Pope 'Not Afraid to Have a Gay Friend,' Says Former Student

Pope 'Not Afraid to Have a Gay Friend,' Says Former Student

Pope Francis didn’t discuss gay issues or relationships when he met former student Yayo Grassi and his partner while visiting the U.S., but he made it clear that he “is not afraid to have a gay friend,” Grassi says in a new interview.

“Me being gay is no different [to the pope] than me having blue eyes,” Grassi (pictured above, second from right) told ABC News over the weekend. “It’s not different than me living in Washington. It is part of my life. And the way he accepted my boyfriend, it is a validation of how happy he is that two people of the same sex can be together and happy and miss each other when we are not close to each other.”

Grassi brought his partner of 19 years, Iwan Bagus, and several friends to a private meeting with Francis at the Apostolic Nunciature — the Vatican’s equivalent of an embassy — in Washington, D.C., on September 23. Long before he was pope, then-Archbishop Bergoglio was a teacher in a Catholic high school in Santa Fe, Argentina, and Grassi was one of his students there in the 1960s. Grassi now runs a catering business in Washington.

“I think that we all had one teacher, one mentor that we love very much, and we consider that person extraordinary, remarkable,” Grassi told ABC. “I think that he was, he has a superior mind, he has an intelligence that goes beyond the common intelligence of regular people.” When he found out Francis was coming to the U.S., he wrote to him requesting a meeting, and the pope called him to arrange it.

Francis welcomed his former student warmly, giving him a hug, Grassi told the network. “I joked with him, we told each other a couple of jokes, and then I introduced all my friends to him, and they had things to bless and we talked,” he said. “He asked me how my business is doing, what kind of food I was cooking, really things of a friend, that a friend would ask another friend.”

“We never discussed anything about me or my boyfriend,” Grassi added. “We discussed my life; we talked about a lot of other things. I didn’t feel it was important to him to discuss it with me. He didn’t bring it up. I didn’t bring it up. I think the message that he puts forth is that of understanding, is that of not judging.” The pope has long known that Grassi is gay, the caterer said in an earlier interview, and had met his partner previously. When the Washington meeting ended, he hugged both Grassi and Bagus and kissed each of them on the cheek.

Grassi told CNN last week that he felt it was important to go public about his meeting with Francis because he was upset about reports of the pope having a private meeting with Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis, who has resisted issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Vatican officials followed those reports with statements that the Davis meeting wasn’t private, with her merely being part of a receiving line; Davis’s attorneys differ.

“I want to show the truth of who Pope Francis is,” Grassi said.

Trudy Ring

www.advocate.com/religion/2015/10/05/pope-not-afraid-have-gay-friend-says-former-student

Texas Professors Warn Allowing Guns In Class Will Inhibit Free Speech

Texas Professors Warn Allowing Guns In Class Will Inhibit Free Speech

As a women’s and gender studies professor at the University of Texas at Austin, Lisa Moore is often the very first person to expose her students to the ideas that underpin LGBT literature and culture. Now, she’s worried a new state gun law could change how she teaches.

“I’ve had experiences over the years that have been frightening,” Moore told The Huffington Post. “Like having my office broken into, and posters pulled off the walls and burned. Having ‘Depravity Kills’ written 16 times on my window.”

Once, a student who had a mental illness and who’d been disruptive in class needed to take a medical withdrawal from one of Moore’s courses. The student remained on campus, however. “I had to teach that class under an undisclosed location under armed guard for the rest of the semester,” Moore said.

In cases like these, if students had been allowed to bring guns into campus buildings, Moore thinks things could have unfolded even more alarmingly. “I would have avoided my office and therefore not be available to my students or colleagues,” Moore said. She doubts students, after witnessing an emotionally charged disruption in class, would return knowing one of their classmates might be armed.

I hate to think of trigger warning not becoming a metaphor but becoming a reality, that students who are triggered might actually pull a trigger.”
Ann Cvetkovich, a UT-Austin English professor

A new law signed by Texas Gov. Greg Abbott (R) this year will force public colleges and universities in the state to allow guns into their campus buildings. But Moore is one of a number of educators who worry that allowing guns in the vicinity of classrooms and professors’ offices could have a chilling effect on free speech, thus violating academic freedom. Many faculty members at UT Austin are rallying to push administrators to restrict guns from school classrooms and offices.

