Here's Where You Can See The Largest Queer Fashion Show During NYFW

There’s only one place where you can see the largest queer fashion show at 2015 New York Fashion Week — and it’s not where you would expect.

For the second year in a row, the “leading style website for masculine women and trans identified individuals,” dapperQ, is spearheading a massive queer fashion show at The Brooklyn Museum, this year partnering with bklyn boihood, DYDH Productions, and Posture Magazine.

The show, titled VERGE, will take place on Thursday, Sept. 17, 2015 at 7:30 p.m. dapperQ previously produced another show at the Brooklyn Museum last December called un(Heeled), with a slightly different focus. Anita Dolce Vita, dapperQ Editor-in-Chief, told The Huffington Post:

“dapperQ produced a very successful queer fashion show at Brooklyn Museum last December that primarily featured dandy, masculine attire, which is congruent with dapperQ’s GQ-esque aesthetic. However, recognizing that queer style is not fully represented by masculinity or the dandy trend, we wanted to include a broader, more diverse range of queer identities and styles on the runway for New York Fashion Week. We connected with associate producers bklyn boihood and Posture Magazine to create the vision of VERGE: a fashion show that features designers whose work is systemically rooted in gender nonconformity. As executive producers, we partnered with Brooklyn Museum again, this time tying the show to the visual activism Zanele Muholi’s work, which is currently on exhibit at the Museum.”

“This show is important to me because it is a disruption,” Gabrielle Royal, dapperQ contributor and Program Director at NYU Law, added. “The production of VERGE comes at a critical time in our community, a unique moment in our journey as a people. The show is less about what fashion does for its onlookers, the aesthetics, but more about creating an affirming space for members of our community to exist, and to celebrate our existence unapologetically!  There is always risk involved with being true to yourself, in whatever form that takes shape in a person’s life. It takes courage to take this kind of risk. The production of VERGE is a revolutionary act and I’m happy to be part of this critical movement and part of the dapperQ team.”

Featured in this year’s show will be NotEqual, KQK by Karen Quirion, LACTIC, Fony, MARKANTOINE, SAGA, SunSun and Jag & Co. 

A panel organized by bklyn boihood will precede the show, focusing on, in the words of Dolce Vita, “honoring the Zanele Muholi exhibition [at The Brooklyn Museum] and addressing the politics of black queerness in fashion, illuminating the voices and lived experiences of Black queer people and providing a platform for highlighting art as activism.”

The panel discussion, called “Walking Isibonelo/Evidence; Fashion as Social Activism and the Diasporic Politics of Black Queer Bodied Visibility,” will take place in the Elizabeth A. Sackler Center for Feminist Art on the 4th floor of the Brooklyn Museum at 6:00 p.m.

VERGE will immediately follow at 7:30 p.m. in Beaux-Arts Court on the 3rd floor — head here for more information. Brooklyn Museum operates under a suggested donation to support their programs. Their general admission prices are suggested contribution amounts, but no one will be turned away due to lack of funds. 

Check out more photos of the featured designers below.

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Germany’s top cardinal tells government they have no right to redefine marriage

Germany’s highest-ranking cardinal has said the state cannot redefine marriage, as it is not a state-made institution.

Richard Marx, chairman of the German Bishops’ Conference and serving the Archdiocese of Munich and Freising, spoke at the Catholic church’s traditional St Michael-reception in Berlin on Tuesday evening (9 September).

Chancellor Angela Merkel, as well as other high-ranking politicians and representatives of the Central Council of Jews in Germany and various Muslim associations, attended the reception.

‘Human dignity is not state-made, it’s not made by the constitution, which is why neither the constitution nor the state can pass judgment on it,’ Marx started the segment of his speech focusing on marriage and families.

‘And this also applies to the topic of marriage and family.’

Without mentioning the words marriage equality, or directly talking same-sex marriage, Marx instead referenced the ‘discussions prevalent before the [summer] holidays, which may return’.

After the Irish marriage equality referendum in May 2015, the discussion about granting same-sex couples full marriage equality has gained momentum in Germany.

‘The state of course has to overcome discrimination; I think that is, as part of a well-understood enlightenment, a positive development towards man’s freedom, important,’ Marx said.

‘But the state cannot give marriage a new definition.’

