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Man Reveals The Good And Bad About Having An Unusually Small Penis

Man Reveals The Good And Bad About Having An Unusually Small Penis

man-covering-crotch-3According to the all-knowing Wikipedia, a micropenis is an “unusually small penis” with an “erect penile length … smaller than about 7 cm (2 3/4 in).” It is a condition that affects about 0.6 percent of males and that is rarely ever talked about. Until now.

One brave man has opened about his life with a micropenis to New York Magazine during an in-depth interview, discussing everything from scarring sexual experiences, to experimenting with men, to the types of condoms he uses. The 51-year-old English teacher from the U.K. bared all — the good, the bad, and the ugly — about what it’s like having an infant-sized penis.

Here are a few highlights from the interview…

On when his penis stopped growing:

I was 14. Quite honestly, my entire life has been shaped and damaged by my penis size. I’m still not really over it, even though I’m way into middle age. I’ve had relationships, but they’ve never been terribly good, particularly not from my partner’s point of view. I always feel like I can’t do what I should be able to do as well as most people. That’s what I worry about. And doctors have never been any help.

On his first sexual experience:

It was traumatic. I was 21 and it was at a party. I’m very sociable and I love parties. This was a big house party and a lovely girl really took to me; she really enjoyed my conversation and she was the one who suggested to me that we go upstairs and find a bedroom. This had never happened before … She undressed and then she helped me undress, because I wasn’t very keen to take my clothes off. She started trying to get me hard because she couldn’t really see what was there. I guess she was hoping it would change, or get bigger. I did get semi-hard but it wasn’t enough and I couldn’t penetrate her … We got to a certain point and she couldn’t hide how disappointed she was. She was quite annoyed and I don’t blame her at all; to this day, I don’t blame her.

On actually losing his virginity:

It was great, even though it was also embarrassing. It was much better than the first time because the girl I was with was very experienced and knew how to deal with me; she just knew how to get what little I had to offer. She knew how to get that little thing inside her! She made the most of what I have. And she was sweet and lovely and laughed about it all and she was fascinated by how small it was. I had a relationship with her for almost a year. But she lost interest in having sex with me, she had other boyfriends, and eventually she became a lesbian.

On having penetrative sex:

It’s really very difficult. All the other things are fine: oral, manual and I have never got into all the additional things, the toys, the strap-ons and the vibrators. I don’t like it. I love bodies, touch and all those things are great, but full sex is something I just can’t do properly. My penis is just not big enough. When I’m having sex I’m always aware that she’s probably pretending to enjoy things more than she really is and the last woman I was with admitted that was true and that just stopped me dead. I knew it was true and of course it’s not her fault, it’s my fault.

On experimenting with men:

For a while I thought, It’s no good. I thought maybe I should just be gay — maybe I could just be a bitch to a gay man, I could take it up the ass. But I didn’t enjoy it very much and I realized I wasn’t gay. You’re either gay or you’re not; you can’t make yourself be gay. But I really liked the whole world of gay men and women — the scene, but not the sex. I did sleep with a few guys, though.

On when having a small penis works in his favor:

Oral sex. Giving it rather than receiving it. I’m often worried that women feel they have to return the favor, but I would need to be very thoroughly persuaded that any woman would really want to put my horrible little penis in her mouth, and then taste the result. I would like to think I might be good at other things — maybe as a gentle, miniature introduction to anal sex, but I have never had the nerve to ask if it might be wanted.

On warning his partners before hand about his micropenis:

I usually say, “I don’t think you’re going to be terribly impressed, but this is what I’ve got.”

On the last time he had sex:

Twenty-one months ago. February 2013.

On condoms:

When I was desperate to get into bed, to get into women, I was trying to find condoms that worked, but I still haven’t found one. You can get ones that are really small, but there’s so many sad stories of that. Oh no. There are small ones these days, but back then you couldn’t. It was one size fits all, and it didn’t. It didn’t fit at all by any means, and of course the few girls that I’ve known had practiced with their boyfriend the best way of putting on condoms, but when they met me and had to deal with me, it was just totally different. It’s not like a banana at all; it’s a little battery. All I can ever do is say “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.”

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Graham Gremore is a columnist and contributor for Queerty and Life of the Law. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter.

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Federal Judge Strikes Down Missouri's Gay Marriage Ban

Federal Judge Strikes Down Missouri's Gay Marriage Ban

Following a ruling late Wednesday which applied only to St. Louis, a federal judge has struck down Missouri’s gay marriage ban, the ACLU reports:

SmithU.S. District Court Judge Ortrie D. Smith ruled today that same-sex couples can obtain marriage licenses. This judgment strikes down Missouri’s 2004 constitutional amendment that excluded gay men and lesbians from marriage allowing Missouri to join the 32 states and the District of Columbia that issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

The ruling came in Lawson v. Jackson County, a lawsuit filed June 24 by the American Civil Liberties Union of Missouri (ACLU of Missouri) on behalf of two couples (Angela Curtis & Shannon McGinty and Kyle Lawson & Evan Dahlgren), who were denied marriage licenses earlier this year.

Said Jeffrey Mittman, executive director of the ACLU of Missouri:

“Today’s ruling affirms what the ACLU has always proclaimed—same-sex couples and their families should be treated just like any other loving family. Missouri will no longer categorically exclude gay men and lesbians from the institution of marriage—marriage is marriage, regardless of your sexual orientation.” 

