Gay guy calls his childhood bully, and it goes better than he could have dreamed

Gay guy calls his childhood bully, and it goes better than he could have dreamed

A gay guy has done what many of us, no matter how old we are, would be terrified to do: call up your childhood bully.

Plenty of us, whether we’re LGBTI or not, didn’t have the greatest childhoods. And whether you were called names or beaten up or even just made to feel small by your classmates, those scars can last a lifetime.

Riyadh, a YouTuber from Ireland, said he wanted to be the ‘guinea pig’ for all the people out there that were bullied at school.

‘[I wanted to show] that after time passes, your bullies just end up being normal people. They’re not evil. It’s not a scar that should be there for ever,’ he said.

The actual conversation is intense, but only from Riyadh’s point of view. The guy who used to torture him thought ‘everything was alright’ between them in the first place.

But when it ends, Riyadh says: ‘I don’t think that could have gone better than it did. He was genuinely sorry and I don’t think he even realized the affect it had on me and even the effect it has on me now. It was very cathartic.’

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Gay Marriage Proposal of the Day: Mister Chase and Brian

Gay Marriage Proposal of the Day: Mister Chase and Brian

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Michael Chase DiMartino (aka Mister Chase) has been dating his boyfriend Brian for 6 years and decided this year in Provincetown that it was time to pop the question.

Being a pop singer-songwriter, Mister Chase decided to let the creative juices flow and wrote a song for the occasion, intending to craft a music video of their days together (“The Best Days”) as a gift to celebrate their engagement.

Would you like to see how it turned out?

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Of course you would:

If you’d like to check out some of Mister Chase’s other songs, here’s his cover of “Take Me To Church” and another cover, Bonnie McKee’s “American Girl”, in which he takes the track in a male direction.

azzarello_lowmanCheck out these other beautiful gay marriage proposals of Justin and WadeBraeden and Ryan, the Italian acrobat couple, and Patrick and Gavin at Disney World’s Boardwalk resort.

Or browse a lot more of them on our Gay Marriage Proposal channel.

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Andy Towle

Gay Marriage Proposal of the Day: Mister Chase and Brian

Teen jailed after threatening gay man that he would ‘cut his dick off’

Teen jailed after threatening gay man that he would ‘cut his dick off’

A man was kidnapped by a 19-year-old who threatened to ‘cut his dick off’ if he didn’t give him money, a court has heard.

In what may rank as one of the worst Craigslist meet-ups ever, a 51-year-old had posted an ad on the website looking for a sexual encounter in Darwin, Australia.

Mitchell Hall, the 19-year-old, responded and asked him to pick him from Winnellie after midnight on 25 January. He was waiting for him with a beer and they drove to nearby Fisherman’s Wharf.

When the victim was parking the car, Hall pulled out a knife, the NT Supreme Court was told.

The court then heard Hall pushed the knife into the man’s groin, threatening to ‘cut his dick off’. When they finally reached an ATM, the victim logged into his bank account.

Hall then shouted in rage when he realised his target was $7,000 in debt, screaming and calling him a ‘faggot’.

The victim managed to escape when Hall stabbed the knife into the roof of the car, punching his kidnapper in the face. When he ran, he tripped and fractured two toes, his wrist and tore a knee ligament.

When he realised he had lost his victim, Hall then drove to Palmerston where he set the car alight.

Hall’s defense said the teen has a ‘conduct disorder’, considering he was expelled from several schools for violence and started using the drug ice when he was 16.

The robbery and attack was not drug or alcohol-fueled, the authorities decided.

Hall had faced life in prison when he admitted aggravated robbery, unlawfully cause serious harm, deprivation of liberty, demand with menaces, car theft and arson.

‘Your conduct was quite bizarre,’ Chief Justice Trevor Riley told Hall in court.

‘The victim described the ordeal as “sheer terror”… [and you have] shown no remorse or insight.’

Hall was sentenced to five years and eight months in prison.

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DVD: “Spy,” “Fulboy,” “Lyle,” “Dishonored Bodies,” & More!

DVD: “Spy,” “Fulboy,” “Lyle,” “Dishonored Bodies,” & More!