The cardinal argued that this was not a church-internal concept, but that marriage came before the state and the ‘relationship between man and woman, which is open for children’ was most Germans’ wish – which is why it should be granted special protection.

‘Marriage precedes the state, and it is necessary: this institution is necessary for the survival, for the future of society,’ Marx said.

‘And that’s why the state doesn’t just hold the right to, but is responsible for, protecting this area in a special way.’

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HRC and TurnOUT! Charlotte Rev up for September Election

With early voting in full swing and the September 15 primary election day fast-approaching, HRC staff and volunteers stepped up outreach to voters over Labor Day weekend, reminding fair-minded Charlotteans how critical this year’s city council elections are.
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POLLS: Sanders Leads Hillary in Iowa, Trump Tops 30% GOP Support

Two new polls show anti-establishment candidates surging in both political parties this election cycle.

According to a new Quinnipiac University poll released this morning, Sen. Bernie Sanders has overtaken Hillary Clinton in Iowa, the crucial first state in the road to securing the nomination. Sanders now leads Clinton 41% to 40% among caucus-goers.

Last week, we reported on a separate poll that found Sanders leading Clinton in New Hampshire by 9 points.

On the other side of the isle, Donald Trump has now become the first Republican presidential candidate to top 30% support in the GOP race, according to a new CNN/ORC poll.

CNN has more:

Trump gained 8 points since August to land at 32% support, and has nearly tripled his support since just after he launched his campaign in June. The new poll finds former neurosurgeon Ben Carson rising 10 points to land in second place with 19%. Together, these two non-politicians now hold the support of a majority of Republicans and Republican-leaning independents, and separately, both are significantly ahead of all other competitors.

Former Florida Gov. Jeb Bush stands in third place with 9%, down 4 points since August, and Texas Sen. Ted Cruz holds fourth place with 7%. Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee and Wisconsin Gov. Scott Walker follow at 5%, with all other candidates at 3% or less, including Florida Sen. Marco Rubio, who notched the only other statistically significant shift in the poll by falling 5 points since August.

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POLLS: Sanders Leads Hillary in Iowa, Trump Tops 30% GOP Support

Op-ed: Why We Told Hillary to 'Say Her Name'

Recently, we disrupted Hillary Clinton’s campaign event in Cleveland, asking her to “divest from private prisons, invest in black trans women.” As representatives of Black Lives Matter and GetEqual, our ask was strategic and intentional. Since Hillary Clinton makes equality for women a critical tenet of her campaign platform, we demand that Clinton — and our own movement for black lives — center on the black transgender women so often left out of conversations about gender and racial equity. As cisgender black women, we are fighting for our trans family: We understand that black liberation means all black people, and we resist the idea that anyone is disposable in our work.

We are in a state of emergency — the murder rate of trans women of color, particularly black trans women, is higher than ever, with at least 20 women murdered since the beginning of 2015. Black trans women make up at least 13 of those killed — in the state of Ohio alone, five black trans women have been murdered since 2011. 

After three trans women of color were murdered in a 24-hour period, Elle Hearns and other trans female Black Lives Matter organizers called on cisgender black people to act. Black Lives Matter declared last Tuesday as Trans Liberation Tuesday, and nearly 20 cities answered the call, holding actions around the country. In her speech for D.C.’s Trans Liberation Tuesday, our friend and comrade Elle Hearns called on cis black people to do more, saying: 

“When you talk about ‘Black Lives Matter,’ you do not think of black trans people. You do not think of the black trans women who are being murdered. You do not think about the black trans people who carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. … We learned about the murders of five black trans women in one day. And there was no outrage. There was no shutting down in the streets. There was nothing.”

We are outraged. We cannot allow silence to herald the death of our black trans sisters any longer. We cannot accept vague declarations that “Black Lives Matter” from candidates seeking the black vote while taking money from those who profit from the criminalization of black people.

Hillary Clinton holds unique culpability for the destruction of black trans lives: Her campaign is funded in part by lobbyists and lawyers for private prison companies like Corrections Corporation of America and the GEO Group. 

Hillary Clinton’s previous meetings with those working with Black Lives Matter have ended with little acknowledgement of how she can fight for black lives as a candidate.  Her attempts to deflect criticism by repeatedly demanding “policy proposals” from activists ignore the responsibility that she and other political leaders hold for propping up the broken criminal justice system.

