Iowa's Görtz Haus Learns That Refusing To Host Gay Weddings Is Bad For Business

Iowa's Görtz Haus Learns That Refusing To Host Gay Weddings Is Bad For Business
The Christian owners of an Iowa wedding venue that turned away a gay couple in 2013 are shuttering their business.

Located in Grimes, Iowa, the Görtz Haus has been operating as an art gallery, bistro and wedding venue for 13 years, but has struggled financially in the two years since owners Betty and Richard Odgaard cited their Mennonite faith when they declined to host Lee Stafford and Jared Ellers’s wedding, USA Today and other outlets are reporting.

Stafford and Ellers quickly filed a discrimination complaint through the Iowa Civil Rights Commission, and although the Odgaards agreed to a $5,000 settlement, two heterosexual couples canceled their planned nuptials at the venue after the case hit the news. Although the deposits were non-refundable, both couples received their money back.

“We knew that the business was going to be in trouble almost immediately,” Richard Odgaard told The Daily Signal. “We had to get rid of the wedding business to avoid another complaint and possibly a higher penalty.”

“I would never discriminate in any area that’s not who I am. I just couldn’t celebrate their wedding because of my faith,” Betty Odgaard told KCCI.

In January, it was announced that the Görtz Haus would stop offering wedding services altogether, but the financial loss has been significant. Now the Odgaards say the business, which previously hosted between 15 to 25 weddings a year, will close, possibly as early as August.

Joking that they “didn’t get the Chick-fil-A response” from locals, the Odgaards say they think things might have turned out differently if their situation had been left to a popular vote or even an area judge.

“I think if people in Iowa would have had a chance to vote on this, it would have never have been this way. People in Iowa are pretty conservative,” Betty told The Daily Signal. Added Richard: “This was all administrative judgement. The [gay couple] had a platform to file their case and we didn’t get our day in court with a jury of our peers.”

Still, as The Des Moines Register points out, the Odgaards have received a fair amount of support. During a recent campaign stop in Iowa, Republican presidential hopeful Sen. Ted Cruz argued that the Odgaards were victims of “liberal fascism,” noting, “The modern Democratic Party has decided their devotion to mandatory gay marriage in all 50 states is so unforgiving that there is no longer room for defending religious liberty.”

Echoing those sentiments was Eric Baxter, senior counsel at the Becket Fund for Religious Liberty that represented the couple and aims “to protect the free expression of all faiths.”

“It’s shocking that the state prefers forcing Betty and Richard Odgaard to close the Görtz Haus Gallery, rather than allowing them make a living without violating their religious beliefs,” he told the Register in a statement.

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Watch Armed Gays Throw A Fit When Not Allowed Into Pride With Their Guns

Watch Armed Gays Throw A Fit When Not Allowed Into Pride With Their Guns

Screen Shot 2015-06-24 at 11.20.18 AMA gay “right to bear arms” group was kicked out of Capital Pride in Olympia, WA over the weekend for entering the festival armed for a small battle.

As cities around the country gear up for their Pride festivities, there’s much to celebrate. But we simultaneously find ourselves staring down the barrel of yet another horrific act of deadly gun violence in the wake of the South Carolina church shooting.

That’s not to say we shouldn’t revel in our beautiful queer selves, but making a bogus civil rights statement with guns at a crowded Pride festival? Come on.

In the below videos, the 2nd amendment group spars with Pride organizers.

The festival’s stance is straightforward — “We don’t want your guns here,” a female organizer said. “Plain and simple.”

The activists, on the other hand, try manufacturing Pride’s civil rights focus into a great hypocrisy for wishing to omit the presence of deadly weapons.

“We would love for you to be here, but not the guns,” the same organizer tells them.

The group was unsuccessful at entering the first day, and returned the following afternoon to continue the stunt. Eventually, police were called and they were officially asked to leave.

