Gay guys offer proof that ‘losing your hair is totally okay’

Three things in this life are certain: death, taxes, and male pattern baldness. And in case Dwayne Johnson and Boris Kodjoe aren’t proof enough that baldness is sexy, gay and bi Reddit users have been giving their takes.

Related: Young guys find bald men sexier and more dominant than guys with hair, study reveals

“I’m 25, and my crown is beginning to thin,” a Redditor wrote in a recent thread. “It’s happening very slowly for me, so I’m adjusting. … I know so many guys with little hair or bald on their head who are hot as hell. You know, I’ve even hooked up with some of them. It’s soooo much more about confidence. It’s totally possible to look nice with the hair situation you have. … I don’t know when it’ll happen to me, but it probably will. And you know what? My dog loves me just as much, I’m still just as good a worker and student, and I’m still sexy as hell to a lot of guys. I can grow a mean beard — I wouldn’t fuck that up for the world.”

He concluded:

“Remember, hair loss isn’t up to you, but how you deal with it is. …. You’re probably sexy as hell to a lot of people out there, hair, no hair, or somewhere in between.”

Commenters on the thread were quick to agree. “Thinking back, all of the men I have been physically involved with have had thinning hair or are bald,” one observed. “I guess I have a type, and I think there are a lot of us out there. Don’t spend two minutes worrying about it.”

Another said that he discovered his “hole-in-the-ozone-layer” bald patch last year. “I freaked… and did the only thing I could think of: I shaved it all off,” he wrote. “Now I’m bald, goatee-bearded and could not love it more. There were jokes, of course: I do kind of resemble Ming the Merciless if I arch my eyebrows right. But I also received a ton of compliments.”

Related: PHOTOS: Guys with receding hairlines are sexy as hell

“I think bald/balding men are hot!” a different commenter wrote. “And I’m definitively not the only one.”

And then there’s this gem of a comment: “My hair doesn’t look that great anyway so I’m fine with balding.”

So take heart, bald and balding men: To a lot of guys, your chrome dome is a huge selling point!

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World Pride 2023 Site Down to 3 Cities, Incl. Red State Metropolis

New York’s event this year was a hit, and Copenhagen will host the 2021 festivities.

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Woman with a hunch friend’s husband is gay gets perfectly told off by advice columnist

Carolyn Hax offers readers of The Washington Post with compassionate, thoughtful guidance to life’s many complicated social dilemmas.

But one concerned woman got the advice-column equivalent of “STFU.”

Seeking suggestions on how to deal with her friend’s possibly-gay husband, the woman wrote:

Many think my best friend “Sara” has it all: four adorable children, a successful husband (“Jim”), and a beautiful home. Jim is an absolute dear, but here’s the thing. I think he’s gay.

Recently, I sat down with Sara and shared my hunch. True to form, she listened attentively and thanked me for my concern.

But since then, Sara has not mentioned our conversation about her husband’s sexuality. I am concerned she is in denial. How should I gently revisit the topic?

Carolyn wasn’t having it, and good on Carolyn. This woman’s “hunch” is hardly enough to warrant inserting yourself into someone’s marriage. Talk to us when you see the Grindr icon hidden on the 6th page of his apps.

But the advice columnist took it one step further, suggesting the woman was the one who needed help, not her friend “Sara.”

Here’s how she responded:

Never. Not gently, not roughly, not with discreet tactical brilliance, not ever. That’s how.

And if there were such a thing as boundary school, I’d sentence you to it. Because, oh my wow. This is so not your business.

With the benefit of all doubts firmly in place, I’ll venture you just really want your friend to be happy. And that’s great. But if your idea of helping her be happy includes a first step of having to persuade her that she’s unhappy, then that’s your flashing red railroad-crossing barrier, your Do Not Disturb hang-tag, your singing telegram reminding you to butt the heck (and everything else) out. If your friend wants your help, she can ask.

And while I’m here: No one, anywhere, ever, has it “all.”

For more, much more, of Carolyn Hax’s no-nonsense advice, read to your heart’s content.

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