More importantly, over 41 percent of black trans women have been arrested and incarcerated at some point in their lives, and Hillary’s funders and bundlers play a pivotal role in those experiences of incarceration. As organizations across the country ask Hillary to divest from private prisons, we acknowledge the unique harm that private prisons inflict upon black trans women, and ask Hillary to not only address the murders of black trans women across the country, but to divest from a violent system that harms so many black trans women. In order for Hillary to truly demonstrate that she believes “Black Lives Matter,” she must divest from the private prison money that is funding her campaign and actively, intentionally invest in black trans lives.

This is why we protested Hillary Clinton’s campaign event, shouting “Say Her Name,” while reciting the names of black trans women killed in Ohio, the very state Clinton was visiting — women like Cemia Dove from Cleveland. While we shouted the names of our black trans sisters, the women most deeply impacted by the gender oppression Hillary Clinton speaks about on the campaign trail, Clinton continued to speak, waving us off with “I’ll talk to you about this later.” Unsurprisingly, Hillary Clinton did not meet with us after we were escorted by security out of the event, nor did she acknowledge the state of emergency that black trans women are facing in this country.

Our action held Hillary Clinton accountable for her investment in the systems that damage black trans women’s quality of life, but we are also holding the movement accountable through our disruption. We can no longer afford a movement for black lives that does not center black trans women in our work. We can no longer afford to stay silent when a black trans woman is murdered — and neither can our movement.

RIAN BROWN (left) is a first-generation rising senior majoring in religion at Kalamazoo College. The injustices that she both experienced and witnessed in her hometown of Cleveland ignited a flame in her to fight for freedom. Rian has joined the Black Lives Matter team, and is working locally and collaboratively across the network. Rian is dedicated to the long-haul fight for freedom and leading with the strength and power of vulnerability. When she isn’t trying to finish schoolwork and convene change, one may find her listening to Beyoncé or watching and live-tweeting Scandal. Follow her on Twitter @FearlessNFree.

ANGELA PEOPLES joined GetEqual in September 2014. She got her start as a progressive advocate in 2007, building student power and fighting for college access and affordability with the United States Students Association. In 2010 she joined the team at Generation Progress to help run policy and advocacy campaigns around issue like the DREAM Act, affordable healthcare, and student loan reform. Angela has spent the last three years working to improve consumer protection laws for student loan borrowers and young consumers at the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. She also served as cochair of the Generational Alliance Leadership team from 2012 to 2014 and on the executive committee of the Gertrude Stein Democratic Club. As president of the Stein Democrats, Angela has focused on increasing club membership and cultivating a more transparent and inclusive culture within the organization. She is a graduate of Western Michigan University, where she studied political pcience and Africana studies.

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Introducing ShameOver: A Conversation About Men's Mental Health

In our culture, men are expected to be “strong” or “tough.” We regard the expression of feelings as a weakness. Look no further than the Webster’s Dictionary definition of “man,” which uses this as an exemplary sentence: “Don’t cry, little boy: be a man!” 

Given this climate, it’s no surprise that when it comes to mental illness — and health issues tied to our emotions — men are encouraged to remain stoic, to their great detriment.

More than 6 million men in America suffer from depression each year, a condition that’s very manageable with the right kind of treatment. Yet studies continually show that men are averse to receiving that treatment. 

According to the World Health Organization, there’s even a gender bias when it comes to diagnosing psychological disorders. Doctors are more likely to diagnose women with depression than men, even when they have similar symptoms or score the same on standardized measures of the disorder.

A recent mental health analysis also found that men are more likely not to speak up if they’re having suicidal thoughts. This is incredibly alarming, given that research shows middle-aged men are the most likely to die by suicide of any demographic.

So why isn’t anyone talking about it?

According to John F. Greden, executive director of the University of Michigan Comprehensive Depression Center, the arbitrary definition of what it means to be masculine may have a lot to do with it.

“Men have a more difficult time acknowledging, describing or owning [mental illness] than women do,” he told HuffPost. “Men need to recognize that this is not something they can just snap out of, and it’s most certainly not a sign of weakness.”