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Kick back with a whole mash-up of genres and queer twists on genres this week in home entertainment.

We have Argentinean football drama Fulboy (above), Melissa McCarthy comedy Spy, slow burn horror indie Lyle and Spanish gay short compilation Dishonored Bodies.

Scroll down for the trailers and details!

 

Spy

($26.99 Blu-ray, $19.99 DVD; Fox)

Melissa McCarthy and her Bridesmaids director Paul Feig re-team for this comedy about a C.I.A. desk jockey thrown into field work when an agent is killed. Funny stuff and of course espionage action, with supporting turns from Allison Janney, Jude Law, Jason Statham, and Rose Byrne as the villain. Extras include featurettes deleted scenes and alternate scenes.

 

Fulboy

($24.99 DVD; TLA)

Argentinean Martin, who always nursed dreams of being a pro soccer player, is allowed to intrude that world thanks to his brother Tomas. Armed with a camera, Martin truly gets the inside scoop on this homoerotic world — and hot naked bodies.


Lyle

($24.99 DVD; Breaking Glass Pictures)

A pregnant stay-at-home lesbian mom, Leah (Gaby Hoffman), moves into a new place in Brooklyn with her wife and their toddler daughter. Soon enough Leah feels that something isn’t right in this new place, and things get a bit Rosemary’s Baby

 

Dishonored Bodies

($24.99 DVD; TLA)

This compilation of nine gay short films by Spanish director Juanmo Carrillo runs the gamut from a romance between neighbors (Scaffolding) to the titular experimental and erotic piece. There’s something for everyone (except perhaps Kim Davis)!

 

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Unexpected

 

Entourage

 

Cop Car

 

Zipper

 

Aloft

Lawrence Ferber

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Matt Damon Appears on ‘Ellen’ to Correct His Remarks About Gay Actors: WATCH

Matt Damon Appears on ‘Ellen’ to Correct His Remarks About Gay Actors: WATCH

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Actor Matt Damon appeared on Ellen and took the time to clarify his comments from a recent interview with The Guardian which angered quite a few people. Damon’s original comments seemed to suggest that gay actors should stay in the closet in order to be more successful:

“I think you’re a better actor the less people know about you period. And sexuality is a huge part of that. Whether you’re straight or gay, people shouldn’t know anything about your sexuality because that’s one of the mysteries that you should be able to play.’”

DeGeneres invited Damon on to clarify his comments. Damon explained that his comments were misconstrued by the media, citing the gay rumors that tabloids circulated in the past regarding Damon’s close working relationship with Ben Affleck as the media taking words, and actions, out of context.

“I was talking about actors are more effective when you know less about their personal lives. And was talking about it in the context of when Ben and I first started and people wrote all these articles, when Good Will Hunting came out, that we were gay because it was two guys who wrote the script. And feeling like oh, well we can’t even like then you have to address it and then it’s like well I’m not gonna throw my friends under the bus, who are gay, and act like it’s some kind of a disease. How do you even address it?”

He added:

“So you’re always in these kind of weird things. But in this day and age I said this thing to The Guardian and it got turned into… and I was just trying to say actors are more effective when they’re a mystery. Right? And somebody picked it up and said I said gay actors should get back in the closet. Which is like I mean it’s stupid, but it is painful when things get said that you don’t believe. And then it gets represented that that’s what you believe. Because in the blogosphere there’s no real penalty for just taking the ball and running with it. Ya know what I mean? You’re just trying to click on your thing.”

DeGeneres also adds some levity to the conversation. Watch:

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Anthony Costello

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After Three Years Jailed With Men, Ashley Diamond Speaks

After Three Years Jailed With Men, Ashley Diamond Speaks

Just two weeks after she was released from Augusta State Medical Prison in Georgia, Ashley Diamond finally heard some good news from a federal judge. She would be allowed to pursue her legal claim that the Department of Corrections in Georgia unlawfully discriminated against her because she is a transgender woman, not only denying her medically necessary transition-related care but allegedly failing to protect her from repeated rapes and assaults while she spent three years incarcerated with men.

