Now Is the Time to Start Talking About Racism in the LGBT Community

Now Is the Time to Start Talking About Racism in the LGBT Community
It’s been a long time coming, but no time is better than now.

As the Supreme Court gets ready to hopefully legitimize a belief that many of us in the LGBT community already consider an inalienable right — marriage equality for all — it’s high time we start preparing ourselves for the next major issue to address: intersectionality.

Yes, for decades, the face of LGBT representation has been dominated by white people, predominately cisgender gay white men. And as much as we would like to continue to blame cultural stigmas within other cultures for why there has not been such a huge turnaround of faster diversity — it’s time we start looking inward.

Fact: I am an openly gay black man. Another fact: as disappointing as it may sound, experiencing racism as a “double-minority” has been felt within both communities. I can be racially profiled at a store as a black man and can then be treated as a pariah at a gay club the same night by the white men and bouncers who occupy the space.

It’s not that I have been silent about these issues. Recently, I took my grievances to my local paper in a guest column that called out many of the famed gay bars in Philadelphia. As a resident for five years, I felt that “The Gayborhood” was not the happiest place in my city if you were black and queer but more like the most excluding one at times.

The reaction was more critical than receptive. I received tons of nasty comments, social media attacks and jabs at my audacity to call out race issues within the LGBT community. Some went so far as to feel as though I was just trying to start a problem that didn’t exist.

Fun fact: the majority of the critics were white gay men.

And that is the problem.

When I look at queer programs, both local and national, there tends to be a social disconnect between the reality that is being portrayed publicly and what is happening privately. People of color are often the voyeurism that shapes white queer spaces — a feeling that has become more exploitative and problematic than embracing.

The constant pandering of black LGBT men as drag-ballroom performers or hyper-sexual eye-candy takes flight in many gay social scenes. There is almost a subservient element to it that excludes any other black gay expression that isn’t catering to the white queer gaze.

In other words, the various identities of queer individuals of color have not evolved and many of the institutions and spaces that are responsible for allowing them to have not. Take the fight for marriage equality for example, where have people of color been individually called on to take up that fight? Who sets that agenda? And where are LGBT allies when it comes to the racial injustices we face outside of queer politics?

In a community that boasts acceptance and equality, the LGBT community as a whole has been stagnant on rallying for other social issues that deeply impact a great number of its members and allies.

When other human rights groups were at Ferguson or Baltimore — many LGBT organizations said/posted nothing about the queer people of color who might have been afflicted.

As I have gotten older, it has become more difficult to ignore the intersectionality that has colored my experience as a gay black man. In one sphere, I am told that being black has nothing to do with being gay. And in the other, I am reminded that race is irrelevant to the conversation.

Both of these are lies and as much as one community wants to act as though they are more accepting than the other, it’s difficult for me to decide right now.

Sure, the black community can be labeled as having deep-seated homophobic views. But that lame trope is getting old when you take in consideration the current LGBT movement’s lack of recognizing variety and sympathy for people of color in general.

I’m sorry, but having a few famous black drag queens and transgender superstars does not make this issue go away.

The most annoying misconception that has often hurt further dialogue on this issue is the myths that talking about racism within our community will distract from other social causes we are trying to achieve.

I will no longer accept that excuse. It is 2015: if people are not allowing us to get married, it will have nothing to do with the fact that there is racism in our community just as it is in theirs.

At the end of the day, when we are finally over the constant focus on marriage equality — a cause that in my opinion reveals the privilege of our community, in regards to priorities — we should start getting real about what the faces and spaces of the next LGBT movement look like. Answer: more diverse and colorful.

Because the constant recycling of Dan Savage and many other white, cisgender men like him turns off aspiring LGBT members of color to come out and align themselves within the movement.

Overall, there needs to be a time for us to come out and get serious about the lack of diversity in LGBT leadership nation-wide. It is not enough to just have black, Latino, Asian, and Native Americans in the room but not actually invite their stories and experiences as well.

I am tired of going to queer events that are fundraising for only white queer member causes — but ignore that more than 5 black transgender individuals have been murdered so far this year.