There is a fear someone “could shoot them for their viewpoint,” said Pat Somers, a professor of education at the school. “Disciplinary hearings may take on an entirely new dimension when those involved in the charges may be armed.”

At an open forum on the issue last week, several professors worried they would be at risk with guns in the class while they discuss controversial subjects. 

“I’m a lesbian. That does not necessarily make me liked by all of my students or others, and I’m afraid for myself,” said Ann Cvetkovich, a professor of English at UT Austin, at the forum. “I’m afraid for my students, but also very afraid for myself.”

At one point, Cvetkovich alluded to a separate debate taking place on campuses nationwide, the question of whether instructors should offer trigger warnings when their lessons contain material that some students may find traumatizing. “I hate to think of ‘trigger warning’ not becoming a metaphor, but becoming a reality,” she said. “That students who are triggered might actually pull a trigger.”

State Sen. Brian Birdwell (R-Granbury), who sponsored the Senate version of the campus carry legislation that ultimately became law, did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

As of Monday afternoon, more than 300 professors at the University of Texas had signed a petition to “refuse” guns in their classrooms. Several faculty members staged a protest last week against allowing guns in classes.

Joan Neuberger, a history professor at UT Austin who helped organize the petition, told HuffPost that instructors’ free speech concerns are at the “heart of the opposition” to guns in class.

“Classrooms aren’t like other free speech areas,” Neuberger said. “They’re unique in the sense that you have young people, often in a situation for the first time, in debate with people who are very different.”

Concealed carry has been allowed on campus grounds at Texas’ public universities for about two decades, but the new bill extends that to the buildings themselves. Public Texas universities are now allowed to enact “reasonable” regulations about where someone can have a gun on campus, and where they must store them, but the new rules cannot “have the effect of generally prohibiting” license holders from carrying concealed handguns on campus. The university system is currently engaged in a working group to determine what limitations will be used on campus. 

Adm. William McRaven, chancellor of the University of Texas System, was opposed to the Texas guns on campus bill. McRaven, who oversaw the 2011 raid that killed Osama bin Laden before he retired from the U.S. Navy, suggested to The Texas Tribune in February that having guns in the class could infringe on free speech rights.

“I have spent my life fighting for the Second Amendment,” McRaven said then. “You know, you have to ask yourself, ‘Why did the Founding Fathers put freedom of speech as the First Amendment?’ They may have done that because freedom of speech is incredibly important, and if you have guns on campus, I question whether or not that will somehow inhibit our freedom of speech.”

The University of Texas System did not make McRaven available to HuffPost for further comment. UT Austin did not respond to a question about the faculty petition.

Faculty members have raised a number of concerns about the forthcoming law, pointing out that it will not necessarily prevent a mass killing of the kind seen at Virginia Tech in 2007 or Umpqua Community College last week. Opponents are encouraging people to refer to the legislation as “Abbott’s Law,” to make the governor take ownership of the bill he signed. But when professors voice their reservations, the discussion often goes back to academic freedom. 


“I can write a syllabus that says what’s allowed in the classroom,” said Max Snodderly, a neuroscience professor at UT Austin, at last week’s forum. “Normally it includes cell phones. I think it should also include horses and guns.”

Andrew Jackson, an undergraduate at UT Austin, disagreed with the anti-gun views expressed at the forum. To say that concealed carry would inhibit First Amendment rights, he argued, is tantamount to saying you don’t have faith in students’ ability to “have adult conversations” about difficult issues.

Nearly two dozen bills have been presented in 2015 to force guns onto college campuses, according to the Campaign to Keep Guns Off Campus, an activist group. Only the Texas bill has been signed into law thus far. The law will take effect on Aug. 1, 2016, 50 years to the day after the first mass school shooting, which took place at UT Austin.

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Tyler Kingkade is a senior editor and reporter covering higher education, and is based in New York. You can contact him at tyler.kingkade@huffingtonpost.com, or on Twitter: @tylerkingkade.

