Virginia Man Says Catholic Nursing Home Fired Him for Being Gay

Virginia Man Says Catholic Nursing Home Fired Him for Being Gay

A Virginia man says he’s been fired as the top administrator of a Catholic-affiliated nursing home because he’s gay and in a same-sex marriage, and he’s filed a complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

John Murphy was executive director of Saint Francis Home, an assisted-living facility in Richmond, for just about a week before he was terminated, the Associated Press reports. When he was hired, the home’s board president said his relationship wouldn’t pose a problem, he told the AP this week. The home is owned by the Roman Catholic Diocese of Richmond, and the board members are appointed by the local bishop.

But soon after he started the job, “two deputies of Bishop Francis Xavier DiLorenzo told him that he was being fired because his marriage goes against church doctrine,” the news service reports. Murphy said he believes DiLorenzo found out about his marriage through the paperwork for new employees that goes to the diocesan office.

Murphy, a lifelong Catholic, said the firing has shaken his faith. “I thought I found a safe place where I could do good and I won’t be judged and I won’t be ostracized,” he told the AP. “People being discriminated against because of who they love, when it has nothing to do with their performance, is outrageous.” Murphy (pictured above, left, with husband Jerry Carter) received no severance pay, so he and Carter, a retired social worker, are living mainly on Social Security benefits, he said.

A diocesan spokeswoman declined to comment on specifics of Murphy’s case, citing confidentiality of personnel matters, but told the AP the diocese expects employees to adhere to church teachings, “including the values that are consistent with the sanctity of marriage.”

The diocese appears to take a hands-off approach to management of Saint Francis Home otherwise, though. It does not fund the home’s operations, although allowing it to solicit donations from parishioners, and the board hires laypeople as professional administrators.

Murphy filed a discrimination complaint with the EEOC last month, the AP reports. If it finds the diocese committed unlawful discrimination, it will try to negotiate a settlement. If those negotiations are unsuccessful or if the commission does not find there has been discrimination, the matter will likely end up in federal court.

Virginia does not ban antigay discrimination by private employers, and there is as yet no federal law explicitly banning such discrimination. The EEOC ruled this summer that discrimination based on sexual orientation is prohibited by the Civil Rights Act of 1964’s provision covering gender bias. But the EEOC ruling hasn’t been tested in court yet, and courts may not apply it evenly, so a federal law like the pending Equality Act is still needed, according to LGBT rights activists.

Murphy’s case also raises the question of how broad an exemption religiously affiliated employers can have from antibias law. Religious groups don’t have to obey such laws in the hiring of clergy, but there is controversy over whether they should apply to positions that don’t involve religion, even if the institution is owned by a religious group. In the past few years, numerous employees of Catholic-affiliated institutions have lost jobs because of their same-sex marriages.

Trudy Ring

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Open Question: Don't want brother to know about LGBT club?

Open Question: Don't want brother to know about LGBT club?
My high school has recently started an LGBT club. The first meeting is next week. I’m straight/bi-curious. My younger brother, who has to stay with me after school, is homophobic and is already making fun of the club. Our younger brother came out as gay, but he thinks he’s just being a follower. I don’t want him to know I’m going to the club meeting.

I’ve thought about telling him I’ll be meeting up with kids to do a project and he can wait in the cafeteria, but if I decide to be a real member of the club, this isn’t going to work every time, nor is he just going to wait in the cafeteria. If he gets bored, he’ll try to find me.

I’m not sure how to go about this. I don’t need him regurgitating nonsense to me, gossiping behind my back, and starting fights.

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Presidential Candidate Rand Paul Is OK With Firing People For Being Gay

Presidential Candidate Rand Paul Is OK With Firing People For Being Gay

randDuring a recent speaking engagement at Drake University in Iowa, Sen. Rand Paul argued that it should be alright to fire an employee for being gay.

The reason? Prohibiting discrimination based on gender and sexual orientation in the workplace “sets up a whole industry for people who want to sue.”

