Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black show off their engagement rings

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black show off their engagement rings

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black have shown off their engagement rings after announcing their plans to marry yesterday (1 October).

The 21-year-old English diver and the 41-year-old American screenwriter told the world they were going to get hitched in the back of The Times.

It read: ‘The engagement is announced between Tom, son of Robert and Debra Daley of Plymouth, and Lance, son of Jeff Bisch of Philadelphia and Anne Bisch of Lake Providence.’

Tom has now thanked everyone for the supportive messages, as well as showing off their rings.

 

@DLanceBlack and I would just like to thanks everyone for all the lovely messages yesterday! It really means a lot. We are both v excited

— Tom Daley (@TomDaley1994) October 2, 2015

Tom first told the world about his relationship with Dustin when he came out in December 2013, saying he had begun a relationship with another guy.

And he has described it as ‘love at first sight’.

‘I’d never felt like anything like it before. We were at a party and I hadn’t even spoken to him all night. I didn’t know what to do or if he was gay at first,’ he told Jonathan Ross.

‘I’d never felt the feeling of love, it happened so quickly, I was completely overwhelmed by it to the point I can’t get him out of my head all the time. I’ve never had it before where I love someone and they love me just as much.’

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Four Seasons sales executive charged with blasphemy in Bali gay wedding probe

Four Seasons sales executive charged with blasphemy in Bali gay wedding probe

The sales executive at at the Four Seasons Resort in Ubud faces blasphemy charges for allowing a gay couple to hold a Hindu ceremony at the hotel.

Ni Nyoman Mulyani, 36, has been named as a suspect in the case, which sparked outrage in Indonesia after photos of what was initially thought to be a gay wedding went viral on Facebook. The two men – a Westerner and a local – have already flown back to the US.

Police now say it was actually a melukat, or Balinese karma cleansing ceremony, which explains the Hindu holy man in the picture.

‘We have enough evidence to accuse her of committing religious blasphemy,’ Gianyar police chief, Farman, told News Corporation.

‘From the investigation we have carried out there was a Hindu ritual package at the hotel, namely a karma cleansing ceremony for a couple.

‘We have questioned some Hindu experts and found that the Hindu religion does not acknowledge same-sex couples. The sales executive already knew the cleansing ceremony would be carried out by a gay couple which should not be done. So it was a religious blasphemy.’

He added: ‘We are still deepening the case, to find out the role of other persons involved in the ritual. There is a possibility for other suspects.’

Bali is a popular wedding destination among Westerners, but Indonesian law defines marriage as between a man and woman.

The luxury five-star denied the same couple a wedding ceremony at the hotel in December last year and has issued an apology to Hindus.

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Darren Wee

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Kentucky gov: Kim Davis’ legal arguments are ‘absurd’

Kentucky gov: Kim Davis’ legal arguments are ‘absurd’

‘Absurd,’ ‘forlorn’ and ‘obtuse.’

These are the words lawyers for Kentucky Governor Steve Beshear have used to describe the legal arguments put forward by Kim Davis, the county clerk who was jailed for repeatedly refusing to issue gay marriage licenses.

Davis has sued Beshear. And has blamed him for her imprisonment and accused him of having ‘commandeered’ county clerk offices and ‘usurped control of Kentucky marriage law.’

‘Simply stated, Davis’ role is a legal one – not a moral or religious one,’ Beshear’s attorneys wrote in a court document filed Tuesday (29 September) asking that the suit be thrown out.

The day the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage on 24 June, Beshear sent a letter to the state’s 120 county clerks directing them to grant licenses to same-sex couples.

‘Neither your oath nor the Supreme Court dictates what you must believe. But as elected officials, they do prescribe how we must act,’ he wrote.

In response, Davis stopped issuing licenses altogether. Four gay couples she denied licenses then sued her and she filed a counter-suit against Beshear.

Beshear’s lawyer, Palmer G Vance, described Davis’ continued legal battle as a ‘meritless assault on the rule of law.’ Even if Beshear had not instructed clerks to follow the law, the Supreme Court and subsequent court orders required her to do so, he wrote.

Davis’s attorneys at Liberty Counsel responded to Beshear in a statement.

‘Unfortunately, having run out of legal arguments, Governor Beshear has now resorted to childish antics and name-calling,’ it read.

‘This appears to be yet another obvious attempt by the Governor at avoiding the actual merits of Kim Davis’s religious liberty claims.’

US District Judge David Bunning – the same judge who jailed Davis – is expected to rule soon on whether the suit can continue.

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Darren Wee

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How LGBT History Can Inspire Hope, Support Health, and Even Prevent HIV

How LGBT History Can Inspire Hope, Support Health, and Even Prevent HIV
“A people deserves a history.”