That’s why we created ShameOver. It’s time to have an ongoing conversation about men’s mental health in a way that eliminates the stigma and shame of talking about it in the first place. It’s time we reclaim the definition about what it really means to “be a man” in the face of emotional and mental health issues.

As a project of our mental health initiative Stronger Together, ShameOver will be covering how notions of masculinity influence negative stereotypes. We’ll dive into what measures are being taken to improve screening and outreach for men. We’ll also share personal stories from men — and the people who love them — about their triumphs and tribulations with mental health disorders.

But most of all, ShameOver will serve as a stigma-free space to face and embrace the well-being challenges that we all experience every single day. Mental health isn’t just a female issue — it’s a human issue.

This post is part of ShameOver: It’s Time To Talk About Men’s Mental Health, a HuffPost Healthy Living editorial initiative that aims reclaim what it means to “be strong” by addressing the stigma men face in disclosing and seeking support for mental health issues. Each week we’ll share features and personal stories about men and their caregivers as it relates to suicide, mental illness and emotional well-being. If you have a story you’d like to share, email us at [email protected].

If you — or someone you know — need help, please call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. If you are outside of the U.S., please visit the International Association for Suicide Prevention for a database of international resources.

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Say hi to the all-new AppleTV

Apple has announced a drastic overhaul for its AppleTV on yesterday’s (9 September) much-awaited autumn keynote.

The company may have abandoned the idea of releasing its own flat-screen television, but the set-top box’s fourth generation will bring a plethora of new functions to customers’ living rooms.

Still looking as innocuoustand un-flashy as ever, Apple’s micro-console has been built anew from the base up.

Saying goodbye to iOS, the all-new AppleTV will be running its own operating system, tvOS.

With a new operating system giving developers the opportunity to optimize and create apps specifically for the device, AppleTV will also come with its very own App Store.

‘There has been so much innovation in entertainment through iOS apps,’ Eddy Cue, senior vice president of Internet Services and Software, said.

‘We want to bring that same excitement to the television. Apps make the TV experience even more compelling for viewers and we think apps represent the future of TV.’

Siri has finally landed on AppleTV, too, in form of a new remote: simply press the button and tell the room – and your TV – what you want and it will search iTunes and apps like Netflix, Hulu and HBO, showing you every way to watch your choice.

Supposed to make the experience more intuitive and connected, the glass touch surface is highly sensitive, reacting small accurate movements just as well as big, sweeping ones.

A built-in accelerometer and gyroscope will come in handy when playing games on the TV, as they turn the remote into a gamepad – so it’s probably just a matter of time until developers turn AppleTV into much more than just a device to watch your favorite series from.

The all-new AppleTV will be available from the end of October, clocking in at $149 (€133, £98) for the 32GB and $199 (€177.70, £129.29) for the 64GB model; prices for countries outside the US have not yet been announced.

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Gaydar Doesn’t Exist, According To New Study We Refuse To Believe

In an effort to debunk the validity of gaydar, researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison conducted a study where they challenged the “gaydar myth” according to a report on the University’s news website. The findings, which were published in the Journal of Sex Research, conclude that gaydar isn’t real. Try telling that to gay men everywhere.

William Cox, an assistant scientist at the University’s Department of Psychology who was also the lead author of the study, feels gaydar is less about being able to determine a person’s sexual orientation and more about engaging in harmful forms of stereotyping. “Most people think of stereotyping as inappropriate,” stated Cox. “But if you’re not calling it ‘stereotyping,’ if you’re giving it this other label and camouflaging it as ‘gaydar,’ it appears to be more socially and personally acceptable.”

Cox and his team conducted a series of studies, one of which consisted of manipulating their subjects’ understanding of the term “gaydar.” Three groups of people were given different explanations — one group was told gaydar was real, another was told it was a way of stereotyping and the third group was given no definition. The end result? The group that was told gaydar is real engaged in more stereotyping by assuming men were gay based off of certain cues. For example, if the group was told a particular man liked to go shopping, they felt they were utilizing their gaydar in the assumption that he was gay.

Cox believes, “If you tell people they have gaydar, it legitimizes the use of those stereotypes.”