Clearly not recognizing the inherent fallacy in his thinking, the Republican presidential candidate added, “I think society’s rapidly changing, and that, if you are gay, there are plenty of places that will hire you.”

His logic, as such, goes like this:

So if you happen to be gay, you get fired — now you have a reason you can fire them. But it’s almost impossible sometimes — you know, people don’t put up a sign, ‘I’m firing you because you’re gay.’ It’s something that’s very much disputed. And so I don’t know that we need to keep adding to different classifications to say the government needs to be involved in the hiring and firing.

He also commented that “the things you do in your house — if you leave them in your house — they wouldn’t have to be part of the workplace.”

Watch Rand’s rant below.

Jeremy Kinser

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The OXD Mirror: The Legacy of Space Disco

The OXD Mirror: The Legacy of Space Disco

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BY TAD HAES

During the ’70s and in early years of the ’80s, while both gay and straight audiences got down across the globe and mainstream disco music reached its peak in nightclubs, other worlds were also being unveiled – literally. For the first time in history, humanity laid eyes on real photographs of Jupiter, Saturn and their moons. Frozen water was discovered in Mars, a Soviet probe landed on Venus, and the Space Shuttle program began. As disco music and space exploration evolved, it was natural that both worlds would eventually collide. Artists such as Giorgio Moroder, Patrick Cowley, Cerrone, Space and Boney M drew influence from futuristic sounds to create legendary dance hits that would change music forever, notably Donna Summer‘s now iconic ‘I Feel Love.’ The Saint nightclub opened in New York City featuring its infamous 38-feet-high dome and planetarium projector, luring massive gay crowds into dancing marathons under images of stars and galaxies and fueled by hi-NRG and futuristic disco.

The year now is 2015, and space exploration is more exciting than ever: Voyager 1 is the first man-made object to leave the Solar System, Pluto was photographed for the first time, flowing water is confirmed on Mars, we landed a probe on a comet. And dance music follows as it did before, with the so called space disco genre being once again en vogue.

 

 

Discodromo – the Italian-born, Berlin-based duo formed by Giacomo Garavelloni and Giovanni Turco – is well known in the German capital’s gay scene through their successful Cocktail d’Amore parties/record label (created alongside Berghain’s Boris), which usually go on with as many as 36-hours of non-stop house music and techno. As producers, they are famous for house and techno releases with a space disco twist. Their latest original production, ‘A Come Andromeda,’ still doesn’t have an official release date but can already be appreciated in its entire futuristic glory.

 

 

  • Jeffrey Sfire “is a fag that plays 80’s italo, high nrg, chicago house, and everything WBMX. He’s real real real” – so he describes himself. He has released on Cocktail d’Amore in the past (‘Sfire2‘), and his most recent record, ‘Sfire6,’ is out now on the label Ultramajic, filled with retro-synths and ’80s italo-disco vibes. The full version of the release can be heard on Spotify, and if you live in New York, you can dance to Sfire’s music at Xanadude‘s upcoming Halloween party.
  • The Emperor Machine is no stranger to our column, and it is only fitting to include his latest track, the spacey 10-minute remix of Flash Atkins‘ ‘Summer of Love.’
  • London producer Toby Tobias is gearing up for his second full-length release, Rising Son, which follows his acclaimed debut album Space Shuffle. ‘The Wonder’ is the first single and features vocals by Be Atwell and, of course, a heavy dose of synths and space-inspired sounds.
  • Brooklyn’s Jacques Renault is still surfing the waves of his brand new debut album Zentrum, but that doesn’t mean he is done with work for now. Forthcoming is the new Silver Machines EP with two original tracks, each accompanied by alternate mixes – including Force of Nature‘s version of ‘Fromage à Trois’ with a bonus sample of Sylvester‘s hi-NRG classic ‘Take Me To Heaven.’