Visibility is one thing, but access and equity is another. We need to start expanding the conversation on race in these conventions and not just for LGBT members of color but for their white counterparts.

I don’t just want specialized events and socials catered to me due to my race, but instead more intellectual space and opportunity to inform and enlighten the very members whom I share an interest in activism with.

It’s time to start addressing the racial setbacks in the current LGBT movement. If we don’t now, we are never going to obtain that pot of gold equality on the other side of the diverse rainbow.

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Jon Stewart Isn’t Ashamed To Show Off His Dad Bod

Jon Stewart Isn’t Ashamed To Show Off His Dad Bod

Screen Shot 2015-05-13 at 10.14.40 AM“What a great day for men,” begins the never-satirical Kristen Schaal on a Daily Show segment examining the recent ‘dad bod’ trend. “It’s time society finally accepted that a man’s body changes when he has kids. He spends nine months eating too much because his pregnant wife is stressing him out, and then there’s a screaming baby at home so he’s gotta get out for pizza and beer as much as he can. It’s just biology.”

Related: “Do I Have A ‘Dad Bod?’” Find Out In Four Easy Steps

The secret to obtaining a dad bod? “You don’t have to be a dad to have a ‘dad bod,’ you just have to be really lazy.”

The segment goes on to make a pretty glaring point about the double standard for men and women. Because what’s the female equivalent of the ‘dad bod?’ The ‘momshell,’ wherein women are praised for how quickly they can lose weight and become a bombshell again after child birth.

Watch below:

Dan Tracer

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The New 'Jem and the Holograms' Trailer Is Here…But Is It Any Good? – WATCH

The New 'Jem and the Holograms' Trailer Is Here…But Is It Any Good? – WATCH

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In 1985 Marvel and Hasbro teamed up to co-produce Jem and the Holograms, one of the single greatest (and queerest) American cartoons of all time. The show told the story of Jerrica Benton, a young music mogul who harnesses the vast, holographic powers of her late father’s supercomputer, Synergy. What began as a collaborative effort to sell action figures quickly became a stealthy cultural phenomenon, capturing the imaginations of an entire generation.

 

 

As was true with other wildly popular Hasbro properties like G.I. Joe, Transformers, and Battleship, a Jem and the Holograms cinematic reboot has long-since been in pre-production. The first trailer for the movie just dropped and as you might expect, fans’ reactions have been…critical. Watching the trailer, it quickly becomes clear that the film won’t have much in common with the original cartoon other than its title.

“Here’s what I didn’t see: A computer called Synergy. The Misfits,” Ben Kuchera explained, writing for Polygon. “There was nothing outrageous about any of that. It’s just a dull, suburbia-to-riches story that starts on YouTube and ends with Juliette Lewis giving these kids David Bowie-style makeovers?”

The thing about Jem and the Holograms that appealed to gaggles of children back in the 80s and still keeps the Jem fandom alive today was its unabashed glam rock camp. Jem and her bandmates weren’t just your ordinary YouTube phenomenon. As Jem, Jerrica became a glamorous neon vision who was every bit a magical girl superhero as she was a rock star.

Universal’s reimagining of Jem and the Holograms isn’t due out until later this year, and perhaps there are a number of major narrative plot points that just aren’t in this first trailer. Fingers crossed this gem channels a bit more of her inner Ziggy Stardust and a bit less of her Hannah Montana. Check out the film’s first international trailer, AFTER THE JUMP

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Charles Pulliam-Moore

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This Is How Trolls Treat Women On The Internet

This Is How Trolls Treat Women On The Internet
A new Twitter hashtag shows just how rough it is being a woman on the Internet.

Online harassment-reporting platform HeartMob asked Twitter users to share their stories using #MyTroll, and the results are truly staggering.

Tiared of being silenced by #OnlineHarassment?
@heartmobber is collecting personal stories today on the hashtag
#mytroll. Share your story.

