.
Trudy Ring
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What These Students Have Learned About Dating After 4 Years Of College
What These Students Have Learned About Dating After 4 Years Of College
For David Matteson, a sex columnist and graduating senior at Rollins College, four years of college has given him a new perspective on dating.
“I’ve realized a lot. I’ve gone through a really hard break-up and come out of that and realized, OK, I was so invested in this model for so long and I was seeking fulfillment in that way, and it just isn’t satisfying,” Matteson said in a recent HuffPost Live segment. “It produces so much anxiety in me. [I would ask], is he going to call? Are we going to be together? Are we going to get married? I spent so much of my time focusing my energy on that.”
One of the lessons Matteson learned: “The real loves were the people I became friends with. Those were the people who saw me through everything, and I’m so thankful for my friends.”
Fellow sex columnist Reina Gattuso said that her college experience has taught her how to tackle “awkward conversations” in a relationship and begin “advocating” for herself. The Harvard University senior said that friendships have become a priority for her as well.
“As I graduate, I’m so in love with my friends. I’m so in love with my roommates. I’m so in love with the people I interact with everyday in the dining hall,” Gattuso said, before joking, “Now my ideal relationship would be just some friends I can make out with occasionally, but we’ll see if that happens in the real world.”
Watch the full HuffPost Live conversation about college relationships here.
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Florida Competes: Working Toward Equality Hand-In-Hand with Religious Leaders
Florida Competes: Working Toward Equality Hand-In-Hand with Religious Leaders
Today, Field Organizer Javier Hernandez, discusses his work in Jacksonville, Florida.
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What Do You Do When Your Total Top Boyfriend Refuses To Bottom?
What Do You Do When Your Total Top Boyfriend Refuses To Bottom?
A gay man recently wrote into sex advice columnist Pamela Stephenson Connolly at the U.K.’s The Guardian about the frustrations he’s feeling over his total top boyfriend who absolutely refuses to bottom.
“I am a 28-year-old gay man,” the man writes. “In previous relationships I was — mainly — the top. I have been with my current partner for two years and in this relationship I have only been the bottom, as my partner has a fear of it.”
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“I am very frustrated, and have contemplated cheating, which fills me with guilt,” the man continues. “I love him very much, but feel as though we are incompatible on this basic level.”
That sounds like quite a predicament, and one many gay men have no doubt faced at some point in their lives. Luckily, Pamela Stephenson Connolly is an expert when it comes to these sorts of things.
“”Your feelings about sexual bottoming are perfectly valid,” she writes. “A conversation about fairness, in which you honestly express your feelings and ask for change, is needed.”
Connolly continues: “Try to delve into the metaphoric meanings of topping and bottoming for both of you. Once you feel truly understood, attempt to renegotiate that contract, expressing yourself calmly and clearly. If there is an impasse, discuss other options, including outside arrangements.”
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“But note,” Connolly concludes, “in consensual sex, the person bottoming is in control (psychologically topping, since he has the power to withdraw his permission). Do you really want to give that up?”
What advice would you give this man in dealing with his sexually stubborn boyfriend? Sound off in the comments section below.
Graham Gremore
WATCH: Kris Jenner Weeps About Bruce For Her Reality Show
WATCH: Kris Jenner Weeps About Bruce For Her Reality Show
Keeping Up With the Kardashians will, not surprisingly, milk much drama from Bruce Jenner’s transition.
Dawn Ennis
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Online Dating: Thoughts on the Second Date
Online Dating: Thoughts on the Second Date
Online dating is definitely a crapshoot – you’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs before finding your prince. So, what do you do when you think you’ve found him?
Well, dear reader, that brings us to the second date. You’ve made it past his psycho-dar, and you his, so when a second date is in the works, know that he’s just as interested as you are (if not more!).
The second date is, possibly, more important than the first. Your task is to continue crafting the narrative about yourself in an authentic way. That carefully written OkCupid profile with the hundreds of questions you’ve answered (honestly!) won’t mean anything unless it’s backed up by the way you present yourself on the second date.
This is your chance to relax a little, so drinks or an outdoor activity could be appropriate. Show off your impeccable taste in bars, cafés, parks, beaches, etc. Just don’t try to do too much at once; enjoy the moment with your newfound love interest and don’t be afraid to embrace spontaneity.
Oh, one last thing: wear something fun. Something you feel evokes your personal style while appropriately showing off that body you work hard to take care of. Am I right?
What are your go-to second date ideas?
