Lady Chablis, Trans Icon and Savannah's Grand Empress, Dead at 59
“The Doll” became famous after charming audiences in Clint Eastwood’s 1997 film Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil.
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She Watched Her Boyfriend Have Sex With A Guy. Now, The Spark Is Gone.
Sometimes an open mind is all you need to tear your life asunder. A young woman thought she’d see how the swinging side lives, and found herself in gooey unchartered territory that turned her every waking moment into a steamy cesspool of uncertainty.
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Seeking out advice on Reddit, a certain Forreasons-throwaway sings her song of woe. Take it away, “Forreasons-throwaway”:
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Our relationship, in general, is really good. He suggested a MMF threesome, saying that he would like to also try things with the other guy. We did it. The threesome was going really well at first but at one point the guy we did it with engaged my boyfriend in anal sex. I had no idea that my boyfriend wanted it to go that far and it was a huge shock to me – I thought he only wanted to try soft-core type stuff. Seeing him in that position… was quite unattractive to say the least. I am having a lot of trouble seeing him the same way I saw him beforehand and I really need some advice.”
They wanted to try this experiment with a stranger, so they found a guy online. Things started off awkward, then they got hot. And then they got soul-bendingly awkward.
“It became clear that John was trying to have anal sex with him,” she writes. “It was at this point that my bf rolled off me onto the bed beside me. I expected him to be angry, but he simply laid back with his eyes tightly closed…. As it went on, my boyfriend just pulled me really tightly to his chest and made quiet grunts until John finished.”
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Things have changed. Now she feels “really conflicted.” She didn’t think he was “that type of guy.” It’s all been “incredibly jarring”.
“Seeing him laying there on his back, quietly moaning, while being penetrated by another guy… it was just… not attractive?”
(Are you sure…?)
Now it’s been three weeks and she “can’t get the memories out of my head.” She’s having trouble seeing him the way she used to. As Bat For Lashes once asked, What’s a girl to do?
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As you might have predicted, Reddit commentators had much to say. (The post has been locked due to the overwhelming amount of comments that broke Reddit rules.)
“Bad communication led you and him there,” scolds LV106.
Invader_zero agrees. “You really should have discussed boundaries before you did anything.”
“If you leave him just known that you’re not wrong for doing so,” says WillWorkForLTC.
“It comes off to me as a little homophobic,” says wantsemall. “Sort of a ‘oh, he’s not one of those kinds’ vibe. There might be a good opportunity here for you to unpack how you feel about that.”
“This is one of those really, really normal pitfalls encountered by people who are first trying nonmonogamy,” writes andthecrash. “Did he have the anal sex planned in advance? If so, he should have communicated that better to you.”
On and on.
Anyway. Obviously threesomes can be consciousness-raising adventures in self-exploration and even reinvigorate a relationship that’s getting a little pain-by-numbers. They can also be meh, whut, or blecch. And sometimes they’re a good way to weed out garden-variety narcissists and sociopaths, who can be relied upon to use triangulation as an airy ploy to keep themselves at the center of attention and turn everyone into a big mess.
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High School Senior’s Fierce Yearbook Photo Goes Viral
Libertarian Candidate Gary Johnson Appears Confused, Incoherent in Lobby After Aleppo Gaffe – WATCH
Libertarian presidential nominee Gary Johnson appeared incoherent and confused when questioned in the lobby of Rockefeller Center immediately following his “What is Aleppo?” interview on Morning Joe.
As previously reported, when asked by journalist Mike Barnicle about the situation in Aleppo, Johnson responded with a question of his own: “What is Aleppo?”
That left Barnicle and anyone watching stunned. “You’re kidding,” Barnicle replied.
After Johnson explained that he wasn’t kidding, Barnicle explained, “Aleppo is in Syria. It’s the epicenter of the refugee crisis.”
Following that interview, Bloomberg Politics reporters and With All Due Respect host Mark Halperin got a hold of Johnson to try and get some clarification from Johnson.
Halperin asked Johnson, “Is it a gotcha thing?…In retrospect do you know it?” It being Aleppo.
Johnson’s response was meandering and not entirely cogent:
“Well, when you recognize what’s going in in Syria, when you recognize that Aleppo is in the kind of in the epicenter–Aleppo! Not knowing that there’s a city in between the two forces really at the epicenter of the–but not remembering or identifying that that’s Aleppo, guilty.”
Halperin again tried for clarification: “But in retrospect, is this a town you know?”
Johnson dodged that question and instead went into a story about a similar incident that happened to him when he was running for Governor of New Mexico.
Johnson added, “I’m incredibly frustrated with myself.” Johnson also conceded that his “What is Aleppo?” comment should be considered a big flap. “I understand the significance,” Johnson said. “No one is taking this more seriously than me. I feel horrible.”
As for what will happen next, Johnson told Halperin, “I have to get smarter. And that’s just part of the process.”
When asked if he has heard from his running mate Bill Weld following his Morning Joe appearance, Johsnon was confused. He asked Halperin,”Regarding?”
“This,” Halperin replied.
Johnson didn’t seem to get why he might have heard from Weld.
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Star Trek’s Chris Pine Beams Up a Few Thoughts on Gay Sulu: ‘Amen…It’s About F–king Time’
Chris Pine talks to The Hollywood Reporter about Star Trek Beyond‘s gay Sulu controversy in its September 16 issue.
Said Pine to the magazine:
“Amen, man. It’s about f—ing time. The fact that there’s still a conversation about it means that there’s still room to go in terms of it being normalized….My only rebuttal to George Takei — no matter what kind of creative differences he had about Sulu being gay, and I can understand his creative differences — is the fact that our job is to make people feel less alone. If there’s one kid in Middle America who feels any amount of self-loathing because he feels different, or is being bullied because he feels different or looks different or sounds different, if our film can give him solace and make him or her feel less alone, then abso-effin-loutely we should do it all the time, every day of the week.”
After news emerged in July that John Cho’s Sulu would be revealed as gay, George Takei, who played Mr. Sulu in the original series, called it a “really unfortunate” turn of events.
Takei told The Hollywood Reporter that he had tried to convince Pegg and director Justin Lin that it was a bad idea.
“I told him, ‘Be imaginative and create a character who has a history of being gay, rather than Sulu, who had been straight all this time, suddenly being revealed as being closeted,” said Takei.
Takei’s statements caused immediate reaction from screenwriter Simon Pegg, who also plays Scotty, who said he “respectfully disagreed” with Takei, and Zachary Quinto, who plays Spock, who said he was “disappointed” by Takei’s reaction.
Pegg expressed sympathy with Takei’s sentiment that mainstream gay heroes were belatedly coming to the big screen, but rejected the idea that this meant a new character needed creating.
“He’s right, it is unfortunate, it’s unfortunate that the screen version of the most inclusive, tolerant universe in science fiction hasn’t featured an LGBT character until now. We could have introduced a new gay character, but he or she would have been primarily defined by their sexuality, seen as the ‘gay character’, rather than simply for who they are, and isn’t that tokenism?”
Pegg continued: “Justin Lin, Doug Jung and I loved the idea of it being someone we already knew because the audience have a pre-existing opinion of that character as a human being, unaffected by any prejudice. Their sexual orientation is just one of many personal aspects, not the defining characteristic. Also, the audience would infer that there has been an LGBT presence in the Trek Universe from the beginning (at least in the Kelvin timeline), that a gay hero isn’t something new or strange. It’s also important to note that at no point do we suggest that our Sulu was ever closeted, why would he need to be? It’s just hasn’t come up before.”
Added Pegg: “The viewing audience weren’t open minded enough at the time and it must have forced Roddenberry to modulate his innovation. His mantra was always ‘infinite diversity in infinite combinations’. If he could have explored Sulu’s sexuality with George, he no doubt would have. Roddenberry was a visionary and a pioneer but we choose our battles carefully.”
Takei has since set the record straight about his thoughts:
Good morning from Montana! I’ve been here relaxing on vacation, but have noticed that many of you have been following the “gay Sulu” story and wanted to know why I’m being such a sourpuss. I’m writing to set the record “straight,” if you will.
When the news first broke, I gave a lengthy telephone interview, but the headlines have been misleading. Apparently, controversy makes for better sales! Let me be clear: I am not disappointed that there is a gay character in Star Trek. On the contrary, as I made clear, I am delighted that the Star Trek franchise has addressed this issue, which is truly one of diversity. It is thrilling to know that future generations will not see LGBTs go wholly unrepresented in the Trek universe.
On the specific question of Sulu being gay, when I was first approached with the concept, I responded that I hoped instead that Gene Roddenberry’s original characters and their backgrounds would be respected. How exciting it would be instead if a new hero might be created, whose story could be fleshed out from scratch, rather than reinvented. To me, this would have been even more impactful. While I understand that we are in an alternate timeline with the new Trek movies, for me it seemed less than necessary to tinker with an existing character in order to fulfill Gene’s hope of a truly diverse Trek universe. And while I am flattered that the character of Sulu apparently was selected as an homage to me, this was never about me or what I wanted. It was about being true to Gene’s vision and storytelling.
Gene had wanted long ago to include LGBT characters, and we spoke personally and specifically about the lack of them. Gene understandably felt constrained by the sensitivities of the time. Some fifty years ago, even TV’s first interracial kiss, between Kirk and Uhura, caused our ratings to plummet as the show was censored across much of the South for that scene. Gene made a conscious decision to make the main characters heterosexual, and worked within those parameters to tell incredible stories that still challenged many cultural values of the time. So the lack of gay characters was not some oversight by him; it was a conscious decision with which he grappled. I loved Gene as a friend, and I respected his decision and the context under which he created these stories. On this 50th year anniversary of Star Trek, my hope was to honor his foresight and bravery, as well as his ability to create discussion and diversity despite these constraints.
But Star Trek has always pushed the boundaries and opened new opportunities for actors, including myself. I am eternally grateful to have been part of this incredible and continuing family. I wish John Cho well in the role I once played, and congratulate Simon Pegg on his daring and groundbreaking storytelling. While I would have gone with the development of a new character in this instance, I do fully understand and appreciate what they are doing—as ever, boldly going where no one has gone before. Star Trek will live long and prosper.
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Jeffrey Tambor Said a Man Came After Him in the Airport Over His Role in ‘Transparent’ – WATCH
Jeffrey Tambor told Seth Meyers on last night’s Late Night with Seth Meyers that he was getting off a plane in the airport when a man pointed, approached him, and grabbed him because of his role as transgender matriarch Maura Pfeffermen in Transparent.
Tambor says he thought the man was going to “lay [him] out” and was surprised when after being grabbed the man said, “Thank you. Thank you for teaching me about something I did not know.”
Adds Tambor:
“The world is changing. They’re not going to stand for this hatred. They’re not going to stand for this nonsense and this misgendering and all of this crap. It’s a brand new world.”
Watch:
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HRC to Host Larry Tye for Book Signing of “Bobby Kennedy: The Making of a Liberal Icon”
On Monday, Sept. 12 HRC will host a lecture and book signing with New York Times bestselling author Larry Tye on his latest book Bobby Kennedy: The Making of a Liberal Icon, which will also be for sale and signing at the event.
Join us from 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. in HRC’s Equality Center. The event is free and open to all HRC supporters and friends, and a reception with light refreshments will follow. Click here to learn more and RSVP.
From Random House publishing:
“History remembers Robert F. Kennedy as a racial healer, a tribune for the poor, and the last progressive knight of a bygone era of American politics. But Kennedy’s enshrinement in the liberal pantheon was actually the final stage of a journey that had its beginnings in the conservative 1950s. In Bobby Kennedy, Larry Tye peels away layers of myth and misconception to paint a complete portrait of this singularly fascinating figure.
To capture the full arc of his subject’s life, Tye draws on unpublished memoirs, unreleased government files, and fifty-eight boxes of papers that had been under lock and key for the past forty years. He conducted hundreds of interviews with RFK intimates—including Bobby’s widow, Ethel, his sister Jean, and his aide John Siegenthaler—many of whom have never spoken to another biographer. Tye’s determination to sift through the tangle of often contradictory opinions means that Bobby Kennedy will stand as the definitive one-volume biography of a man much beloved, but just as often misunderstood.
Bobby Kennedy’s transformation from cold warrior to fiery liberal is a profoundly moving personal story that also offers a lens onto two of the most chaotic and confounding decades of twentieth-century American history. The first half of RFK’s career underlines what the country was like in the era of Eisenhower, while his last years as a champion of the underclass reflect the seismic shifts wrought by the 1960s. Nurtured on the rightist orthodoxies of his dynasty-building father, Bobby Kennedy began his public life as counsel to the red-baiting senator Joseph McCarthy. He ended it with a noble campaign to unite working-class whites with poor blacks and Latinos in an electoral coalition that seemed poised to redraw the face of presidential politics. Along the way, he turned up at the center of every event that mattered, from the Bay of Pigs and the Cuban Missile Crisis to race riots and Vietnam.
Bare-knuckle operative, cynical White House insider, romantic visionary—Bobby Kennedy was all of these things at one time or another, and each of these aspects of his personality emerges in the pages of this powerful and perceptive new biography.”
2016 LGBTQIA & Friends Welcome Reception
Loyola University Chicago posted a photo:
Loyola University Chicago students gather at the LGBTQIA welcome reception in Damen MPR. (photo Katie Wall)
Tim Tebow, Colonel Sanders, Ryan Lochte, Earpiece, Nancy Pelosi, Danny Amendola, Indianapolis: HOT LINKS
MARSIA MALSAR. Paralympian carrying torch at Rio 2016 falls, gets up to wild ovation.
THOSE DAMN EMAILS. FBI Director James Comey defends Clinton email decision to employees: “‘Those suggesting that we are ‘political’ or part of some ‘fix’ either don’t know us, or they are full of baloney (and maybe some of both).’He said the ultimate decision not to recommend charges ‘was not a cliffhanger; despite all the chest-beating by people no longer in the government, there really wasn’t a prosecutable case.’”
JAMES WOODS. Actor launches latest Clinton conspiracy theory with tweet.
Earpiece? #CrookedHillary pic.twitter.com/6LqxRGTgA5
— James Woods (@RealJamesWoods) September 8, 2016
NANCY PELOSI. Democrats could take the House. “I thought in December I would’ve told you we’d win 20 seats, left to our own devices,” a relaxed and upbeat Pelosi said Wednesday in a Playbook Interview in her Capitol office. “Seeing the behavior of the [GOP] presidential candidates right after that when the debates [happened], I became even more optimistic because they were so pathetic … Since then, I think anything is possible. I think it comes down to probably a single digit, one way or another.”
RYAN LOCHTE. US Olympic committee suspends Ryan Lochte for 10 months, other swimmers for 4 months.
JUST IN: U.S. Olympic Committee suspends Ryan Lochte for 10 months. Bentz, Conger and Feigen suspended for 4 months. pic.twitter.com/fslsEwGx7N
— ABC News (@ABC) September 8, 2016
SOUTH AFRICA. Homophobic US pastor Steven Anderson goes after Home Affairs Minister Malusi Gigaba: “Around 7,000 people signed an online petition calling on Home Affairs to stop Anderson promoting hate speech in the country. Gigaba recently set conditions for the Faithful Word Baptist Church minister’s visit to the country but the conditions have been met with contempt. Anderson has hit out at Gigaba, saying the minister only gave false hope to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex community who had called for government to deny him entry into the country. ‘If he was going to ban me, he would have done it months ago, he is just stringing these sodomites along and it is funny how they don’t get the hint’ Anderson said in a video recorded while he was driving kids in his car.”
UNITED ARAB EMIRATES. Sex changes now legal? “Under article 7 of the law governing healthcare, doctors can now perform sex change operations so long as there are “psychological” and “physiological” signs of gender and sex disparity. The law also requires that the patient undergoing sex change surgery receive mental health care to“psychologically prepare” patients for the transition. ”
JENNIFER FINNEY BOYLAN. Lessons from a life in two genders.
IT GETS BETTER? Maybe not. “A major study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has revealed that, for high schoolers, that narrative simply isn’t true. In August, the C.D.C. released the results of a national survey of about 15,600 students, grades nine through 12, to better understand high-risk behaviors among that demographic. It is one of the most comprehensive studies of gay and lesbian teenagers’ well-being to date. (The survey does not yet include an option to identify as transgender or nonbinary.) It confirmed what had long been suspected but was perhaps lost in all the excitement over the gains being made: that sexual-minority youth still face challenges their straight peers do not.”
DANNY AMENDOLA. More of the Patriots Wide Receiver here.
INDIANAPOLIS. 501 Eagle gay bar to close. “It’s time for my wife, Margie, and I to retire. The 501 Eagle (Tavern) will close forever Oct 15, 2016. Until then we will be open 7 days a week doing blue lite specials on all drinks. It’s been a great 22 year run. Thanks for all your business. Tom n Margie”
TIM TEBOW. The New York Mets just signed him to a minor league contract.
We have signed OF @TimTebow to a minor league contract. He will participate in the #Mets Instructional League. pic.twitter.com/I6gmW0b6hY
— New York Mets (@Mets) September 8, 2016
DOLLY PARTON. 40 reasons why she’s a groundbreaking genius.
KFC. Say hi to the new Colonel Sanders, Rob Riggle. “Riggle, who is best known for acting as a correspondent on the Daily Show and a cast member on Saturday Night Live, follows in the footsteps of a number of other comedians tapped to play the Colonel since Darrell Hammond brought the founder back from the dead in May 2015. Norm Macdonald, Jim Gaffigan, and most recently, George Hamilton have all appeared as Colonel Sanders in KFC advertising over the last year.”
THIRSTY THURSDAY. Taiwanese go-go dancer Kuan Jiang.
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‘Hamilton’ Star Javier Muñoz Channels ‘Clueless’ and More in Lost Audition Tape – WATCH
“Clueless is everything. That’s it.”
Javier Muñoz, the new star of Hamilton, is no stranger to stepping into roles originated by iconic actors. After all, it was just this summer that Muñoz took over the titular role in Hamilton for Lin-Manuel Miranda, who created and launched the Broadway juggernaut as its star.
In a “lost audition tape” created for Vanity Fair, Muñoz now tackles even more famous roles played by famous actors, recreating characters from Taxi Driver, Clueless, Pulp Fiction, The Dark Knight, House of Cards, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, and more.
Watch, below.
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