Bi guys in opposite-sex relationships talk about desire for men

In a new Reddit thread, a bi guy who is married to a woman asks his fellow bisexual brethren how they get cope with their homosexual urges.

“I’m a hetero-leaning bisexual man in an opposite-sex relationship,” the post begins. “Most of my sexual urges are currently for women, but I’m aware of some desires for men. They’re not strong enough for me to want an open relationship, and my main sexual priority is my love life with my wife. But my fantasies and porn consumption cover the full Kinsey scale. That’s about all I need to scratch my ‘homo itch.’”

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The man continues: “I know that most bi guys are in opposite-sex relationships. But I’m curious about those who are in same-sex relationships — how do they scratch their “hetero itch?” Watch straight porn (there are a surprising number of gay-identified men who do)? Arrange for the occasional threesome? Get a Fleshlight? Just ogle women?”

Now, let’s dig into some of the responses.

For one guy, it’s all about porn consumption:

I’m a bi guy married to a man. There are definitely times when I want nothing more than to fuck a girl, but we are monogamous and that’s what works for us. But to help me ‘scratch the itch’ as you put it, I watch straight porn and solo girl porn. Also I have a fleshlight. … I admit it’s tough, and it can be a little frustrating sometimes, but I love my husband and we just don’t think poly would work for us. We have been together for 12 years now and I had girlfriends and boyfriends before him on and off.

For another, it’s about not indulging in fantasies:

If I tell my husband that I had a straight sex dream, or that I feel like having sex with a woman today, he’s like “challenge accepted!” Seriously though, fluidity has been a serious problem in all my relationships except this one, and I attribute this, in part, to my not looking at any straight porn. Sometimes I see a pretty lady or start looking at bi porn and think “Nope! Avert your eyes!”

Related: Boy George keeps Tweeting bisexual jokes, and people are calling him “biphobic”

One guy uses dating apps:

Ugh, it’s not easy, compared to men hahahah. I’ve had great luck with the website fetlife.com. Lots of women, the site is specificity about sex and the kink community, so open relationships, bisexuality and such is “small potatoes” to these people. I also say it right out on my tinder “in an open relationship, looking for good meaningful hookups with people whom I connect with.” Be upfront, have it advertised, let them make their own choices, you’ll be surprised how many match with you.

And for another, it’s all about creating a open relationship that works for everyone:

I’m in a polyamorous relationship with strict boundaries. We all have to agree before someone decides to date someone else. They have to be known clean for STI’s and have known them long enough to be trustworthy. Our gf has a bf and a gf. My bf has a gf. And we are always upfront about how we feel.

Related: 1 in 5 straight men watch man-on-man adult videos, riveting new study confirms

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FBI Arrests Wife of Orlando Shooter Omar Mateen

The FBI has arrested Noor Salman, the wife of Omar Mateen, who killed 49 people on June 12 at the Pulse nightclub, the NYT reports:

[Salman] was taken into custody by F.B.I. agents at her home outside of San Francisco. Prosecutors had been weighing charges against her in the aftermath of the attack that killed 49 people and wounded dozens. A person familiar with details of the arrest said Ms. Salman was charged with obstruction…

…Investigators interviewed Ms. Salman for hours after the attack and came to believe she was not telling the truth about her husband’s plans to carry out the rampage.

Salman is expected to appear in federal court on Tuesday.

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Trump Hotel in D.C. Met with Protests (Video)

The new hotel is a focus of protests in D.C.

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Peter Thiel sold his soul to Trump and all he got was this embarrassing hand fondle

Among the many dreadful side effects of Donald Trump’s election is the growing prominence of Peter Thiel. The Facebook billionaire has always been a wellspring of weirdness, but now he has power that far outstrips his Silicon Valley wealth. He placed a bet on Trump when the candidate was still a long shot, and his bet paid off big time. Since Trump values loyalty above all other qualities (including integrity and honesty), Thiel is now gunning for a position of influence within the presidential inner circle.

So much so that at an extremely awkward meeting of liberal-leaning tech giants after the election at Trump tower, Trump kept awkwardly fondling Thiel’s hand as an awkward sign of affection for the country’s only prominent openly gay Trump supporter.

In essence, Thiel sold his soul for a hand job.