— Sally Kohn (@sallykohn) May 11, 2015

Harassers are everywhere. Any woman who has dared to express an opinion or share a story about her life online has probably been criticized and mocked, if not outright threatened. Some women are persistently harassed by specific, incredibly aggressive trolls who make chilling personal threats.

Recently, public figures like actress Ashley Judd and Feminist Frequency founder Anita Sarkeesian have spoken out about how harassment has changed their lives, and the steps they have taken to protect themselves from threats made over the Internet.

Platforms like Twitter have promised to do better at shutting down trolls and responding appropriately to threats, but there’s still a long way to go.

Here’s just a few of the terrible things trolls have said to women:

#MyTroll follows my every move even when he’s not active, to ensure that he can threaten me in the creepiest way possible when he is

— Bailey (@the_author_) May 11, 2015

#MyTroll stalks 8-10 other women too & has set up over 40 accounts under different names to circumvent blocks. Twitter won’t stop him.

— Sarah Faulkner (@sjfaulkner82) May 11, 2015

I reported #mytroll to the FBI, but they didn’t do anything bc he said “I should rape you” not “I will.”

— Emily May (@emilymaynot) May 11, 2015

#MyTroll: I shared my abortion story & this is the #OnlineHarassment I received. This is why people stay silent. pic.twitter.com/r0yNU986TT

— Renee Bracey Sherman (@RBraceySherman) May 11, 2015

One of the men that sent me a death threat eventually apologized when his mom saw his message to me on @TPM t.co/68PzoCPncr #mytroll

— Zerlina Maxwell (@ZerlinaMaxwell) May 11, 2015

Here are some other nice things #MyTroll(s) have said to me about my body parts and what they’d like to do to them pic.twitter.com/laQAIeZqeb

— Miranda Nelson (@charenton_) May 11, 2015

#mytroll stole my social security number, emails my job, constantly tells me I should be raped while the world says this is the internet

— Lady Rebecca (@ArchivistGeek) May 11, 2015

#mytroll told me I was a slut so my opinion didn’t matter. I told him that he was proving my point. #unslut

— The UnSlut Project (@UnSlutProject) May 11, 2015

#MyTroll found my personal email&said I should’ve killed my daughter&insulted a baby’s looks.I was angry,disgusted&terrified. @heartmobber

— Morgan MenesesSheets (@morgmeneshets) May 11, 2015

#MyTroll told me I’d never marry because I’m a #feminist & my decision to not have kids is a whiny “first world problem.” Yeah, whatever.

— Mandy Shunnarah (@fixedbaroque) May 11, 2015

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Here’s All You Need To Know To Maintain A Healthy, Modern Relationship

Here’s All You Need To Know To Maintain A Healthy, Modern Relationship

[Editor’s note: We’ve asked John Carroll, noted Broadway performer, writer, activist to give back to the community in a way that wouldn’t cause our readers to need a prescription for penicillin. Since that wasn’t an option, he came up with this advice column. We’ll let him take it from here.]

Have a problem? Need some good advice? Well, you could bend the ear of a trusted confidant to give you some sage words of wisdom…or you could go against your better judgement and just ask me. You can contact me at [email protected] or follow me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Enjoy episode two in which I help “Nick” with his communication problem below.

Jeremy Kinser

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Britney Spears and Iggy Azalea Go Back To The 80s In New Music Video 'Pretty Girls' – WATCH

Britney Spears and Iggy Azalea Go Back To The 80s In New Music Video 'Pretty Girls' – WATCH

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Britney Spears and Australian rapper Iggy Azalea have dropped the music video for their collaboration, “Pretty Girls.” In the new video, the duo are blonde-tastic, super-crimped valley girls from the 80s ready to party with their BFFs. Oh, and Iggy Azalea is an alien who takes human form a la Earth Girls Are Easy.

The video is also features a Rob Lowe-esque teen heart-throb, sure to bring back memories of The Brat Back.

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And because this is a Britney Spears video, there’s also a trip to the car wash where we encounter (what else?) hot and shirtless male dancers. 

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Roll out with the “Pretty Girls”, AFTER THE JUMP…


Sean Mandell

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