That’s how Larry Kramer–Tony and Emmy-winning playwright, author, and America’s best-known HIV/AIDS activist–spoke about the just-released first volume of his two-volume novel The American People. Kramer has labored over the book for decades, fine-tuning his sometimes fanciful American history from a gay point of view.

“I want every gay person to be aware of our history,” Kramer told me, “whether or not I’ve fictionalized it.”

He added, “You should know your history. I want gay history taught in schools. And they don’t teach it.”

I interviewed Kramer in his Manhattan apartment on July 29 for the Los Angeles Review of Books and for my forthcoming book about building gay men’s resilience.

Being familiar with, and drawing inspiration from, our history as LGBT people can contribute tremendously to our personal resilience.

We are heirs of what I call “LGBT America’s heroic legacy,” the acts and words of men and women who chose to stand up for their humanity, integrity, and fully equal American citizenship–rather than accept the shame and silence they were told was their lot in life for being “different.”

They often paid a steep price: Diagnosed by psychiatrists as mentally ill because they weren’t heterosexual. Condemned by religious institutions. Disowned by families. Even left to fend for themselves in the face of a terrifying new disease called AIDS.

Before President Ronald Reagan’s health department in 1982 declared AIDS the nation’s “number one health priority,” Larry Kramer and five other gay men in New York began raising money for research and formed Gay Men’s Health Crisis (GMHC), the world’s first–and still largest–organization to advocate and care for people living with HIV/AIDS.

Nursing homes, used to caring for elderly patients, were not prepared in the early eighties (or today) to care for young men in their twenties, thirties, and forties. So gay men and their friends created from scratch a parallel network of health care and social service organizations, like GMHC, to care for their own.

Back then advocacy included arguing with ambulance drivers to take deathly sick people with AIDS–mainly gay men–to the hospital. Care meant doing errands and arranging doctor visits for clients who were terminally ill, at some stage of cancer, dementia, or pneumocystis pneumonia.

By the end of 2011, HIV/AIDS had already killed an estimated 311,087 gay and bisexual American men. Fifty-seven percent of the estimated 500,022 persons living with an HIV diagnosis at the time were gay and bisexual men.

Two-thirds of all Americans living with HIV, and newly infected each year, are still gay and bisexual men–even though we account for only an estimated two percent of the population. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)

Black gay and bisexual men accounted for the largest number of new infections (10,600, or 36 percent) in 2010. Among them, young black males between age 13 to 24 made up nearly half the total–a 20 percent increase from 2008.

For any of us who lived through the dark years of the 1980s–and particularly for those of us living with HIV, including myself–despair can seem a natural response to numbers like these.

They certainly make one thing very clear: America is still failing to stop the spread of HIV and is far from achieving the ‘AIDS-free generation’ envisioned by the Obama administration.

As I examine HIV prevention education aimed at gay and bisexual men for my new book, one thing is clear: to work, prevention education must go beyond PrEP and condoms. It has to address the drivers of risk behavior–the feelings and needs in our hearts and minds that compel us to engage in sex the way we do, even to attribute meaning to particular sexual acts.

Earlier prevention efforts, growing out of a desperate wish to arrest the spread of HIV as quickly as possible, were based on a “deficit” model. They told us simply “use a condom every time.” No questions asked. They assumed we couldn’t be trusted to make healthy choices based on factual information, and frequently invoked fear to douse our libidos.

Newer efforts, in contrast, draw upon what is referred to as a “strength-based” or “resilience-based” model, aimed at strengthening our confidence, pride and resilience.

Starting from a place of respect and validation, these interventions work essentially to build hope. Their premise is simple, really: Men who are hopeful about their future will naturally want to protect themselves to be here for it and healthy enough to enjoy it.

“You’ve got to give them hope,” is how Harvey Milk, America’s first openly gay elected official, put it in a 1978 speech. Milk understood that inspiring hope in a gay boy’s heart could mean the difference between a happy future–and suicide.

In this LGBT History Month, claiming as our own the powerful legacy of people like Harvey Milk and Larry Kramer, who stood up and now stand out in our history, offers a powerful source of hope and resilience, a solid foundation for HIV prevention and for good health.

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WATCH: 'Funny or Die' on How Kim Davis Met the Pope

WATCH: 'Funny or Die' on How Kim Davis Met the Pope

In case you’re wondering just how antigay Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis managed to have a private meeting with Pope Francis, the answer is that she arranged it the modern way — via Pope-Meet.com.

Well, that’s the premise of a new Funny or Die video, which depicts the non-Catholic Davis beating out people who help the poor, visit prisoners, or devote their lives to the Catholic Church for the privilege of a clandestine meeting with, as the parody version of Davis calls him, this “guy in a funny hat.”