“It was torture. I might be free now, but I am still struggling,” Diamond says in a phone interview with The Advocate. “Straight out of solitary confinement, but into another confinement here on parole. Parole stipulates that I must stay here in Rome [Ga.], and this town can be like a prison too. Yes, it’s a town in the Deep South, and down here you feel it even more that the transgender issue is the civil rights issue of our time.” 

The latest development in Diamond’s case, which epitomizes the struggles of transgender inmates nationwide, arrived just days after that call, when U.S. District Judge Marc Thomas Treadwell denied the state’s motion to dismiss in Diamond v. Owens et. al on September 14. Treadwell’s decision, while not a final judgment, does pave the way for Diamond’s case to proceed to discovery and trial, according to a court filing provided to The Advocate by the Southern Poverty Law Center.

Diamond, 37 and originally from Rome, was released from Augusta State Medical Prison August 31 after facing a harrowing three years of incarceration at various Georgia prisons, where, she alleges, she was repeatedly physically and sexually assaulted, interned at men’s facilities despite her female gender identity, relocated after receiving threats, denied medically necessary health care, and subjected to pronounced, near-daily verbal harassment. 

Originally given an 11-year sentence for a conviction of nonviolent burglary and theft, Diamond explains that her parole could last eight years. Her hometown of Rome is the largest town on the foothills of the Appalachian Mountains. But, she explains:

“It’s still a small town in the Deep South, a former cotton-port town that has never been right to black or trans people or anybody different. Being raised in the Deep South, I have enough experience with prejudice to know that it still exists. Rome feels a long way from Atlanta. If you can’t make it to a big city, then you’re spinning your wheels here, and trying to make an income is hard so you get into trouble just to try to make it, and now I am back here on parole.”

Ashley Diamond

Diamond’s experience of feeling trapped in a small town in the Deep South resembles that of Alena Bradford, another low-to-no income black trans woman whose story of living in Albany, Ga., gained attention following a July 24 article in U.K. newspaper The Guardian. Transgender people, be they incarcerated or not, face profound obstacles in Southern states, where there are still few laws that protect them from discrimination in housing and employment, few statutes to address hate crimes, and few avenues to obtain affirming, competent health care, as the Human Rights Campaign’s interactive Maps of State Laws and Policies makes clear

Speaking to The Advocate, Diamond details the excruciating, multifaceted harm she experienced while continually denied hormone therapy, which she had been on for nearly two decades before she was incarcerated:

“When they denied me [hormone therapy] I felt more than anxiety attacks. I felt physical pain, pain from watching your body morph, withdrawing, and those are medical problems. There were times I felt like I would die, when guards dragged me on pavement to solitary [confinement].”

And Diamond’s struggle for humane, adequate care isn’t unique to trans women housed in Georgia’s correctional system. The Advocate continues to follow the case of Ky Peterson, a black trans man from rural Americus, Ga., who is serving a questionably timed sentence for killing his rapist, has been repeatedly denied access to his own medically necessary transition-related care, and was often placed in solitary confinement.  

Diamond’s early release marked a breakthrough in her struggle against the Georgia Department of Corrections, prison reform advocates noted. Although her claims of discrimination and violations of her Eighth Amendment rights got a helping hand from the Department of Justice in April when the federal agency issued a statement supporting her claims, her early release was nearly unprecedented. 

“According to Georgia’s State Board of Pardons and Paroles, it is rare for inmates to actually be granted parole at their initial eligibility date, and even less common for inmates to be released early, as is the case with Ms. Diamond, who was released several months before her initial eligibility date in November 2015,” explains Chinyere Ezie, an SPLC staff attorney who is representing Diamond. “This date changed inexplicably to July earlier this month.”

When asked if Diamond’s early parole might be considered a tacit acknowledgment by the Georgia Department of Corrections that it cannot adequately and safely house trans inmates, Ezie is straightforward.

“Although the department has made statements to the contrary, that is precisely what we believe,” Ezie says in an email exchange with The Advocate. “It hardly seems like a coincidence that Ashley’s release came days after we filed papers with the court highlighting the Georgia Department of Corrections’ continued failings and unwillingness to provide Ashley and other transgender inmates safe and appropriate housing or adequate medical care, as the Constitution requires.”