 

OCCUPY THE DISCO (OXD) is a gay, New York City-based DJ collective who got their start curating alternative night life and music events for the LGBT community. The OXD Mirror serves to showcase house, disco and techno tunes that are definitely off-the-beaten-path but rightfully deserve the attention of the gay ear.

Check out these tracks and more on our Soundcloud. For more information on OXD, visit our website at www.occupythedisco.com, like us on Facebook, or follow us on Twitter/Instagram: @OccupyTheDisco.

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WATCH: Pastor Urges Boycott of 'Sodomite-Friendly' Businesses

WATCH: Pastor Urges Boycott of 'Sodomite-Friendly' Businesses

The rabidly homophobic Pastor James David Manning, having railed against Starbucks for allegedly putting “the semen of sodomites” in its coffee, is now calling for a boycott of all “sodomite-controlled” or “sodomite-friendly” businesses, and doing so with some violent imagery.

“The sodomites … with the Supreme Court approval and a sodomite in the White House, think they now have America under their absolute thumb and control,” the pastor of ATLAH Missionary Baptist Church, in New York City’s Harlem neighborhood, says in a new video.

But God, he says, has revealed to him that the opponents of “sodomites” are “in the mega-majority.” So, he tells his followers, “If you know of a business that is owned by sodomites — for instance, Tylenol has produced a commercial destroying the images that Norman Rockwell painted so beautifully, so we’re not going to buy Tylenol anymore.” (Last year Tylenol ran a lesbian-inclusive ad playing off a well-known Rockwell painting of a family gathered for a holiday meal.)

Manning urges boycotts of not just major corporations but neighborhood restaurants that “cater to sodomites” or have gay waitstaff. He then makes a reference to slave uprisings and says “sodomites” are “pushing us to the point where we now need to push back.”

“We’re greater than them in number, and quite frankly, we have their throats … in the clenches of our finger — the index and our thumb,” he continues. “And at any time we want to squeeze that Adam apple, we can, and I’m calling for a boycott to squeeze that Adam apple right now, against sodomy in America.”

His followers, he concludes, have the power “to bring the sodomites to their knees, and if need be, to put them in their economic graves.” You can watch the full deranged rant below.

Trudy Ring

www.advocate.com/religion/2015/10/15/watch-pastor-urges-boycott-sodomite-friendly-businesses

New Burlesque Documentary Shows Just How Powerful Getting Naked Can Be

New Burlesque Documentary Shows Just How Powerful Getting Naked Can Be

A new documentary is telling the stories of burlesque dancers and revealing just how empowering getting naked can be.

Directed by James Lester, “Getting Naked: A Burlesque Story” follows five professional burlesque dancers over the course of four years living and working in New York City. The film features Gal Friday, Darlinda Just Darlinda, Perle Noire, Hazel Honeysuckle and Minnie Tonka

“Getting Naked” highlights the bright lights and distinct style of the 100-year-old performance art, while also showing the dancers’ family life and struggles with relationships outside of work. 

Burlesque, like other types of performance art, has the potential to be a feminist act. “We’re all there doing exactly what we want, not just getting naked — we’re there expressing ourselves completely,” one woman says in the trailer for the film below. 

The film’s Kickstarter launched on Oct. 15 to raise funds for post-production in order to finish the film.

According to the film’s director James Lester, the five performers all come from different backgrounds. “Each performer I followed had a different background. But they all arrived to the same place: burlesque,” he told The Huffington Post “There was a specific moment they realized they were living lives of constraint. Whether it was a dead-end job, or a life of loneliness, or a near-death experience, each woman decided for herself, enough is enough, it’s time I live a life of liberation and fulfillment. For them, that new life was burlesque.”

Darlinda Just Darlinda explained to HuffPost how burlesque has empowered her over her 11-year career. “For me, the empowerment of burlesque comes from audience inspiration,” she said. “They come to see a show and end up feeling empowered about their sexuality, their bodies and they have been entertained.”  