Good thing they didn’t tell the group the guy liked to get mani-pedis after attending bottomless mimosa brunches. Their gaydars might have gone into circuit overload.

Cox also has a fascinating theory about men who are assumed to be gay if they wear pink shirts and it’s tied into the fact that a small percentage of the population is gay.

“Imagine that 100 percent of gay men wear pink shirts all the time, and 10 percent of straight men wear pink shirts all the time. Even though all gay men wear pink shirts, there would still be twice as many straight men wearing pink shirts. So, even in this extreme example, people who rely on pink shirts as a stereotypic cue to assume men are gay will be wrong two-thirds of the time.”

Umm, did we wake up this morning and get transported back to 1998?

Cox’s research conflicts with a 2008 report that concluded people could accurately guess sexual orientation based on photographs of people’s faces. That study somehow gave the existence of gaydar some validity within the scientific realm.

While Cox and his team of researchers are clearly well intentioned in trying to highlight the existence of prejudice through stereotyping, there is a major design flaw with studies on gaydar that has been overlooked. Gaydar is similar to the “Force” from the Star Wars movies. Just like the Force is always strongest among Jedis, gaydar works the same way for us gays. Similar to the Jedi that trains to use the Force to his advantage, we fine-tune it over time through our life experiences. Way before Grindr (aka the prehistoric times), gaydar is what we relied on to determine how many other gay men were X amount of feet away. It was, and still is, very beneficially for expanding our social circles whether it be meeting new friends or cruising in public. The signals we receive from our gaydars are how we know it’s safe to continue to engage. Take it from a guy who has done the legwork. Gaydar is real.

Gaydar is a feeling. It’s based on a vibe a man gets from another man. It’s about eye contact and body language. It takes face-to-face personal interaction and cannot be acquired by looking at photos of other men in an effort to figure out if they are of the homosexual persuasion. Therein lies a huge difference. Judging one’s appearance from a photograph or based on second-hand information about how he acts is stereotyping. Getting a phone number from a cute guy at Starbucks…that’s gaydar.

Great strides have been made in equality and the quest continues, but when it comes to gaydar, this is one of those times where we have to be separatists and say, “It’s a gay thing.”

We want to hear from our readers. What have your experiences been like when it comes to gaydar? Share your stories in the comments section.

Jeremy Kinser

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Two Women and a Mountain of Insecurity

When my girl and I walk down the street, people see a lesbian couple in love. A fairly standard one, as these things go, at least in the big city: I’m the tall one, with short spiky hair and a vaguely butchy wardrobe, my arm slung possessively her shoulder. She’s six inches shorter than me and much more feminine. When she’s not in workout gear she dresses like the quintessential power lesbian: impeccably tailored suits, dresses and shoes.

Each of us has things we dislike about our physique. I’m a solid 30 pounds overweight and have bad feet and the bad balance that comes with them. My left knee that reminds me its warranty has expired every time I climb stairs. I have squinty eyes and a snub nose and a canine permanently discoloured by a close encounter with a ship’s anchor chain.

My girlfriend, despite her petite 5-foot-4 frame, has the physique of a swimmer. Her shoulders are broad and her arms well-muscled, as are her legs from her daily stint on the treadmill. She has strong hands with short fingers, and a strong chin that she hates. She dislikes her slender hips, always on the lookout for dresses that make her look curvier, She stresses about her high hairline and the near-invisible scar beneath her nose. She feels self-conscious about them all, considering them unfeminine.

Par for the course, right? If there’s a woman outside of a Zen Buddhist monastery completely satisfied with how she looks, I’ve yet to meet her.

Fortunately, each of us appreciates the things that dissatisfy the other about themselves. She loves my height and curves and forgives the fact that I have no sense of direction or balance. I revel in her stunningly buff physique and her strength and grace and — ahem — well, her glorious posterior, among other things. I love the soft tumbleweed cloud of brown hair that tangles around her in the morning before she takes comb, straightener, and hair product to it, never noticing her somewhat higher-than-average hairline. I love the way that chin of hers juts out assertively when she’s thinking hard about something.

And I love her hands. For years I’ve daydreamed about meeting the perfect woman. Her face was always vague, as was her personality; what I always pictured were her hands, strong and wiry and competent, perhaps veined and roughened with work.

Worthwhile hands.