Now,Ezie expects to take full advantage of Judge Treadwell’s rejection of the state’s attempt to dismiss Diamond’s case, pressing on with the lawsuit vigorously. “SPLC’s advocacy on behalf of Ashley Diamond and transgender inmates like her is far from over,” Ezie promises The Advocate. “Our lawsuit against the Georgia Department of Corrections is still ongoing, and we are monitoring the experiences of other transgender inmates currently incarcerated in Georgia, who woefully remain without care. Because the abuses we are seeing are pursuant to patterns or practices within the department, we have not ruled out seeking further intervention — both from the court and the Department of Justice.”

For her part, even while her movement is limited in her small Georgia hometown, Diamond is clear about her mission. “Why is this lawsuit important?” she asks rhetorically. “So what happened to me never happens again.”

Cleis Abeni

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Find out about Cincinnati’s new LGBTI marketing push

Find out about Cincinnati’s new LGBTI marketing push

 

The Cincinnatti USA Convention and Visitors Bureau is launching a new LGBTI marketing plan to attract more gay tourism to the Ohio city.

According to the Cincinnati Business Courier, the organization has hired David Ziegler, a former ticketing director of the Cincinnati Reds, as its new national sales manager.

Ziegler, who started his new role in January, will oversee the city’s attendance at three LGBTI market conferences, and its first ‘Love Wins Weekend.’

According to the publication, the CVB is also working with hotels in the region to make them TAG approved – meaning they meet certain LGBTI friendly criteria. So far, hotels such as the Westin Cincinnati, the Kingsgate Marriott Conference Center and the Cincinnatian have received the certification.

The CVB is also a member of the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association.

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Jamie Tabberer

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Don't Ask Matt Damon or Tom Hardy About Their Sexuality (Unless It Involves Their Wives)

Don't Ask Matt Damon or Tom Hardy About Their Sexuality (Unless It Involves Their Wives)

Openly straight Matt Damon doesn’t think actors should talk about their sexuality. Meanwhile, Tom Hardy feels similarily, especially when the questions apply to him. 

During a round of press promoting Legend, Hardy’s new film in which he plays real-life gangster twins Ronnie and Reggie Kray, a reporter from an LGBT publication did the unthinkable — he asked Hardy if he found it difficult for celebrities to discuss their sexuality, obliquely referencing a 2008 interview in which Hardy said he had been intimate with men.

“What on earth are you on about?” Hardy snapped. “I don’t find it difficult for celebrities to talk about their sexuality. Are you asking about my sexuality? … Why?”

Hardy shut down the reporter and swiftly moved on to other questions. The exchange was uncomfortable and left many questions. So Hardy later explained why the question was off-putting.

“I’m under no obligation to share anything to do with my family, my children, my sexuality — that’s nobody’s business but my own,” Hardy told The Daily Beast. “…It’s important destigmatizing sexuality and gender inequality in the workplace, but to put a man on the spot in a room full of people designed purely for a salacious reaction? To be quite frank, it’s rude. If he’d have said that to me in the street, I’d have said the same thing back: ‘I’m sorry, who the fuck are you?’”

It’s not incomprehensible that the reporter would ask about Hardy’s sexuality. After all, Hardy had said he had been intimate with people of the same gender (although he kind of took it back). Additionally, since one of the twins he plays in his latest film is portrayed as gay (some historians say both twins were in fact bisexual), it makes perfect sense that Hardy would be asked about his sexuality by someone writing from an LGBT publication. However, Hardy was having none of it. And that’s what’s truly off-putting.

Hardy responded as if he was asked a dark secret and the Internet wrongfully praised his response. There is nothing shameful about being LGBT, and by stating that the question is “rude,” Hardy is implying that sexual orientation, at least a nonheterosexual orientation, is something that should not be discussed. He’s implying that sexual orientation should remain hidden. Our sexual orientation is an integral part of who we are. Why is Hardy trying to hide it?

Few male celebs have opened up about being attracted to more than one gender. A few — like Alan Cumming — have proudly used the word “bisexual.” However, most of Hollywood’s leading men are, at least publicly, gay or straight. Few men are openly in between. Where are all the sexually fluid men in Hollywood?