“Davis” also tells of her habit of watching Brokeback Mountain just to yell at the gays. Watch the hilarious video below.

 

Trudy Ring

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Watch: Gay CNN anchor asks Trump if he is homophobic

Watch: Gay CNN anchor asks Trump if he is homophobic

US presidential candidate Donald Trump on Wednesday (30 September) night was asked if is homophobic by openly CNN anchor Don Lemon.

Lemon told the Republican that he hears LGBTI people talking about him and they liked what he had to say, but they were ‘concerned.’

‘If I ask you this question, will you answer directly? Do you think that you are homophobic?’ he asked.

‘No. I think that I’m a very nice person,’ the billionaire responded, claiming he is loved ‘across the board.’

Trump then went off on a tangent about how the Tea Party and evangelicals and love him.

‘You know why? They think I’m going to do a great job for the country,’ he said.

‘The far right does like me. But you know who else likes me? Democrats like me. Liberals like me. It’s straight across the board.’

Watch the interview below:

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Darren Wee

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9 Things Introverts Can Do To Make Their Weddings Less Overwhelming

9 Things Introverts Can Do To Make Their Weddings Less Overwhelming

Weddings can be a stressful, overwhelming time for anyone, but particularly for brides and grooms who identify as introverts. 

Why? Because typically, introverts aren’t comfortable being the center of attention. They try to avoid small talk and require quiet alone time to gain energy and recharge their batteries. This, of course, poses a big challenge during the wedding chaos: all eyes are on you, your second cousin twice removed is trying to chat your ear off and you’re surrounded by people. Constantly.

So we asked experts, wedding planners and brides to share their best tips on how introverts can stay cool, calm and collected throughout the planning process and especially on the big day. Take a deep breath and find out what they had to say below: 

1. For starters, plan a wedding that suits your personality — it can be as low-key as you want it to be. 

“Remember that the only thing that absolutely, positively must happen for a wedding to be successful is that you end up married at the end of the day,” Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After, tells The Huffington Post. “So you can make your wedding anything you and your betrothed want: a quiet sunset ceremony on a beach or a small backyard family gathering. Even the frou-frou, attention-grabbing dress is optional. It’s your wedding, make it an event that will bring you true joy.” 

2. Opt to do a “first look” before the ceremony. 

“For introverted brides terrified of walking down the aisle, I recommend a first look with their partner before the ceremony,” wedding planner Tracie Domino of Tracie Domino Events says. “This private time between the two of you is incredibly sweet and allows you to experience seeing each other for the first time without all of your guests staring at you. Walking down the aisle will still be incredibly special, but you will feel like you are in it together this way.” 

3. Schedule some “you” time on the big day, so you can take a breather (or two).

“Introverts need some quiet time away from social activities, so make sure to take breaks throughout the day,” self-proclaimed introvert and founder of Intimate Weddings Christina Friedrichsen tells HuffPost. “This could mean escaping to the powder room or to a quiet place in your reception area. Having some quiet one-on-one time with your sweetie during the big day can also help you recharge.”

“And don’t feel bad about doing this,” Dembling says. “If you take little breaks, you’ll be able to keep going longer, without getting cranky.” 

4. It may sound like just one more thing on your already busy schedule, but consider planning a casual pre-wedding get-together with family and friends.

“This will sound counter-intuitive, but try to organize an event or informal gathering the day before the wedding so that you can see as many people as possible in advance,” Fusion anchor and recent bride Alicia Menendez says. “People are there to see and celebrate you and your partner, and if you maximize their opportunities to do that, it actually lowers the pressure on the big day.” 

5. Consider having a smaller bridal party. 

“Big bridal parties often lead to bigger problems,” Domino says. “From trying to find a dress that will fit everyone to one of your girls complaining that her hair appointment is too early, the less opinions the introverted bride has to deal with the better.”

“Keep your getting-ready squad as small as possible,” Menendez adds. “You’ll want and need that calm, quiet time before things really kick off.”

6. Limit the amount of input you’re getting from well-meaning friends and family — you’re the decision maker here! 

“If you involve mom and grandma and Aunt Jane and his mom and grandma and Aunt Jane too, while also getting ideas from friends and coworkers, you’ll be begging for head space before you know it,” Dr. Laurie Helgoe, psychologist and author of Introvert Power, says. “Introverts are good at listening and really thinking about what others say. When the ‘others’  become too many, there’s no room left for your own thoughts. Be selective.”

7. Skip the sweetheart table at the reception.

“Introverted brides tend to love the idea of a feasting table — where the bride and groom sit with the bridal party and their dates,” Domino recommends. “With this option, the bride and groom don’t feel as much like they are onstage and more like they are having a dinner party within the wedding reception with their closest friends.”