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Real-life gay dads and their kid featured in adorable commercial for Campbell’s Star Wars Soup

Real-life gay dads and their kid featured in adorable commercial for Campbell’s Star Wars Soup

If the gay dads in a new Campbell’s Soup commercial seem to have a natural chemistry with the child in the spot – and with each other – it’s because they are a real-life family.

Larry Sullivan and David Monahan and their son Cooper are the stars of a charming spot for the soup giant’s Star Wars offering. Each dad does his best to channel James Earl Jones as the voice of Darth Vadar as they tell Cooper: ‘I am your Father.’

The spot is one of several with the tagline ‘Made for Real, Real Life.’

Yin Woon Rani, Campbell’s VP-marketing activation, tells Ad Age that the family was so appealing that their planned 15 second spot was extended to also include a 30 second version.

‘We use this phrase internally of this notion of “moment telling,” Woon Rani says. ‘We wanted to tell just very simple, telegraphic stories that didn’t always need the space of a :30. It was sort of a lucky extra because that story just ended up being so rich and so endearing.’

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Trailblazer Holly Woodlawn Desperately Needs Your Help To Live Out Her Days With Dignity

Trailblazer Holly Woodlawn Desperately Needs Your Help To Live Out Her Days With Dignity

hollyLast July we learned that pioneering queer entertainer Holly Woodlawn was gravely ill and unable to pay for the health care she required and that a GoFundMe campaign had been set up to help make her remaining days peaceful ones by allowing her to be cared for in her home. Diagnosed with both brain and lung cancer, Woodlawn miraculously pulled through her latest medical crisis only to see the roof of her apartment collapse — twice — leaving her essentially homeless. [You can read some of the horrific details here.] Concerned friends moved the performer, forever beloved for her no-holds-barred turns in independent films such as Trash, as well as inspiring a memorable verse in “Walk on the Wild Side,” Lou Reed’s anthemic ode to the cast of characters who populated Andy Warhol’s Factory, into an assisted living facility. As you might guess, it’s not inexpensive and being a fabulous former Warhol star doesn’t bring in the big bucks so if you’re a huge fan or just have an oversized heart with a plus-sized wallet, you’re invited to help cover the defray the cost of keep this living legend alive and comfortable. Director Mike Stabile, whose Seed Money is a riveting doc about vintage adult film director Chuck Holmes you should seek out, is currently at work on a nonfiction film that will chronicle Woodlawn’s tumultuous life. Stabile chatted with Queerty to offer an update on Holly’s condition and the status of his new project, and why we’re still fascinated with the great Warhol superstars.

 

clip-360x238Queerty: Your film Seed Money has been a big, well-reviewed hit at festivals around the country. What’s been the overall response to it and where can people see it?
Mike Stabile: The response has been really great. We’ll have played over forty festivals by year’s end, including New York on the 23rd. I knew this was an important story to me, but what I didn’t realize was how many gay men were affected by these films, and how many saw themselves in Chuck Holme’s story. I think a lot of people think it’s just about porn, or Falcon Studios. And it is, but it’s in some ways more about the role gay sexuality played in the fight for gay rights. People can see a full list of upcoming screenings here or on Facebook.

Related: How Adult Film Mogul Chuck Holmes Helped Bill Clinton Become President And Gays Achieve Equality

Your next project is a documentary about Holly Woodlawn. How did this come about?
I was introduced to her by director Jeffrey Schwarz (Vito, Tab Hunter Confidential), who had just shot an interview with her for his documentary I Am Divine! He had seen a short I’d done prior to Seed Money, and thought that I might be a good fit for Holly. I went over and talked to her, and by the end of the visit she was serenading me with “I Don’t Know How To Love Him” from Jesus Christ Superstar. I rustled up a little money, got a new credit card and followed her to Art Basel Miami that year, for a performance for the Warhol Foundation.

HW cake

Photo credit: Mike Stabile

What is it about Holly that makes her a worthy subject for a non-fiction film?
Holly was one of our first trans icons. That intro verse in “Walk on the Wild Side” — Holly came from Miami F-L-A, hitch hiked her way across the U-S-A … — was certainly my first introduction to trans identity, and maybe to outsider culture in general. I don’t think I discovered Warhol, and certainly not her work in films like Trash and Women in Revolt, until much later. And, of course, she was at the Stonewall for the riots. Oddly, if you’ve read her memoir, Low Life in High Heels, these are in some ways the least interesting parts of her story. Holly really carved out an identity in the underground in a way that hadn’t been done before. She was both glamorous and a shit-kicker. I don’t think she’s ever given a thought to what other people think about her, she’s just living her life. She is an artist, a hustler, and someone who utterly without pretension. In an era when even fine artists are creating lifestyle brands, Holly stands out as someone who’s only interest is being true to herself. It’s tremendously inspiring.

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photo credit: Mike Stabile

What are some of your favorite Holly stories?
Oh, there are so many. But I think what sums up Holly best is her relationship with champagne. She hates it. The carbonation make her burp, so no matter where we are, if someone hands her a glass she’ll just jam her fingers in it and swirls them around to get out all the bubbles. I can’t think of a better metaphor for popping high culture pretensions.

 

Holly has had some serious health concerns during the past months and there was even a crowdsourcing campaign to help her be cared for at her home. How is she doing lately?
She’s doing alright. She has brain and lung cancer, and because of issues with her liver, there’s no real treatment available. We’re just trying to make her as comfortable as possible. While she was in the hospital, the roof collapsed at her apartment building, so she’s now in an assisted living facility that is actually quite nice. She has a private room, and Turner Classic Movies, and a 24/7 nursing staff. And there’s a roof deck where she can get 360 degrees of Hollywood, including the sign. But none of this is cheap, hence the fundraising. Her 69th birthday is coming up, and she’s looking forward to having a party on the roof with all her friends.

 

holly_woodlawnHow involved was Holly in the project before she became ill?
She’s been involved from the beginning, and has been very vocal about what she wants and doesn’t want. For the past few years, I was wrapping up Seed Money, and struggling to pay for that, so for Holly, we shot what we could on what we had for that. We were really supposed to start shooting in earnest in June, when she got sick. But she doesn’t want this to be about that.

 

Why do you think people are still so fascinated with Holly and the other great Warhol superstars of her heyday?
They were trailblazers who didn’t give a fuck what society thought. I think now, with social media, even on the progressive end, we’re hyperaware of society’s reaction. The Warhol stars didn’t do things because they wanted society’s approval, they did them because they wanted to. And they were doing it at a time when nearly everyone regarded them as freaks, if not criminals. They defied categories and really took a hammer to the politics of respectability. I think we could stand to learn a few lessons from them still.

Jeremy Kinser

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News: Male Model Monday, Matt Damon’s Member, Salt Lake City, Joe Biden, Kinsey Scale

News: Male Model Monday, Matt Damon’s Member, Salt Lake City, Joe Biden, Kinsey Scale

> Matthew McConaughey is unrecognizable as a balding man from the 80s.

male-model-chad-reeh-photos-10032015-26-435x580> Male Model Monday: Chad Reeh.

> Apparently you can see Matt Damon’s member (or a stunt member) in The Martian.

> John Mayer thinks Miley Cyrus’ latest album is “whacky genius.”

> Alabama passes voter ID law, closing 31 of its drivers license offices in predominantly black counties.

> Britney Spears and Kate Hudson had a game night. 

> Hamilton the musical may be filmed. Please, Lin Manuel-Miranda?

giphy (1)> American Apparel files for bankruptcy. 

> Mike Huckabee says the U.S. doesn’t have a gun problem: “We have a problem with sin and evil.”

> Salt Lake City may rename street after Harvey Milk. 

> Large turnout at LGBT rights conference in Honduras.

> If leaders in the Middle East were ‘Real Housewives.’

> Joe Biden will reportedly decide on whether or not he will make a presidential bid this week. 

> Doctors Without Borders to leave Kunduz, Afghanistan after US airstrike hit hospital killing 22 people including 12 staff. 

> Victims identified in the shooting at Umpqua Community College last week.