Hardy never said he was heterosexual. He didn’t say it in the initial interview or in any of his follow-up comments He never fully took back his 2008 comments either. He just said that his past experiences as a young adult with people of the same gender shouldn’t be reflected over his current life choices.

Hardy may have experimented as a young adult and found that it wasn’t his thing. Or he could be bisexual and uncomfortable discussing his sexuality (especially since he’s currently married to a woman). Whatever the case may be — so what? Why can’t he discuss it openly? Is he uncomfortable discussing it? If so, why?

Sexuality is far from a private matter, even for ostensibly private people like Matt Damon, who often poses with his wife on red carpets. Heterosexuals are given spaces to publicly express their sexuality every day, from the rings on their fingers to holding hands in the street. Heterosexuality is prominently and fearlessly displayed, and queer sexualities should receive the same treatment. Straight men and women shouldn’t be the only ones allowed to have their sexuality be public.  

Asking Hardy a question on his sexuality — as opposed to his sex life — should not be offensive. But we seem to have a problem when things aren’t entirely gay or straight — or, in Damon’s case, not straight. When someone’s sexuality lands on the bisexual spectrum, almost all individuals fear saying too much.

It’s 2015, and men who have been with other men as well as women still have a nearly impossible time discussing it. There is an idea with heterosexual men that once you are intimate with a man, your attraction to women is no longer valid. Obviously, this idea is false and deeply rooted in biphobia. Men who have experimented with men should be able to talk about their sexuality as well as men who realize they’re attracted to both men and women.

Hardy admits he could have handled the situation better, by addressing the question head on. He could have answered that he’s straight, that he’ bi, or that his experimentation with men was just that — experimentation. Sexuality should never be subject that is avoided out of privacy, or worse, shame. Society will only accept sexually queer folk once celebrities like Hardy are forthcoming when asked questions about their orientation or people like Damon truly understand their privilege. But when people like Hardy deflect, it perpetuates the idea that being anything other than straight is in some way private and shameful.

Hardy messed up because there is only one wrong answer when asked about your sexual orientation: silence.

ELIEL CRUZ is a contributor to The Advocate on bisexuality. His work has also been found in Religion News Service, The Huffington Post, Mic, Sojourners, The Washington Post, Patheos, Everyday Feminism, Details, Rolling Stone, Vice, and Slate. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter.

Eliel Cruz

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Tunisia’s Justice Minister backs repeal of gay sex ban

Tunisia’s Justice Minister backs repeal of gay sex ban

A case where a 22-year-old student was sentenced to a year’s jail after his same-sex relationship was uncovered as part of a murder investigation has prompted Tunisian Justice Minister Mohamed Salah Ben Aissa to comment on the future of the country’s anti-sodomy law.

The unnamed student was arrested on 6 September in the resort city of Sousse after his number was found on the body of a man he had been sleeping with.

He denied any involvement in the killing but confessed his relationship with the deceased to explain his connection to him.

Authorities believed his story after subjecting him to a medical examination but handed him over to prosecutors as a result of his confession.

The case provoked outcry by human rights groups both inside and outside Tunisia including Human Rights Watch (HRW), prompting the group’s deputy Middle East and North Africa director Eric Goldstein to call out the Tunisian Government over the continued use of the law.

‘The Tunisian government should not be prosecuting people for private and consensual sexual acts,’ Goldstein said on Monday.

‘If Tunisia truly aspires to be a regional leader on human rights, it should lead the way in decriminalizing homosexual conduct.’

Goldstein also warned against the use of so-called medical tests to ‘prove’ a person’s homosexuality.

‘Medical professionals who participate in forced anal examinations of people suspected of homosexuality violate medical ethics and facilitate serious miscarriages of justice,’ Goldstein said.

Reacting on a non-state owned radio station, Justice Minister Mohamed Salah Ben Aissa addressed the issue, saying he was personally in favor of scrapping the law.

‘My problem is Article 230 … Nothing can justify infringement on private life,’ Ben Aissa said, according to reports.

Consensual sex acts between males in Tunisia can attract sentences of up to three years in prison.

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Andrew Potts

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