“Whether it’s body type, skin color, or age, burlesque represents what is actually real, in existence, not what’s been photo-shopped in a magazine or edited on TV,” Lester said. While Darlinda agreed that burlesque “can be tied to feminism,” she said that it “needs to be better curated to include all shapes, sizes and colors.” 

As Hazel Honeysuckle says in the film, “When I do burlesque I can be sexy, I can be stupid, I can be gorgeous, or ugly, or funny. I can do anything I want when I get out on stage, and that’s pretty magical.”

Damn straight that’s magical. 

Head over to the film’s Kickstarter or website to learn more about the documentary. 

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New Ad Highlights Discrimination Veterans Face; Emphasizes Need for Houston Equal Rights Ordinance

New Ad Highlights Discrimination Veterans Face; Emphasizes Need for Houston Equal Rights Ordinance

A new TV commercial highlights the positive impact the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance (HERO) could have, including prohibiting discrimination against veterans.
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Couple Divorces After One Year To Invite Third Man Into Their Relationship

Couple Divorces After One Year To Invite Third Man Into Their Relationship

Screen shot 2015-10-15 at 2.42.28 PMCanadians Adam Grant and Shayne Curran were happily married when they decided to get a divorce.

The couple first met in Nova Scotia six years ago and were legally wed in 2011. A year after saying “I do,” they met Sebastian Tran at nightclub while searching for someone to join them in an innocent threeway.

“We never intended it to be anything serious,” Adam tells the Daily Mail. “We were certainly never planning on taking on a full-time third partner. It was just bit of sexual experimentation.”

Related: Sister Wives Family Cite Gay Marriage Ruling In Polygamy Case

But after brining Sebastian home, Adam and Shayne quickly realized he was more than just another notch on the bedpost.

“The three of us sat out in our back garden together, talking for hours about our lives, ambitions and dreams,” Adam recalls. “Sebastian was different to anyone we had ever met. There was something about him that Shayne and I couldn’t explain, but it was like meeting our life partner for the second time.”

Sebastian was equally as surprised by how well the three of them got along.

At the time, I didn’t think I was ready to commit to anyone, so it was a surprise when I fell for both Adam and Shayne,” he says. “I didn’t think I wanted one boyfriend let alone two!”

Related: MMA Fighter Josh Thomson Says Marriage Equality Is “A Gateway” To Polygamy, Pedophilia, Bestiality, Incest

As a result, Adam and Shayne decided to legally dissolve their marriage so the three of them could make a commitment to each other as a trio.

“We didn’t want Sebastian to be excluded or feel like the third wheel in our relationship,” Adam explains“So Shayne and I decided to get a divorce so that we could make a renewed commitment between the three of us instead.”

“We’re the happiest we’ve ever been,” Shayne adds. “All our dynamics and personalities work so well in a relationship. The three of us bring out the best in each other.”

Now, the guys say they want to start a family.

“We definitely see kids in our future,” Sebastian says, “and we have a plan on how we’re going to make that happen.”

Related: If You’re For Consenting Adults’ Committed Relationships, Do You Support Polygamy?

“I have two sisters who have both offered to carry our children for us as surrogates and are willing to donate their eggs as well,” Shayne explains. “My sisters actually argue over which one them will carry our baby first. I feel very lucky! Meanwhile Sebastian’s sister will probably donate her eggs, too, so we can keep it in the family.”

He continues: “We want to mix our genes enough so that our kids are as genetically close to us as possible. But we are open to adoption, too. Children are a huge part of our future plans.”

As for people who may want to criticize their relationship or who feel it’s counter-productive to the fight for LGBTQ rights, they trio says they really don’t care.

“Love is love,” Adam explains. “It should be multiplied not divided. It shouldn’t matter if you’re in a three-way or a four-way relationship.”

What do you think? Is Adam, Shayne and Sebastian’s story counter-productive to LGBTQ rights? Vote in the poll below.

Is Adam, Shayne and Sebastian’s story counter-productive to LGBTQ rights?

Graham Gremore

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