8. If you’re marrying an extrovert, let your partner do the talking.

“If your spouse-to-be is less introverted than you, let him or her take on more of a social role in the wedding,” Friedrichsen suggests. “This might mean he is the one that makes small talk with guests and thanks everyone for coming out. Also, your wedding attendants are great allies for fielding requests, making introductions and organizing people, which are all things introverts generally find difficult. A day-of coordinator or wedding planner can also help you deal with vendors, so you don’t have to.”

9. Make sure you have plenty of time to chill before and after the wedding. 

“Make a point of giving yourself at least a day of serious downtime before everything gets going so you can store up some energy,” Dembling says. “Then, if you don’t head out for your honeymoon right away, take another day or two after the last guest heads home to regroup and rest up. If you do leave for your honeymoon right away, try to schedule a few quiet days at the beginning to rest up before any sightseeing or other action.”

Remember: This may be the only time in your life that you will be surrounded by this many friends and family on both sides.

“Don’t fight it,” Dembling says. “Try to soak in the goodness of it. If anything is worth the effort, this is it. You can rest later.”

And who knows, it may turn out to be much easier and much more wonderful than you ever anticipated. 

“Here’s what I was not expecting,” Menendez says. “At some point, gratitude takes over and you are genuinely happy to be surrounded by so many people who you love and who love you.”

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Jennifer Grey says Oscar winning dad is ‘a lot more gay’ since coming out publicly

Jennifer Grey says Oscar winning dad is ‘a lot more gay’ since coming out publicly

A lot of people were happy for 83-year-old Joel Grey when he decided to publicly come out as a gay man earlier this year.

Bujt according to the Oscar winner’s daughter, Dirty Dancing star Jennifer Grey, there’s no one happier than her father himself.

‘He’s a lot more gay! she joked this week at the premiere of her new series Red Oaks. ‘The truth is, he’s a lot happier. He feels very light, his energy feels light and joyful.It feels like there’s just more of a skip in his step. And it just feels like he’s alive.’

She added: ‘When he came out, I was so thrilled for him and for anybody who is able to fully be themselves without having any secrets and without having to make any excuses and without having any loss of self-esteem, and just declare, this is who I am.’

Joel Grey won the Oscar and Tony for playing the Master of Ceremonies in Cabaret on Broadway and in the 1972 film version. He was married to actress Jo Wilder for 24 years and are the parents of Jennifer and son James Grey,who is a chef. They divorced in 1982.

He was at the Red Oaks event in support of his daughter and said of life since coming out:
‘No different! I’m the same guy. I’m pretty happy.’

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Greg Hernandez

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Chris Pratt’s Bushy New Beard Makes Him Sexier Than Ever; James Franco Considers Becoming A Woman

Chris Pratt’s Bushy New Beard Makes Him Sexier Than Ever; James Franco Considers Becoming A Woman

Sean Hayes and hubby Scott Icenogle are it again, lip-syncing to “BurnItUp!” the hot new single from Janet, Miss Jackson if you’re nasty.

 

“BURNITUP!” by Janet Jackson feat. Missy Elliott (S&S Lip-Sync). Go ahead…lip-sync, if you’re nasty.

Posted by Sean Hayes on Thursday, 1 October 2015

In what might be his most revealing interview yet, the always unpredictable James Franco conducts a chat with his female alter ego, who at one point tells him, “Cut your dick off and call yourself a woman.”

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Last month we speculated that that dinner party Barbra Streisand hosted at her Malibu mansion for John Travolta and Lady Gaga signified they might be chatting about joining the superstar in her long-awaited remake of Gypsy. It seems we were right. JT just revealed that’s the cast Babs has in mind.

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Today marks 80 years that the greatly talented and much-loved Julie Andrews has been delighting people of earth. Check out a clip from her most famous role as Maria in The Sound of Music, when the Mother Superior calls her a shockingly rude name.

Yesterday was the 60th anniversary of the death of James Dean and fans around the world celebrated, even actor Maxwell Caulfield who visited Fairmount, Indiana, where the late actor was raised, and even helped dedicated a memorial monument at his birthplace in nearby Marion, Indiana.

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If you need prove you can’t keep a former child pageant queen from the South down for long, Honey Boo Boo has released a music video. If you can translate what the hell she’s singing rapping mumbling, let us know. On second thought, please don’t.

In Logo’s new series Beautiful As I Want To Be, gorgeous supermodel Geena Rocero, who just happens to be transgender, will help trans* youth explore how they define beauty and identity. Interesting fact: The production featured a crew of almost all transgender entertainment professionals.

Let’s face it, we’d still think Chris Platt was a sexy guy if he worked for Kim Davis, but this bushy new beard he’s sporting for a film opposite Jennifer Lawrence has made him

Jeremy Kinser

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