'You're Cute For A Black Guy' Examines Dating In The Gay Community

'You're Cute For A Black Guy' Examines Dating In The Gay Community
What is it like for men of color to navigate the world of gay dating?

“You’re Cute For A Black Guy” is a short documentary from filmmaker Cameron Johnson that asks gay men of color to open up about their experiences in the dating world. Their responses are both jarring and eye-opening and reveal the realities of men attempting to find love and romance in a world where often the majority of bodies that receive visibility — whether it be through gay porn, in gay spaces or elsewhere — tend to be white.

“I made this piece because I wanted to make sure that I wasn’t crazy,” Johnson told The Huffington Post. “I couldn’t be the only gay black man who white dates have said insane things to, so I ventured to find others who shared my experiences. What I discovered is that my story isn’t uncommon, it’s just untold… I hope that my work will help to broaden the discussions of what it looks like to be a gay man in 2015, and give people insight into worlds they haven’t understood. Also, seriously never say any of these things to black men again.”

Check out “You’re Cute For A Black Guy” above for more. For more from Johnson, visit his Twitter and Instagram.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/17/interracial-gay-dating_n_6881324.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

Jon Stewart Slams Anti-Gay License To Discriminate Bills: VIDEO

Jon Stewart Slams Anti-Gay License To Discriminate Bills: VIDEO

Stewart

On The Daily Show last night, host Jon Stewart dug into the recent rise in so-called “religious freedom” bills that would, contrary to how they are depicted by their advocates, enshrine into law a person’s right to discriminate against LGBT people. Stewart skewered every aspect of the right’s most recent backlash to the spread of marriage equality. Stewart quipped that this new spate of legislation is really about “protecting the real victims of discrimination”, that is to say Christian florists, a group “who gladly do business with all manner of divorced, non mother and father honoring, covetous, name of the Lord in vein taking adulterers.” Everyone, that is, except a gay couple wanting a pair of boutonnieres.

And what about the names for some of these anti-gay laws, like Arkansas’ “Intrastate Commerce Improvement Act”? Apparently the “Against Gross Gay People Act” was a little too obvious.

Meanwhile, Oklahoma is looking to replace a civil institution, marriage, with a religious one. A practice that is know in some parts of the world as sharia law, as Stewart points out. 

And as for the right’s uproar over which bathroom transgender people must use? As Stewart says, “nothing says limited government like micro-managing transgender bathroom use.”

Watch Stewart in all his glory, AFTER THE JUMP…


Sean Mandell

www.towleroad.com/2015/03/jon-stewart-slams-anti-gay-license-to-discriminate-bills-video.html

A Matter of Pride: First Steps to LGBT Inclusion in St. Patrick's Day Parades

A Matter of Pride: First Steps to LGBT Inclusion in St. Patrick's Day Parades
For twenty years, gay and lesbian Irish-Americans have wanted to march in Boston’s St. Patrick’s Day parade. And for twenty years, the parade has done everything in its power to keep them out.

But now that’s all in the past. After two decades of exclusion, LGBT groups are finally welcome in Boston’s parade. (New York’s, on the other hand, still isn’t quite there yet. Maybe next year.)

It’s fair to ask why it matters whether gays and lesbians are allowed to march in a parade where they’re not wanted. Don’t they already have enough parades of their own?

It may seem trivial, but having access to cultural celebrations is a big deal. Not just for LGBTs, but for everyone who’s ever been part of an unpopular group.

Remember, in the 1800s, Irish immigrants suffered intense discrimination. They were considered sub-human, denied jobs, and confined to ghettos. Americans at the time thought that Irish immigrants were outsiders, and could never be real American citizens.

That’s why a simple parade is so important. When you have a whole country telling you that you’re inferior, it can be life-changing to display your pride in your identity and your community. It’s a chance to show the world that you’re not ashamed of who you are — in fact, you celebrate it.

For two decades, LGBT Irish-Americans have wanted to join that expression of pride. But parade organizers, such as John “Wacko” Hurley, didn’t see them as a part of the St. Patrick’s Day community. Hurley said, “They get a parade in June in town, so I don’t know why they need to do this.”

In other words, he saw gay and lesbian Irish-Americans only in terms a single defining characteristic — their sexuality. To parade leaders, the gay and lesbian marchers weren’t Irish; they were outsiders who didn’t belong in their parade.

It’s just like how Americans once saw Irish immigrants solely in terms of their national origin, and viewed them as outsiders who didn’t belong in their country.

It’s easy to define other people by what makes them different. That’s how oppression happens: a group in charge decides that some other group is strange and inferior. They focus exclusively on the difference, and erase all of the other qualities that individuals in that group might have.

The parade’s old exclusionary policy instilled shame in being an LGBT Irish-American. And instilling shame defeats the whole point of having a celebration of cultural pride.

The evolution of Boston’s St. Patrick’s Day parade isn’t just about a five-mile march in blustery weather. It’s about being free to celebrate your pride in every aspect of what makes you the person you are.

www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-baume/a-matter-of-pride-first-s_b_6884446.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices