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Pride and Sleepiness
What Exactly Is The Protocol After Hooking Up With A Straight Guy?
What Exactly Is The Protocol After Hooking Up With A Straight Guy?
A gay man who claims to have hooked up with a straight guy on his birthday wonders what he should do now that the candles have been blown out and the cake has been eaten. So, naturally, he’s turning to the Reddit community for guidance.
“I went out with some friends to a straight dive bar,” the birthday boy explains. “This guy approached me to wish me a happy birthday … and I decided to be flirty even though I was out of my element.”
Wait a minute. A gay man going to a straight dive bar for to celebrate his birthday? Is anyone else’s suspicions raised by this?
Related: “Straight” Guys Are Having More Bisexual Sex Than Ever Before, Study Finds
The birthday boy continues: “We were chit chatty throughout the night as he was flirting with a couple girls in the bar. At one point I decided to be competitive with this girl who was kinda throwing herself at him … and suddenly his attention started shifting to me.”
After some witty banter and suggestive body language, the alleged straight dude looked deep into the birthday boy’s eyes and said: “You’re with me tonight,” then suggested he join him back at his place, which was conveniently located within walking distance of the bar.
The birthday boy, who insists he’s never been “the type that’s obsessed with straight guys,” agreed.
“On the way up the stairs he tells me ‘I’m not really used to this,’ which kinda caught me off guard,” the birthday boy says. “As soon as the door closes to his apartment, he starts kissing me. We head back to his bed and things escalate from there. The whole time he was the pursuer. He always decided what we did and what positions.”
The shenanigans lasted until 5 o’clock in the morning.
Related: Has Gay Men’s Obsession With ‘Straight’ Guys Gone Too Far?
Now, the man isn’t sure what to do.
“Would it be weird to reach out to this guy?” he asks. “He gave me his number before we hooked up. On one hand I don’t want to bug him, but on the other I just want to check in and make sure he’s cool and not having some kind of crisis over his sexuality or anything like that.”
The birthday boy wonders: “I know my first experience with a guy was kinda bittersweet because I hadn’t really come to terms with that beforehand. Hoping he’s not in the same boat. Any thoughts?”
Naturally, his fellow Redditers had lots of thoughts, which they waste no time sharing.
“Why on earth are you calling this guy ‘straight’?” someone asks. “How is he straight?”
“Straight guys don’t do this shit,” another person writes. “Sorry to disrupt your fetish.”
“I hate this ‘I f-cked a straight guy’ shit,” someone else adds. “Like, that is an oxymoron, an impossibility. No, boo, you f-cked a dude who doesn’t call himself gay. There’s a diff.”
To which someone else responds: “I mean, it’s not totally impossible. A straight guy can experiment and then realize that he’s not gay afterwards. Plus rape is a thing.”
To which someone else clarifies: “Rape is not sex.”
Related: The Gay-Straight Binary Is Eroding. That’s Good For Everyone.
The majority of commenters seem to agree that the man is likely bisexual.
“This was soooo not his first time,” one person predicts.
“Obviously bi,” another person adds. “He’s not gonna go through any crisis for this shit.”
“Quite likely he’s curious, the opportunity came along so he went with it,” a third person hypothesizes.
“Judging by this, it isn’t his first time,” someone else agrees. “He may be bi.”
And as for whether the birthday boy should reach out to his allegedly straight paramour, the general consensus there seems to be: Sure, why not?
“Suppose a ‘hey how’s things’ text couldn’t hurt,” one person says. “If you don’t get a reply then that’s confirmation enough I would say that he isn’t interested.”
“By all means give him a call,” someone else adds. “WTF is the worst thing that can possibly happen if you do?”
“Text him in a casual way, like ‘how have you been lately,’” a third person suggests. “He doesn’t sound like dating material, but maybe he could make a nice f-ck buddy, assuming he’s good in bed and you are OK with it.”
What advice would you give this guy? Share your thoughts in the comment section below…
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Watch RuPaul React To Stephen Colbert’s Drag Queen Alter-Ego “Raven”
Watch RuPaul React To Stephen Colbert’s Drag Queen Alter-Ego “Raven”
RuPaul sat down for a conversation with Stephen Colbert last week on an episode of The Late Show, and the two had a fun and playful chat about everything from drag to gynecologist appointments.
Watch the hilarious interview below and (spoiler alert) see how beautiful Colbert looks in drag!
Warren + Clinton, Star Trek, James Bond, Gay Utopia, J.K. Rowling: NEWS
Warren + Clinton, Star Trek, James Bond, Gay Utopia, J.K. Rowling: NEWS
ON THE STUMP. Elizabeth Warren campaigned with Hillary Clinton for the first time on Monday: “I’m here today, because I’m with her, yes her.”
FAIL. Donald Trump tried to swipe back at Elizabeth Warren‘s epic takedown by calling her a racist.
RIP. Colton Haynes pays tribute to legendary street fashion photographer Bill Cunningham who passed away recently.
NEVER TRUMP. Conservative writer George Will leaves the GOP: “This is not my party.” But is it?
MALE MODEL MONDAY. Meet Zoran Karan.
BET AWARDS. Actor and activist Jesse Williams gave a powerful speech touching on his involvement with the Black Lives Matter movement and systematic racism in America: “Just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.”
TRAILERS. New Star Trek: Beyond teaser released.
JAMES BOND. Representative of HM’s government in Chicago cheekily implies 007 might be gay: “In 2016 our secret service was named the nation’s most LGBT-friendly employer, so way to go, James Bond,” he said, before adding with a cheeky leer, “Who’d have thought, eh, who’d have thought?”
HEADLINE OF THE DAY. “The Radical Plan to Turn One California Town into a Gay Utopia.”
MAPS. One year since full nationwide marriage equality in the U.S., a look at how and where anti-LGBT legislation has risen up in America.
BREXIT. J.K. Rowling found the (gay) silver lining.
The book’s real, the review’s real and I’ve finally found something to laugh about in this whole terrible mess. pic.twitter.com/5r8yF9Fa2l
— J.K. Rowling (@jk_rowling) June 26, 2016
PROFILES IN COURAGE (AND LOVE). Meet the gay Indian couple who is speaking out against their country’s ban on homosexuality.
INSTASTUD. Chidi.
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The British Are Coming … To Bake You A Cake, Plus More TV This Week
The British Are Coming … To Bake You A Cake, Plus More TV This Week
Check out our guide to TV this week, and make sure you’re catching the big premieres, crucial episodes and the stuff you won’t admit you watch when no one’s looking.
He swam with sharks in the cutthroat 1960s ad world on Mad Men, and he dated a bear on Happy Endings, but James Wolk is facing his most dangerous animal adversaries on CBS’s sci-fi summer sizzler Zoo, returning Tuesday at 9 p.m. Eastern for a second season.
Poor Elizabeth Mitchell should try traveling to cooler climates. She didn’t have the best luck on the tropical supernatural island on Lost and now she’s summering at a deadly summer camp in a new horror series on Freeform. Dead of Summer premieres Tuesday at 9 p.m. Eastern on Freeform.
Dating Naked is back to show us what would happen if dates started without any clothes Wednesday at 9 p.m. Eastern on VH1. It’s basically like if you gave straight people Grindr and then put them on a tropical island.
As lovers of all things Real Housewives, we’re holding a vigil for our one true kween Bethenny Frankel as she gets more information on her serious medical condition Wednesday at 9 p.m. Eastern on Bravo. This week’s Real Housewives of New York shows the multi-millionaire mogul planning for surgery.
The Brits may have bungled the Brexit, but how would they handle a brownie? The Great British Baking Show is back Friday at 9 p.m. Eastern on PBS with a dozen bakers (not to be confused with a baker’s dozen) doing their best to replicate Mary Berry’s frosted walnut cake.
What are you watching this week on TV?
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The Biggest Box-Office Actress Right Now Is a Lesbian
The Biggest Box-Office Actress Right Now Is a Lesbian
Ellen DeGeneres is Hollywood’s new big kahuna for her starring role in Disney/Pixar’s Finding Dory.
www.advocate.com/film/2016/6/27/biggest-box-office-actress-right-now-lesbian
Rapper Vic Mensa on Being an Ally After Orlando
Rapper Vic Mensa on Being an Ally After Orlando
“It’s a free country, that’s unless you love the same sex,” raps Vic Mensa on “Free Love.”
www.advocate.com/music/2016/6/27/rapper-vic-mensa-being-ally-after-orlando