We’ve got a long, long way to go…

Watch below:

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Pro Wrestler ‘Money’ Matt Cage Comes Out As Gay

Pro Wrestler ‘Money’ Matt Cage Comes Out As Gay

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Independent professional wrestler ‘Money’ Matt Cage, whose real name is Matt Hullum, came out last week in a note he posted to Facebook, Outsports reports:

Hullum, 26, said he was tired of lying and feeling the burden of stress and depression.

Hullum lives in La Salle, Ill., outside Chicago, and makes his living traveling the indie pro wrestling circuit. He went to high school in Las Vegas and told Outsports that he began wrestling after graduating. He wanted to share his post because “I figured my story could be a motivation to others in similar situations.”

In the note posted on Facebook, titled “Here goes nothing…”, Cage wrote:

One of the biggest fears in my life has been rejection. I’m not sure why. I was never the most popular kid in school or in my neighborhood, but I always had a plethora of friends in many different cliques. I was never really rejected by anyone that I hung out with in one clique for hanging out with people in another, yet I always feared being rejected. But as I’ve grown older and continued down the road of adulthood, I have discovered that I truly don’t care as much about rejection anymore. And I why should I? My friends will like me for me, flaws and all. My family will love me for me. My peers will respect me for my work. And complete strangers can think whatever they want, because they’re strangers and they don’t know me.

That being said, it makes it much easier to post here publicly that I’m gay.

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I truly have nothing to hide anymore. I spent the majority of my life lying, hiding and depressed because I felt like I couldn’t truly be who I wanted to be and live freely as I saw fit. I had to act and that’s not me. I, nor anyone else, should have to do that.

Though Cage is not the first professional wrestler to come out as gay (WWE Superstar Darren Wilson had that distinction), Cage wrote that he had been concerned about his sexuality affecting his career as a professional wrestler but decided to come out to escape the burden of fear:

Hopefully nothing changes, but if any relationships change from this post, I’ll know that I didn’t need those people in my life anyway.

I hope that the fans, the promoters and everyone else don’t change their opinions of me. I was the same person yesterday as I am right now, just now, I have a bit more weight lifted off of my shoulders. The stress, depression & worrying that has always come from this is something nobody should have to deal with. Depression is a very real thing, and some people don’t understand that. People often times cannot empathize. But know this: we are all human beings. We all have our own way, traits, personalities & things that make us our own person. Keep that in mind.

Congratulations, Matt!

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9 Harrowing Images That Capture The Lasting Impact Of Sexual Assault

9 Harrowing Images That Capture The Lasting Impact Of Sexual Assault
Survivors of assault and abuse are sharing their experiences on a powerful new Tumblr, Lasting Impact.

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Founder Alison, who asked that her last name remain private, created Lasting Impact to raise awareness about the long-lasting impact that incidents of sexual assault, domestic violence, and emotional and physical abuse have on those who experience them. The project is also a place for survivors to share stories of healing.

“As a survivor of childhood sexual assault, I struggled for many years with mental health issues that impacted almost every aspect of my daily life and left me feeling confused and alone,” Alison told The Huffington Post. “It wasn’t until I began to connect with other survivors that I came to realize that this is a common and valid response to trauma, and it was only then that I truly began to heal.”

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The Tumblr entries come from survivors who write in to share how their experiences affected and changed them. Some also share how they have healed from their traumas and found hope for the future.

“Survivors often face a myriad of psychological, emotional, social, and physical challenges following an assault, and I wanted to expand the conversation about sexual assault and domestic violence to include the complex, long-term toll trauma takes on an individual,” Alison told HuffPost.

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Alison also hopes that the Tumblr will be a positive place for survivors.

“While the campaign focuses primarily on the challenges faced by survivors, it also shows that we all have an incredible capacity for courage, resilience, and growth,” she told HuffPost. “Survivors’ stories do not have to begin and end with fear, violation, and despair. It is my hope that when survivors read these stories, they recognize that their experiences are valid and understand that no matter what they are feeling, they are never alone.”

See more powerful images from Lasting Impact below.

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Need help? In the U.S., visit the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline operated by RAINN. For more resources, visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website.