Thiel has always been more concerned about mortality (or at least ending it) than morality, so it’s difficult to know whether he even considers selling his soul a legitimate concern. But what is clear from his recent interview with The New York Times is that Thiel is playing a long game, and Trump is merely a convenient vehicle.

“Everyone says Trump is going to change everything way too much,” Thiel said. “Well, maybe Trump is going to change everything way too little. That seems like the much more plausible risk to me.”

While Thiel relies on cryptic remarks so much that he sounds like he’s auditioning for the role of Yoda, his focus is clear. He wants a different political system altogether, an awfully radical idea for one of the people who has most benefited from the current one.

“The election had an apocalyptic feel to it,” he acknowledged to the Times‘ Maureen Dowd. “There was a way in which Trump was funny, so you could be apocalyptic and funny at the same time. It’s a strange combination, but it’s somehow very powerful psychologically.”

Most people don’t view the apocalypse as a laugh riot. But Thiel holds views that are blissfully at odds with our current democracy. His vendetta against Gawker was a signal that someone with deep pockets can ruin a media outlet over a story that had nothing to do with him. More to the point, Thiel has expressed the belief that he does not believe that “freedom and democracy are compatible.”

If that means rampant conflict of interest and even corruption, who cares? For Thiel, high ethical performance (such a President Obama’s) is a sign that something is terribly wrong: “There’s a point where no corruption can be a bad thing. It can mean that things are too boring.” Conflict of interest doesn’t bother him either: “I think in many cases, when there’s a conflict of interest, it’s an indication that someone understands something way better than if there’s no conflict of interest.”

That’s just plain scary: A seeming open invitation to the worst people in the world to run our country.

The real question is how much influence Thiel will have on his hand-holding pal Trump. The president elect is notorious for running with the opinion of the last person he talked with. He has no fixed opinion, other than the esteem with which he holds himself. That’s what makes him so dangerous. And while Thiel has described himself as a kind of firewall between the LGBTQ community and Trump’s far right minions, there is nothing so far to indicate he has that kind of influence–or willingness to stand up for anything other than another big Republican tax cut for the already rich. Will he stand up for his gay male brothers with HIV who may lose the pre-existing condition exemption in Obamacare that many Republicans have pledged to eliminate (in a few weeks from now). Not a word so far. In fact, Trump’s would-be cabinet is already stacked with more antigay activists than any since time since Reagan.

But equality does not seem like Thiel’s goal anyway. He has very firm opinions, many of them radical. (Poor people with similar opinions would be called uneducated crackpots.)

Trump wants to rig the system for himself. Thiel wants to blow it up. To fulfill that wish, Thiel is willing to make merry with some of the most reactionary segments of society, including the Mercer family, hedge fund billionaires who have spent tens of millions of dollars bankrolling the campaigns of some of the most conservative candidates in the country.

If you think being gay is a mitigating circumstance for Thiel, you’d be wrong. He thinks the potential for a backlash against gay rights from the likes of Trump’s cabinet is overrated: “People know too many gay people.” As for Mike Pence, who wore his homophobia with pride throughout his political career, Thiel is la-de-da. “You know, maybe I should be worried, but I’m not that worried.”

As for all the rest of us who aren’t protected by vast wealth and access to the corridors of power–we are indeed worried. Very worried. But in Thiel’s up side down universe, we’re the aggressors, not the target. “For speaking at the Republican convention, I got attacked way more by liberal gay people than by conservative Christian people,” he told The Times. Perhaps, Peter, that’s because you are working with and for “conservative Christian people” who are working against us.

We’ve hardly heard the end of Thiel. The sad part is that he’s just gotten a much bigger platform for his corrosive ideas. Just don’t look for any signs of a soul as he’s spreading them.

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Mike Pence Defends Trump Attacks on John Lewis, Says He’s ‘Deeply Disappointed’ by the Civil Rights Icon: WATCH

On FOX News Sunday, Mike Pence defended remarks made by Donald Trump about Rep. John Lewis. Lewis said in an interview published Friday that he does not consider Trump a “legitimate” president and believes his election was a “conspiracy” on the part of the Russians.

Trump in turn attacked Lewis on Twitter, calling the civil rights icon, who had his head cracked open as he walked across the Pettus Bridge in Selma on Bloody Sunday, “all talk, no action.”

RELATED: Donald Trump Attacks Civil Rights Icon John Lewis for Questioning His Legitimacy as President-Elect: WATCH

Talking Points Memo reports:

Pence said in an interview on “Fox News Sunday” that he has “great respect” for Lewis but was “deeply disappointed” in his comments.