> Photographer Sage Sohier sought to dispel stereotypes about gay love in the 1980s with powerful photo series on gay couples in long term relationships. 

> Princess Leia’s famous gold bikini from Star Wars sells for $96,000 at auction.

> FOX News: Australia doesn’t have freedom because no guns, no hate speech.

> Florida: Pagan Libertarian candidate for Senate admits he killed a goat and drank its blood. 

> A Kinsey scale alternative created by a Redditor. “Useless or ingenious?”

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Sean Mandell

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Conservatives Launch Antigay Salvo as Catholic Bishops' Meeting Opens

Conservatives Launch Antigay Salvo as Catholic Bishops' Meeting Opens

Conservatives have fired the first shot in the culture battles Roman Catholic bishops are taking up at their synod on family issues at the Vatican this month, with Hungarian Cardinal Péter Erdo speaking out against gay relationships in his opening address.

Erdo, whose role as general relator is to guide the synod’s work, reaffirmed the church’s opposition to such relationships in the speech Monday morning, reports Crux, a website devoted to news about Catholicism.

“There is no basis for comparing or making analogies, even remotely, between homosexual unions and God’s plan for matrimony and the family,” he said. He was “quoting a 2003 document from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith,” Crux notes.

Erdo also said international groups should not demand that developing countries recognize same-sex marriage as a condition of receiving aid. He did, however, cite church doctrine “to the effect that ‘unjust discrimination’ against gays and lesbians is wrong,” Crux reports.

Additionally, his address included statements reasserting the church’s opposition to contraception, abortion, and access to communion by Catholics who are divorced and remarried, sending a signal that conservatives plan to take the offense rather than the defense, according to the site.

In the previous family synod, a year ago, Erdo and his fellow conservatives “appeared to be sidelined by more progressive prelates, especially Italian Archbishop Bruno Forte, in producing a controversial interim report calling for greater openness on divorce, homosexuality, and other hot-button topics,” Crux reports. (That progressive language was taken out when the report was finalized.) “If the opening day of Synod 2015 is any indication, Erdo has no intention of letting that happen again.”

Meanwhile, in celebrating Mass for synod participants Sunday, Pope Francis appeared to walk a fine line, upholding long-standing church doctrine while seeking to welcome a diverse population of Catholics. He offered “a stirring defense of traditional marriage coupled with an insistence that the Church must, at the same time, be merciful and compassionate to those who struggle,” another Crux article notes.

The church is “not a museum to keep or preserve,” he said, according to the Australian Broadcasting Corp. “It’s a place where the holy people of God move forward.” He added that the church must have “its doors open to welcome all those who knock” and not “point the finger in judgment,” language that may encourage those who support a more inclusive approach to LGBT people.

LGBT issues are likely to figure importantly in the synod, which comes shortly after the pope’s visit to the United States — a visit in which he met both with antigay Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis and with a gay couple. It also comes just after the Vatican fired a priest who came out as gay and partnered.

“The emotional intensity of the synod is amped up because of perceptions that the pope’s position is still a work in progress,” wrote commentator John Allen on Crux. “Whenever topics such as homosexuality and divorce are on the docket, feelings will run strong. What’s new now is a sense, however exaggerated, that movement might actually be possible. That’s elicited strong passions both from those who see such movement as desirable, and those who view it as alarming.”

The synod, involving 360 bishops from around the world, continues through October 25.

Trudy Ring

www.advocate.com/religion/2015/10/05/conservatives-launch-antigay-salvo-catholic-bishops-meeting-opens

October Is LGBT History Month: We've Come a Long Way, But There Is Still a Lot to Do

October Is LGBT History Month: We've Come a Long Way, But There Is Still a Lot to Do
Spandex grannies with perfect manicures, jeans-wearing gents in blazers and hot Jersey girls in tight dresses had some interesting company at the Borgata casino in Atlantic City the last weekend of September. Nine beauties in impossible heels and lavish wigs strutted across the stage at the Borgata’s Music Box Theatre, competing for the title of Miss’d America 2015-2016. About a thousand people shelled out at least $65 to cheer on their favorite queen, and the event – a fundraiser for the Greater Atlantic City GLBT (that’s what they call it) Alliance as well as the Shultz-Hill Foundation which supports the arts in New Jersey – has become a perennial fixture on the autumn social calendar for hundreds of same-sex couples from South Jersey, Philadelphia and New York. The mayor of Atlantic City, Donald Guardian, was in attendance, along with his husband and mother-in-law. And there were plenty of straight folks there as well, mostly older couples on dates, groups of girls having a night out, and random people like me who will go almost anywhere with anyone as long as there’s likely to be booze, music and some friendly faces.