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If Elected, Mike Huckabee Will Do Everything In His Power To Quash Gay Marriage

If Elected, Mike Huckabee Will Do Everything In His Power To Quash Gay Marriage

imagesShould he get elected, presidential hopeful and shambling creepshow Mike Huckabee has big plans for the gays… but those plans don’t include the right to marry.

In a casual conversation with Iowa radio host Steve Deace and Religious Right organizer Bob Vander Plaats, Huckabee intoned, “Until the Congress of the United States puts on my desk a bill that basically defies the laws of Nature and Nature’s God, and defies the longstanding tradition of marriage, the federal government will not recognize same-sex marriage because there is no law that requires it, and that would be true for the military and it would be true for all federal institutions.”

Related: Mike Huckabee: I Wish I Came Out As Transgender In HS To Shower With The Girls

As the night sky rained infant blood, Huckabee soldiered on: “If the Congress decides that they want to pass enabling legislation, they could put it on my desk and I would veto it, and they can attempt to override it. That’s the process.”

Failing to realize Father Time had been unkind to his cohorts, reducing them to piles of bleached bone, he continued. He was not yet finished speaking, you see.

“If liberals were subjected to a conservative court that forced them to tithe their income to scripture or forced them to go to church or forced them to believe something that they don’t want to believe, they would say, ‘We can’t do that, that would go against our conscience.’ And I would say, ‘You are exactly right and we can’t have such a ruling. This is why I find this very unsettling… is because liberals will rue the day when the sword they use to enact their agenda is the sword of the court, rather than to do it by way of the people’s elected representatives.”

Okay, it wasn’t so much a casual conversation as an interminable monologue, but you get the picture.

h/t: LGBTQNation

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News: Rainbow Crosswalks, Bobby Jindal, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, Chris Pratt

News: Rainbow Crosswalks, Bobby Jindal, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, Chris Pratt

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> Rainbow Crosswalks are discriminatory? 

> Pressure mounts for President Obama to end the ban on transgender servicemembers in the military:

“For Obama, the issue represents another chance to cement his legacy as a leader who removed discriminatory barriers. But after the long, uneasy battle over overturning Don’t Ask-Don’t Tell, there are some risks for the president if he is seen as pushing the military beyond its comfort level with transgender troops.”

> This Momma Rabbit goes hard on a snake that tried to eat her babies for dinner. You go, rabbit.

> Anti-gay Louisiana governor Bobby Jindal enters the 2016 race.

> Michael C. Hall will star in new David Bowie musical, Lazarus.

> A new Game of Thrones conspiracy theory about that thing that happened on the season finale…you know, the thing.

> David Beckham and son Brooklyn (16) both go boxing. 

Arms shaking , hands about to fall off… Thanks Pete .. Protein shake and an ice bath … Great workout ….

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> Buckingham Palace is crumbling, has asbestos. 

> Sarah Palin has been fired from FOX News again. 

> Dzhokhar Tsarnaev apologizes to victims of the Boston Marathon Bombing and their families:

“I am sorry for the lives that I’ve taken, for the suffering that I’ve caused you, and the damage that I’ve done,” he told the court today in Boston prior to the judge imposing the sentence on him. “I pray to Allah to bestow his mercy on you,” Tsarnaev said. “I pray for your relief, for your healing, for your well-being, for your health.” He added: “I ask Allah for mercy for me and for my brother,” Tamerlan.

 

> New horrific video of ISIS drowning and immolating prisoners released.

> Alabama gets rid of the Confederate battle flag at its state capitol.

> Chris Pratt makes it easy for you to objectify him (and his muscles) on the cover of Men’s Health.

 

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> Speaking of Pratt, the Smithsonian has just taken #PrattKeeping to new heights.

#PrattKeeping is a key component of the exhibition process. Our Dinosaur Curator, Matthew Carrano, has a tough job! pic.twitter.com/IUCAP6LTBK

— Smithsonian’s NMNH (@NMNH) June 23, 2015

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