“I was deeply disappointed to see someone of his stature question the legitimacy of Donald Trump’s election as president and say he’s not attending the inauguration,” Pence said. “I hope he reconsiders both positions.”

Pence argued that Lewis’ remarks were “an act of irresponsibility” and Trump “has the right to defend himself,” according to Fox News’ writeup of the interview.

Added Pence:

“I think — I think Donald Trump has the right to defend himself.  When someone of John Lewis’ stature, someone who is not only an icon in the civil rights movement, but also someone who by virtue of his sacrifice on that day that we know as Bloody Sunday, he crossed the Edmund Pettus Bridge and he suffered that abuse and it was — it was true that that the voting rights — for someone to use his stature to use terms like this is not a legitimate president, it’s just — it’s just deeply disappointing to me, and I hope he reconsiders it.

“But what Donald Trump was talking about their was literally generations of failed policies coming out of Washington, D.C., that have failed to many families and too many cities across this country.  I will tell you, Donald Trump is a man who is profoundly impatient with failure.”

Watch:

Today, Lewis honored Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was my friend, my mentor; he was like a big brother.

— John Lewis (@repjohnlewis) January 16, 2017

Dr. King taught us to recognize the dignity and worth of every human being. He was the moral compass of our nation. #IHaveADream

— John Lewis (@repjohnlewis) January 16, 2017

He marched for us. #goodtrouble pic.twitter.com/ulzC3CBAeh

— John Lewis (@repjohnlewis) January 16, 2017

He protested for us. #goodtrouble pic.twitter.com/DDkjh7USxD

— John Lewis (@repjohnlewis) January 16, 2017

He went to jail for us. #goodtrouble pic.twitter.com/saHB1WsfbV

— John Lewis (@repjohnlewis) January 16, 2017

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Transgender Model Will Be Included in Top Indian Fashion Show for First Time

In a first, a transgender model will walk the runway during Mumbai’s Lakmé Fashion Week next month. Anjali Lama, 32, is a Nepalese model who had initially tried out for the show last year. This year, she will be included in the lineups for various top designers in shows running from February 1 to 5.

Jointly organized by India’s top cosmetics company and IMG Reliance, a chapter of leading global entertainment firm IMG Worldwide, the twice-yearly event is a showcase for the Indian fashion industry, and this move signals broader mainstream inclusion for transgender persons in a region still relatively new to LGBT acceptance.

Nepal’s Supreme Court ruled in 2007 in favor of gender identity selection by its citizens, and in 2015 the country began issuing passports that permitted a third gender in line with its new constitution. For its part, India allots transgender identity among its official quotas in hiring and elsewhere, while the country’s iconic Bollywood scene has recently highlighted transgender performers.

Lama herself appreciates the contemporary cultural shift towards wider tolerance that have come since the beginning of her journey:

“It wasn’t easy for me in the early days when there was so much rejection and discrimination . . . Now I am getting an overwhelming response from the fashion industry after being selected, and other transgender people tell me they are proud of me.” . . . Lama joined a modeling academy in Kathmandu, but did not come out to her family. When someone from her village found out Lama was living as a transgender woman and told her family, they cut ties with her and told her that she had let them down. “My mother, to some extent, was more accepting but there really wasn’t much awareness then,” Lama said. “There is more awareness and acceptance now in Nepal, and that has helped more people like me to come out,” she said.

Meanwhile, the fashion head for IMG Reliance, Jaspreet Chandok, cites Lama’s inclusion as a development specifically aimed at broader awareness, in order to “take these conversations forward, shining light on some these issues and bringing them to the national consciousness.”

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Bayard Rustin Was Here

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LGBT成人式に180人 「ありのままの自分」祝福
性的少数者（ＬＧＢＴ）らのための「成人式」が１５日、東京都内で開かれた。様々な「性」を自認する約１８０人が集い、「ありのままの自分」を祝福しあった。

もっと見る: LGBT成人式, ライフスタイル, Lifestyle, Lgbt, Japan News

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Inauguration Singer Will Perform for All America, Says Trans Sister

“Jackie is singing for our country,” says Jackie Evancho’s transgender sister, Juliet.

www.advocate.com/politics/2017/1/15/inauguration-singer-will-perform-all-america-says-trans-sister