No one who came to the Music Box in search of classic glamour could have walked away disappointed. The bathing suit competition, evening gown segment and talent portion were dazzling, far surpassing anything I’ve ever seen in the Miss America pageant — at least, what I can remember of it — from the last time I watched it when I was about eight. Beauty contests for cis women  —  which made perfect sense in the earlier half of the 20th Century when most women had few career prospects and their best hope for financial stability was to marry into wealth  —  were denounced by feminists and they declined in popularity after throngs of educated women entered the workforce. Sure, plenty of people still watch Miss America, but it’s not the Superbowl For Women anymore. In 2015, plenty of women watch football, so the Superbowl for women is, ya know, The Superbowl.

As I watched magnificent beings like Sapphira Cristal –  a classically-trained composer and opera singer with a 4-octave range  —  strut across the stage, I couldn’t help but wonder if a pageant for female impersonators is still relevant in 2015, when traditional ideas about gender identity, sexuality and beauty are constantly being challenged and redefined by mainstream America? Now that the Supreme Court has legalized gay marriage and Caitlyn Jenner has been on the cover of Vanity Fair and Laverne Cox on the cover of TIME. And former Disney princess and popstar Miley Cyrus has tacitly identified herself as genderqueer. Not to mention, live drag shows can be seen in every major city in the country, and for those who can’t make it to Lips N.Y.C. or The Abbey in West Hollywood or Attitudes in St. Louis or Hamburger Mary’s in Tampa, there’s Logo TV with RuPaul’s Drag Race and its spinoffs.

“Drag was once on the level of avant-garde fashion expressionism,” says fashion commentator Simon Doonan, in the new book “Fashion Underground: The World of Susanne Bartsch.” “We’ve reached a point where the whole idea of avant-garde doesn’t resonate the way it did.” What was once underground has become mainstream largely because mainstream America has become far more open-minded than it was on, say June 28, 1969 when New York City police raided the Stonewall Inn and faced the wrath of its gay and lesbian patrons during several nights of protests.

Activist Mark Segal who was present at Stonewall and later went on to found the Philadelphia Gay News was a featured judge at Miss’d America and the recipient of a lifetime achievement award the night of the pageant. In his new Memoir “And Then I Danced: Traveling the Road to LGBT Equality,” he writes about how he was kicked off a television show in the 1970s called Summertime on the Pier because he was dancing with another man, but four decades later, he cut a rug with his husband Jason Villemez while the Marine Corps Band played Barbra Streisand at the White House’s first ever Gay Pride reception hosted by President Obama. In Segal’s acceptance speech at Miss’d America, there was a powerful sense of “look at how far we’ve come.”

Indeed, for the Miss’d America Pageant  —  founded by partners John Schultz and Gary Hill as an homage to the talented gay men backstage at the Miss America pageant who were not permitted to compete for the crown themselves  —  to have made it from a tiny rented studio to the glittering stage of the Music Box at the Borgata, is a journey of a nearly unfathomable distance. And the Borgata’s relationship with its LGBT patrons wasn’t just a quick one night thing. They’ve been working on a campaign called “Out at the Borgata,” which features special events and accommodation packages to welcome their “LGBT friends.” It’s refreshing to see that the top-grossing casino in Atlantic City  —  which also boasts several bars, a spa, two nightclubs, more than a dozen restaurants and as many retail shops as a suburban mall  —  welcomes folks from across the gender and sexuality spectrum, but really they are just being smart business managers. Bringing in gay business and tourism didn’t exactly hurt San Francisco’s Castro or Miami’s South Beach or New York’s Chelsea neighborhoods.

