A Love Letter to LGBT Progress

A Love Letter to LGBT Progress
My husband and I are relentless positrons, but, as change agents, we do spend a fair amount of time complaining about how slow progress can be. For instance, when we were recently in Washington, D.C. rallying for full federal marriage equality, I exhaustedly proclaimed:, “I can’t believe we’re still having this conversation.”

But I’m glad we were there. I’m glad that we try to do our part in lending a voice to the fight for full equality. One day, people will really appreciate it. Just as we are grateful for the work of those who paved the way for us.

For example, I doubt the people who took a stand on a hot summer evening at the Stonewall Inn knew their acts of defiance would usher in a new era of LGBT rights. Oh how I wish we could go back to that day in 1969 to tell all those people what was ahead.

Insert dream waves….

As the police pour into the Stonewall Inn — one of the few establishments in the country catering to the marginalized LGBT community in 1969 — we would tell the group that in exactly one year the events of this night will be celebrated with a massive parade. We would tell them that in 2000 President Bill Clinton will name June Gay and Lesbian Pride Month.

As the group refuses to act when told to show their IDs, we would say that in 1977, a man named Harvey Milk will become the first openly gay person to be elected to public office. And in 2013, he will appear on a U.S. postage stamp.

As a drag queen refuses to prove her gender, we would say that in a few decades, a drag queen named RuPaul will have a series of hit singles and go on to host a wildly popular reality TV show about drag queens.

As tensions mount, we would tell the increasingly unruly crowd that in the years to come, a lesbian comedian will come out on a prime time TV show, that an openly gay man will seem to host practically every awards show and play a comically straight character on an extremely popular sitcom.

As a handcuffed woman screams to the crowd, “Why don’t you guys do something?” we would say that in 1983 tennis star Billie Jean King will become the first prominent professional athlete to come out.

As the police — likely as scared as the protesters — barricade themselves inside the Stonewall Inn while they wait for back up, we would let them know that in 2007 Theresa Sparks will become the first openly transgender police commissioner in the U.S. and that, in 2003, she will be the first openly transgender woman to be named “Woman of the Year” by the California State Assembly.

As a kick line forms to taunt the riot police marching forward with batons, we would say that an openly gay man will become one of the most powerful business figures in the world when he is named CEO of Apple Computers.

As hundreds of protesters stand firm, we would tell them that in 2004, same sex marriage will become legal in Massachusetts. We would tell them that in 2013, our home state, Washington, will extend marriage rights to same-sex couples and, just a few months later, the federal government will recognize those rights.

Finally, as the crowds begin to disburse, we would simply say thank you for raising hell, because in 2015 things will have come a long way.

We’ve got it good thanks to the people who advocated before us. In 1969, no one would have imagined that a same-sex couple could be married. Married. And that that same couple could be spokespersons for major brands like Expedia and Microsoft, traveling the world talking about tech, travel, and the good life.

We’ve got a lot of work to do. Today, as we head into Pride month, we raise a glass to progress.

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Scott Walker Is a Big Fan of a Constitutional Amendment Allowing States to Ban Gay Marriage: VIDEO

Scott Walker Is a Big Fan of a Constitutional Amendment Allowing States to Ban Gay Marriage: VIDEO

Walker

Wisconsin Governor Scott Walker flexed his social conservative credentials in an interview with ABC News’ “This Week,” saying that if the Supreme Court legalizes same-sex marriage nationwide, the “next approach” for individuals opposed to gay marriage will be with an anti-gay constitutional amendment. 

Said Walker:

I personally believe that marriage is between one man and one woman. If the court decides that, the only next approach is for those who are supporters of marriage being defined as between one man and one woman is ultimately to consider pursuing a constitutional amendment.

When asked by Jon Karl whether that meant he supported an amendment allowing states to continue banning same-sex marriage, Walker replied:

I believe that the decision on defining marriage should be left up to the states, yeah.

Watch Walker’s interview, AFTER THE JUMP

Walker is expected to announce his 2016 presidential bid later this summer. 

Marriage talk around the 6 minute mark. 

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Caitlyn Jenner Shares Inspiring #TransIsBeautiful Photo On Instagram

Caitlyn Jenner Shares Inspiring #TransIsBeautiful Photo On Instagram
Caitlyn Jenner already broke the Internet — and now it’s Instagram’s turn.

In a photo posted on Saturday, Jenner poses with her arms around friends as they look out on some breathtaking scenery. The caption reads: “Learn from those who have walked the path before you. #TransIsBeautiful #LivingOurTruth #JustTheBeginning.”

Learn from those who have walked the path before you. #TransIsBeautiful #LivingOurTruth #JustTheBeginning

A photo posted by Caitlyn Jenner (@caitlynjenner) on Jun 6, 2015 at 3:30pm PDT

Jenner previously posted a photo of her Vanity Fair cover on Instagram, but this is the first candid picture she has shared with followers.

Along with her debut on Vanity Fair, Jenner has recently been involved in a number of projects, including a “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” special and filming her docuseries, “I Am Cait.”

Jenner has also been selected to receive the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the 2015 ESPYS, which air Wednesday, July 15, at 8 p.m. EST on ABC.

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New York Homeless Man Charged with Attempted Murder in Anti-Trans Subway Hate Crime

New York Homeless Man Charged with Attempted Murder in Anti-Trans Subway Hate Crime

Crime

A 32-year-old homeless man has been arrested and charged with hate crimes for allegedly pushing a transgender woman onto the train tracks at the Greenwich Village station platform on Monday, Reuters reports:

Rolan Reid, 32, was arrested on Friday on the same No. 6 train line where the woman was attacked on Monday, Sergeant Carlos Nieves said.

He is charged with second-degree attempted murder as a hate crime, and with various assault counts, Nieves said.