Hands with a history and strength and confidence reflecting their owner’s.

Hands that knew what they were doing.

When I first met Jessica, I offered to read her palm in a transparent gambit to get my hands on hers. As I traced her lifeline, I knew that this woman and her hands were going to send me head-over-heels. And she did, and still does.

That’s what makes a relationship, I think: When two people not only appreciate those things in their lover which their lover esteems about themselves, but also appreciate those things their lover feels insecure about.

Those insecurities, though–there’s more to them than meets the eye. 

I’ve spent a life with the standard background misogynistic white noise telling me what I should like about myself and what I shouldn’t. I ran out of fucks to give in my early teens, and have since dressed and behaved pretty much as I pleased, gravitating steadily toward the genderqueer end of the spectrum over the years. I’ve been called “sir” a couple of times, and gotten a few nasty looks from cashiers in the boondocks of Appalachia, but on the whole I can assume as much or as little femininity as I please without fear of losing my job or house, being beaten, or killed. 

If I decide to splurge on that gorgeous pair of Johnston and Murphy two-tone wingtips in the shoe store, I don’t consider what impression they’ll make on people who see me wearing them, or question whether my addiction to high-end men’s footwear makes me “less of a woman.” I can stroll down a street in those wingtips, pants, men’s shirt and tweed vest and fedora, confident that I’ll be seen as the person I know myself to be. The things I dislike about myself? They may be informed by societal norms to some extent, but they’re nothing that’s out of the ordinary. 

It wasn’t until I started dating Jessica, who happens to be transgender, that I realized what an awesome gift and privilege it was to be seen as I see myself.

I never have to stare at the suit I plan to wear to work, knowing that some will consider it overfeminine and too sexy and someone else will consider it not feminine enough, and knowing that both of those opinions will affect how I’m judged as a woman. On a coworker, that same suit passes completely without notice. I never have to consider whether I’m wearing too much foundation or not enough. When I try on clothing, I don’t immediately reject those that show off my broad shoulders and narrow hips, regardless of how much I may like the garment or how lovely it looks on me.

My wardrobe and personal style, my makeup and hair and the way I walk and gesture and present myself on the gender spectrum: All of these are the result solely of my desire to express myself and who I am. I don’t need to evaluate every gesture, makeup, and wardrobe choice by how I think others will react to it, and whether it confirms or negates my essentially female nature.

I wish that Jessica didn’t have to think of any of this. I wish that she could wear those sleeveless sheath dresses that show off her mouthwatering shoulders and arms without feeling self-conscious and dysphoric. I wish she felt comfortable in a frothy, bright, and flirty sundress, free from the niggling worry that she looks too over-the-top femme. I wish, now that she’s finally free to embrace the person she knows herself to be, she wasn’t immediately subject to an entirely new set of strictures that she felt she had to conform to, to survive and succeed.

When we walk down the street, no one notices any of these uncertainties. No one knows the fundamental differences that determine how we present ourselves to the world. No one knows that my girlfriend’s chosen hairstyle and wardrobe were selected  not merely for self-expression but also out of self-defense, and that she is so much more invisibly at the mercy of gender norms than I am. 

To the world passing by we’re simply two women walking hand in hand, two girls in love.

DREA LEED is a senior software architect whose interests include big data, search engine optimization, paleography, early music, tall ship sailing, and anything else that holds still long enough to be studied. She attended Mount Holyoke, Queen’s University Belfast, and Indiana University, and has published a book and numerous articles on Renaissance costume and material culture. After a recent 13-month sabbatical sailing around the world, she is currently dividing her time between rural Ohio and Washington, D.C., and keeping an eye out for the next big adventure.
Drea Lead

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Kesha officiates second gay wedding

Kesha officiated her second gay wedding over this week.

The 28-year-old pop singer posted a photo on Instagram on Wednesday (9 September) of herself presiding over the wedding of her hairstylist Vittorio Masecchia and Felipe Noqueira.

‘All u need is love,’ she captioned the image with ring and heart emojis.

Kesha is a longtime supporter LGBT rights and got ordained as a minister in 2012 to officiate the wedding of two lesbian friends.

‘I can’t understand why any person or any law would stand in between that kind of love,’ she said at the time.

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Darren Wee

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