After a few hours of bathing suit poses, evening gown struts and resplendent musical performances, FiFi Dubois, a statuesque redhead who performed an interpretive dance to Maya Angelou’s recitation of “Phenomenal Woman” was crowned Miss’d America. “I grew up in Tampa, Florida and I went to a high school for the arts,” said DuBois at a press conference after the pageant. “But even at a high school for the arts, there was a lot of gay bashing and backlash from the people who were not part of the arts program. So to be on this stage tonight and hear a crowd scream my name and not boo or laugh because I’m a boy in tights was the greatest feeling in the whole wide world.” Runner-ups Pattaya Hart (a dance teacher who originally hails from the Thailand) and Alexis Michelle (an actor and make-up artist) similarly expressed how their drag personas enable them to make themselves who they want to be in life.

The celebration-of-life vibe continued at the after-party, which was held at a banquet room in the Borgata that seemed like the perfect setting for a bat mitzvah. And it kind of felt like we were all among family. Miss’d America host Carson Kressley (the breakout star of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy) was graciously posing for pictures, and the chorus boys who performed alongside the contestants in the pageant raised some extra money for charity by go-go dancing in their skivvies. “We’ve come a long way,” said Suzanne, a spiky-haired woman in her late 40s who works as a senior electrician for a utility company. “But there’s still a lot to do. It’s all about educating people and helping them understand that we all want the same things. To be ourselves.”

After the show, while thinking about the work ahead for LGBT folks, their supporters and everyone who supports human rights for all, I came across a website called 76crimes.com which details violence against individuals around the world based on sexuality and gender identity. And I got chills when I thought about Suzanne’s exhortation to “be ourselves.” India Clarke, a 25-year-old transwoman of color who was murdered in Tampa, Florida on July 21 was just trying to be herself. And so was Bri Golec, a 22-year-old transwoman who was stabbed to death by her father in Akron, Ohio last February. And teenager Cameron Langrell from Racine who took her own life in May after being tormented by bullies in school. And Francela Mendez from El Salvador. And thousands of individuals in the United States and around the world who died violently or suffered harm because of the hatred and fear and ignorance of others. Until there is an end to violence and discrimination based on sexuality and gender identity, and the laws change in the 76 nations around the world where homosexuality is illegal, the act of performing in drag isn’t really mainstream. It remains an act of courage. And those who can go to Lips or the Abbey or Hamburger Mary’s or the Borgata and just “be ourselves” must not forget how far the LGBT community has come. And this October, during LGBT History Month, we must also remember how much farther there is to go.

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Margaret Cho opens up about online threats, urges people to take them seriously

Margaret Cho opens up about online threats, urges people to take them seriously

Comic, actress and activist Margaret Cho has long enjoyed interacting with fans on social media.

But she has not been enjoying it so much in recent weeks.

‘I’ve experienced numerous breaches of security, a couple of very troubling face to face interactions and so much online trolling I can’t help but believe it’s all somehow connected,’ Cho writes in a Facebook post.

She advises taking action.

‘I want everyone in the reach of my voice to keep their phones charged, film everything, screenshot and report ALL offensive people and ALL threats on social media. You can block the dummies but I report them for their outright stupidity, because I have to have a bit of fun too.’

Cho adds: ‘BUT UNDERSTAND ‘Haters’ are potential killers. We’ve seen this countless times now. They say it on social media, then they go DO IT. We’ve got to be vigilant and protect ourselves. Stay alive. I need you all here with me. I love you.’

Cho, who has nearly 400,000 followers on Facebook, sometimes takes things a step further by taking a screenshot of the offensive message and sending it to the sender’s employers, spouses, loved ones and even celebrities they like.

‘Ask their employers if they are aware of this person’s activity online and if they condone this type of behavior,’ she advises. ‘That usually shuts EVERYTHING DOWN. And it’s pretty gratifying. Bully the bullies with class and grace. It’s the BEST.

‘Sometimes Twitter is slow to help so take matters into your own hands by using their hateful words against them,’ she writes. ‘Omg it’s so fun. I’m so into ‪#‎hateshaming‬.’

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