The 28-year-old victim was treated and released from a local hospital following the incident on Monday morning. She had been approached by a man who was acting erratically, threw an empty plastic bottle at her and pushed her onto the tracks.

Watch an NBC 4 report on the incident, AFTER THE JUMP

 


Kyler Geoffroy

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Girl, Bye: How To Break Up With Your Gay Best Friend In Five Easy Steps

Girl, Bye: How To Break Up With Your Gay Best Friend In Five Easy Steps

Breaking up is hard to do. But not all breakups are of the romantic sort.

Last week, we offered you six tips on how to be a great wingman at a gay bar. But what happens when you’re great wingman turns out to be not-go-great after all? There comes a time in every gay man’s life when he must cut ties with someone from his past.

It could be a former bar buddy whose drinking habit has gotten out of hand, or a college friend whose personality turned toxic after graduation. It might be an old co-worker who needs to grow up, or an ex-roomie who needs to get a clue.

In any event, it’s someone you were once close to, but who no longer serves a positive purpose in your life and, therefore, must go.

Here are five steps to breaking up with your gay best friend…

Step 1: Arrange a get together

While it may be tempting to simply delete him from your phone, block him on Facebook and Grindr, and avoid him every time you see him out at the bar, that’s really not a very grown-up way of handling things, especially when the two of you have a history. Take 20 minutes out of your life to meet for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and have a grown lady conversation. You might not want to at first, but you’ll be glad you did in the end. Going the passive-aggressive route by giving him the silent treatment means you’re still going to have to deal with ignoring his texts and dodging him at parties until he finally gets the hint, which could take weeks, months, or even years.

Step 2: Explain why you’re calling it quits.

Has he been flirting with your boyfriend? Did he hookup with your ex without running it by you first? Is his constant late-night drunk dialing getting to be too much? Has he gone all negative? Or have the two of you simply grown apart? Whatever the reason, let him know why you’re breaking it off. It will make you feel better getting it off your chest and it just might make him think twice about his behavior in the future.

Step 3: Give him a chance to explain himself.

After you’ve said your piece, he’ll likely respond one of two ways: With an apology or by getting defensive. Either way, give him an chance to explain himself. Even if you’re still not interested in being BFFs afterwards, it will help bring you both a sense of closure, or at least offer you an opportunity to fling wine in his face–or provide him the same.

Step 4: Set your boundaries.

OK, so you’ve explained why you’re dumping him. You’ve heard what he has to say. Now it’s time now to establish the terms of your breakup. Is this goodbye forever? Or are you willing to remain casual acquaintances? Could you possibly be friends again in the future? We recommend the six month rule. Spend six months ignoring each other, then reconnect to see if you have miraculously grown back together or whether he has matured. Whatever, figure out what you want, tell him in clear terms, and then stick to it.

Step 5: Enjoy your newfound freedom.

Now that you’ve been released from the chains and fetters of this poisonous friendship, twirl off into the sunset, pour yourself a glass of Chardonnay, and catch up on those Real Housewives reruns. If he tries calling or texting you a week later, don’t feel as though you have to respond. Just like when you break up with a boyfriend, breaking up with a friend means you’re no longer obligated to that person anymore.

Enjoy your newfound freedom.

Related stories:

Six Tips On How To Be A Great Wingman

Rules For Saying Goodbye: How To Break Up With Your F**k Buddy

The Psychology Of Breaking Up: Why Saying “Goodbye” Can Be The Greatest Act Of Love

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READ: Kylie Jenner's Beautiful Response After Chris Brown Posts Transphobic Caityn Jenner Meme

READ: Kylie Jenner's Beautiful Response After Chris Brown Posts Transphobic Caityn Jenner Meme

Brown

Chris Brown (pictured above with Kendall and Kylie Jenner) followed in the transphobic footsteps of fellow rapper Snoop Dogg when he posted the following meme about Caitlyn Jenner on Instagram this past week:

Akon

Brown later deleted the meme, but not before Jenner’s daughter Kylie, who is friends with Brown, found out about it and took to Twitter to call Brown out with a simple but beautiful statement:

State what you want about the world without bashing others. Leave a positive impact 💕

— Kylie Jenner (@KylieJenner) June 5, 2015

Well said Kylie!

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Kyler Geoffroy

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Scott Walker Backs Constitutional Amendment Allowing States To Ban Same-Sex Marriage

Scott Walker Backs Constitutional Amendment Allowing States To Ban Same-Sex Marriage
WASHINGTON — Wisconsin Gov. Scott Walker (R) said Sunday that he supports a constitutional amendment banning nationwide marriage equality.

The Supreme Court is expected to issue a decision this month that could grant, for once and for all, same-sex couples the right to wed across the country.

“I personally believe that marriage is between one man and one woman,” said Walker, a prospective GOP presidential candidate, on ABC’s “This Week.” “If the court decides that, the only next approach is for those who are supporters of marriage being defined as between one man and one woman is ultimately to consider pursuing a constitutional amendment.”

He added that “the decision on defining marriage should be left up to the states.”

Same-sex marriage is legal in Wisconsin. Walker has said that he voted for the state’s constitutional ban on marriage equality in 2006, which was overturned eight years later by the courts.

In April, Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Texas), who is also running for president, introduced legislation to establish a constitutional amendment protecting states that want to bar same-sex marriage.

Walker refused to give an opinion on the transition of Caitlyn Jenner and her Vanity Fair cover when asked about the topic Sunday morning.

President Barack Obama tweeted last week that Jenner has shown “courage.”

It takes courage to share your story. t.co/Q7wWjV9Rxx

— Barack Obama (@BarackObama) June 1, 2015

“Well, I think it’s a personal decision,” Walker said. “And to me, I don’t know that there’s anything more to comment on. It’s a personal decision.”

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