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Trailblazer: Kit Williamson – 'I want to take a train across Europe for my honeymoon'
Trailblazer: Kit Williamson – 'I want to take a train across Europe for my honeymoon'
The newly-engaged Mad Men star reveals all about his life on the road with fiancee John Halbach, from a gay cruise in Mexico to pool-hanging in Palm Springs
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Five Things You Need To Know About Foster Care
Five Things You Need To Know About Foster Care
Foster home placements are temporary and they are absolutely critical to the well-being of children and youth.
HRC.org
News: Star Wars, James Dobson, Argentina, Ben Carson, Texas
News: Star Wars, James Dobson, Argentina, Ben Carson, Texas
Focus on the Family founder James Dobson says with marriage equality on the horizon, the “fall of Western civilization” is at hand.
Vanity Fair takes readers on the set of Star Wars: The Force Awakens in honor of Star Wars Day.
Prince William and Kate Middleton announce the name of their newborn princess – Charlotte Elizabeth Diana.
Bill Clinton blasts “political” attack on his family’s foundation, saying the group has never done anything “knowingly inappropriate” in accepting foreign donations, and insisting his high speaking fees are justified because, “I gotta pay our bills.”
D.C.’s bill banning discrimination against LGBT students attending religious schools becomes law.
Madonna throws more shade at Drake over their awkward Coachella kiss.
The 9 best moments from Ben Carson’s bizarre and glorious campaign launch/concert.
Argentina becomes first Latin American nation to recognize same-sex partners and a biological parent on a child’s birth certificate.
The Chicago Tribune‘s Eric Zorn on why he’s predicting a 9-0 pro-equality ruling from the Supreme Court. “Because, in the end, no one wants to be That Guy, I predict the U.S. Supreme Court will find some way this summer to rule unanimously that same-sex marriage is a constitutionally protected right…A 9-0 ruling tells America “move on, this issue is settled.” It enhances the legitimacy of the decision and, therefore, of the court itself while minimizing the potential for backlash.”
Lookie lookie at what carlyfiorina.org turns up.
Former CNN anchor Soledad O’Brien chastises media coverage of Baltimore. “For journalists to have a debate back and forth about thugs or thuggery is naive and misplaced. “Journalists should strive to use words to describe accurately what’s happening.”
The first official photo of the Suicide Squad cast is here.
The suspected gunmen in the Garland, Texas Muhammad cartoon attack have been identified. “The second shooter in the Garland, Texas, attack has been identified as Nadir Soofi, two law enforcement officials told CNN’s Pamela Brown. Soofi is the roommate of the other shooter, who was identified earlier as Elton Simpson. Soofi is not well-known to federal law enforcement and was not on the FBI radar, one of the officials said.”
Ben Carson to reschedule a planned trip to Iowa to say goodbye to his ailing mother.
Family Equality Council to launch National Foster Care Month campaign spotlighting discriminatory laws and highlighting stories from LGBTQ parents who have legally adopted and/or became foster parents.
Taylor Kinney talks about his proposal to Lady Gaga. ““I just knew. It wasn’t a lightbulb going off, it was in Manhattan. It was snowing, it was beautiful.”
Male model Monday: Spencer Burhoe.
Michelangelo Signorile on why the boycott against gay hoteliers Ian Reisner and Mati Weiderpass is a “watershed moment”. “We’ve got to make it clear to the enemies of equality that we are a force with increasing public support, moving full speed ahead and accepting nothing less than equality. We’ve demanded and received support from major corporations, who’ve put pressure on politicians to refrain from an anti-gay agenda. There thus can be no double standards. Now we must send a message to those among our own — particularly those of enormous privilege — who’ve succumbed to victory blindness and let them know that they too cannot support our enemies. No abject apology can undo the message that Reisner and Weiderpass have telegraphed to anti-LGBT forces in the GOP.”
Kansas Gov. Sam Brownback receives awesome receipt note from waitress who objects to his controversial school funding cuts.
Zac Efron shows off his guns while exercising on the beach.
All-women’s Smith College in Northampton, Massachusetts to begin accepting transgender students.
Kyler Geoffroy
LISTEN: Biden Says Marriage Equality Case Could Be Next Brown v. Board of Education
LISTEN: Biden Says Marriage Equality Case Could Be Next Brown v. Board of Education
Joe Biden is optimistic about the way the Supreme Court is going to rule on Obergefell v. Hodges.
Raffy Ermac