Read the ruling HERE.


Andy Towle

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Golfer Patrick Reed Apologizes For Anti-Gay Slur, Foul Language

Golfer Patrick Reed Apologizes For Anti-Gay Slur, Foul Language
SHANGHAI (AP) — Patrick Reed hasn’t received this much attention since he pressed his finger to his lips in Scotland to quiet the Ryder Cup crowd. This time it was his own mouth that got the 24-year-old American into trouble when he berated himself with swearing and a gay slur.

Reed apologized on Friday for his outburst at the HSBC Champions, which was captured on live television during the opening round of a World Golf Championship. “Yesterday, I made a stupid error,” Reed said. “Sorry for definitely the words that I said and everything that went on. Never should have happened. Unfortunately, it happened to me and all I can do is just learn from it and move on, hopefully continue playing well and keep giving fans something to watch.”

He was on his 10th hole (No. 1) at Sheshan International in the opening round when he missed a 5-foot putt. Microphones caught him using the F-word twice and capping it off with another F-word — the gay slur — in a fit of rage over his three-putt bogey.

Golf Channel analyst Frank Nobilo immediately apologized to viewers. Reed didn’t even remember what he said until he was informed after the round, and the video clip began making its way across the Internet. Among those he sought out for advice was Bubba Watson, of all people.

Microphones also caught Watson using the F-word in the second round of the U.S. PGA Championship in August.

“He came to me last night and said that, ‘Hey, I did something bad,'” Watson said. “He showed me the clip. I said, ‘Yeah, that’s not good.’ That’s all I could say. … It’s sad it comes out, but just like I said before in my own personal problems, that’s how you learn from it. That’s how you become a better man, and that’s what I told him. ‘Your daughter is not old enough yet, but when your daughter gets older, you don’t want to speak out like that.’ And it’s the same thing with me.”

It was the second time in two weeks that a public figure in golf was swept up in emotion and wound up using offensive terms. Former PGA of America president Ted Bishop directed his “Lil Girl” comment at Ian Poulter.

“I’ve done it in the past. It’s difficult, isn’t it?” Poulter said. “The microphone is there, live TV, its broadcast around the world. We all make mistakes.”

Reed huddled with his handlers for about five minutes after his 73 on Friday before facing the media, answering every question with a mea culpa.

“It’s something not to be proud of, and something that you definitely can’t have happen,” Reed said. “Unfortunately, it got the best of me yesterday, and all I can do is not let it happen again.”

Players who use foul language are usually fined, although the PGA Tour does not disclose its disciplinary action. Graeme McDowell said he has received a text message from his mother when microphones catch him swearing.

“My mom is under some illusion that I don’t swear,” he said. “Like I say, golf is a four-letter word. It’s a frustrating sport. Yes, we use language that we shouldn’t on national television, but that’s the same in any sport.”

Reed’s outburst was more about the words, especially the gay slur, than the volume. He was playing with McDowell and Billy Horschel, and neither of them even heard it. Reed said it as he walked briskly to the hole after missing the short putt.

It happened about 1 p.m. on Thursday in China. McDowell didn’t know about it until he was watching the news Friday morning.

“Yes, he shouldn’t have said it. But is he unfairly dragged across the coals? Who knows? You could argue both sides of the story,” McDowell said. “I don’t have an opinion on it. Guys say things all the time out here.”

Reed blamed his choice of words on his passion, and he is not short on that. He first drew attention to himself at another World Golf Championship at Doral where he said he belonged among the top five players in the world after winning.

“The passion I have for the game is never going to change,” Reed said. “And the drive to play well and win is never going to change. It’s just if I’m ever going to get upset at myself, especially after a Ryder Cup and at the level of golf I’m playing nowadays, you can’t have outbursts. Unfortunately, I did, and happened to be on camera.”

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Kacey Musgraves' Pro-gay 'Follow Your Arrow' Wins CMA Country Song of the Year: VIDEO

Kacey Musgraves' Pro-gay 'Follow Your Arrow' Wins CMA Country Song of the Year: VIDEO

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At Wednesday night’s Country Music Awards, Kacey Musgraves hit “Follow Your Arrow” took home Song of the Year. 

The news was a big deal considering the song is an ode to personal freedom that tackles subjects not usually addressed in the world of country music:

Make lots of noise
Kiss lots of boys
Or kiss lots of girls
If that’s something you’re into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don’t
Just follow your arrow

Screen Shot 2014-11-07 at 8.37.54 AMThe significance of the song’s win wasn’t lost on Musgraves, who has in the past received conservative backlash for the pro-gay lyrics. 

“Do you guys realize what this means for country music?” she said in her acceptance speech on stage. 

Last year, Musgraves spoke with Pridesource about how she wants to see the country music industry to start acknowledging the gay community.

It never happens and I’m sick of it. It’s ridiculous. Whether or not you agree with gay marriage or the fact that people don’t choose to be gay, we share the same emotions, needs and wants. I just think that everyone should be included in that. It’s definitely time. 

Check out the music video for “Follow Your Arrow” AFTER THE JUMP

[photo via CMA Awards]

 


Kyler Geoffroy

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