Mary Cheney, Here's Why Drag and Blackface Are Different (VIDEO)

Mary Cheney, Here's Why Drag and Blackface Are Different (VIDEO)
Last week Mary Cheney asked why blackface is bad but drag isn’t. Here’s what she wrote:

Why is it socially acceptable … for men to put on dresses, make up and high heels and act out every offensive stereotype of women (bitchy, catty, dumb, slutty, etc.) — but it is not socially acceptable … for a white person to put on blackface and act out offensive stereotypes of African Americans?

Shouldn’t both be ok or neither?

And can you believe that made people upset? Usually my videos are about what’s happening with marriage equality over on my show Marriage News Watch, but I just have to weigh in here, because I love drag, I work with drag queens, and I’ve seen a lot of people who don’t know how to answer her question. Even if we think it’s a dumb question, we should have a smart, simple answer. So let’s talk about it: Why is drag different from blackface?

On the surface, yeah, there are similarities between blackface and drag. They’re both one group posing as another group. They both rely on exaggerated stereotypes of people who are disempowered. They’re both over-the-top caricatures.

But blackface is inherently racist. You can’t take the racism out of it. Drag, on the other hand, you can easily separate from misogyny. Most drag — in fact, almost all drag — is about strong, powerful, admirable female characters. With blackface black people are the butt of the joke. But with drag it’s not women who are the butt of the joke but rules about gender roles. Nobody looks at a drag queens and thinks, “Oh, yeah, that’s what women are really like” — the way that a lot of Americans did with blackface and minstrel shows.

And there’s something else going on with drag. Unlike stock minstrel characters, drag characters are a personal expression of the performer. Drag queens aren’t just imitating female stereotypes; they’re expressing how fluid their own gender can be. That’s why a performer’s drag name, and drag family, and drag costume are so important to them. Blackface performers, on the other hand, aren’t expressing anything internal. They’re not asserting their personal racial fluidity. All that blackface does is lie about what people of color are like.

Now there is, of course, bad drag. Bad drag is just a man wearing a dress, not making any effort to perform, or create a character, or express anything. With bad drag, the whole joke is that it’s supposedly embarrassing for a man to be seen acting feminine. That’s not real drag. That’s just ridiculing women and queers, and if you want to be fancy about it, it’s perpetuating the cycle of patriarchal hegemony. That’s bad.

I’m saying that drag is not demeaning to women, but maybe you shouldn’t completely take my word for it, because I’m not a woman. A lot of the people publicly weighing in right now are men. And that’s great, but since we’re talking about how drag affects women, it’s important to, you know, actually listen to what women are saying about it.

And this gets to another difference between drag and blackface. Not only are women not usually offended by drag, but women actually perform drag themselves. Even little girls do drag when they dress up as princesses. Those are exaggerated feminine characters, an expression of an attraction to or curiosity about gender roles. Drag is how you explore who you are, or who you can become. As RuPaul says, we’re born naked and the rest is drag. No one has ever said we’re born naked and the rest is a minstrel show.

So let’s sum it up. Next time someone asks why drag is OK and blackface isn’t, you can tell them that drag is an expression of yourself, whereas blackface is an attack on someone else; blackface reinforces an imbalance of power, whereas drag disassembles an imbalance of power; blackface is a relic, whereas drag is what we all do, every day, every time we put on clothes.

So hopefully that clears things up, and the next time we’re talking about Mary Cheney, we’re talking instead about how she supports the disastrous Keystone pipeline. Or how she donated money to Republican candidates who opposed the freedom to marry, like Mitt Romney, and Kelly Ayotte, and Rob Portman (before he changed his mind), and Sam Brownback, for crying out loud. In 2012 Gov. Brownback recommended that Kansas keep a law that allows the police to arrest you just for being gay. Cheney apparently liked that so much that, two years later, her consulting firm spent over half a million dollars on Brownback’s reelection campaign. She also supported the reelection of Florida Gov. Rick McCollum; he’s the guy who hired “ex-gay” abuser George Rekers to testify against marriage equality. Rekers was later spotted returning from a European vacation with a rent boy, and we really haven’t heard a lot from him since then.

So if Mary really wants to talk about LGBT issues, she could start by apologizing for any number of those mistakes. Or for completely misrepresenting what drag is when she wrote last week that performers “act out every offensive stereotype of women (bitchy, catty, dumb, slutty, etc).” In a million years, that is not even a fragment of what drag is. If she really misunderstands drag that deeply, maybe she should try spending a little less time with Sam Brownback and a little more time around other gay people.

Big thanks to all my friends who commented on Facebook about this issue and messaged me privately to share their thoughts. I couldn’t have articulated any of this without your help, so please, keep talking, and let me know what you think. I’m @mattbaume on Twitter. And if you’re in Seattle, let’s go catch a drag show sometime.

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Petrow Talks Chick-fil-A: “He Can’t Eat His Chicken and Have His Principles, Too”

Petrow Talks Chick-fil-A: “He Can’t Eat His Chicken and Have His Principles, Too”

In this week’s advice column for The Washington Post, Steven Petrow answered a question concerning one of HRC’s least favorite restaurants: Chick-fil-A.
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ACT UP Gathers To Protest HRC’s Annual Black Tie Gala; Here’s Why

ACT UP Gathers To Protest HRC’s Annual Black Tie Gala; Here’s Why

AHRC4HRC’s annual fundraising gala in New York City last weekend had some unlikely protesters. Not Westboro or any other antigay organizations, but rather ACT UP, the HIV/AIDS political advocacy group formed in the ’80s.

Specifically, ACT UP was seeking to raise awareness of what they feel is a shortcoming of HRC’s equality index used to rate Fortune 500 companies on their treatment of LGBT employees — that HIV issues aren’t properly incorporated into the scores.

Activists gathered outside the event at the Waldorf Astoria, where tickets went for a cool $475, to voice their message.

ACT UP explained their reasoning in more detail via their Facebook page:

HRC has created an LGBT equality index to score the Fortune 500 companies, but there’s no mention of HIV and the thousands of LGBT people with HIV in the workplace. We demand that HRC include several criteria to evaluate companies on their treatment of employees living with HIV, as well as their contributions to organizations and causes relate [sic] to reducing the incidence of HIV among LGBT Americans, particularly among the young. For over 30 years, too many have been fired, harassed, outed and discriminated against at work for having HIV. Also at this gala, many of the corporations that HRC will honor actively work against the interests of middle-class and poor Americans, including people with HIV. ACT UP denounces this frequent practice of ‘”pinkwashing” whereby corporations with policies and practices that undermine the people’s well-being are given positive publicity in exchange for maintaining LGBT-friendly (or just equal) workplaces. This is short-sighted and divisive. We demand that HRC develop other criteria that takes into account the impact of companies’ policies on every American, not just LGBT Americans.

Here are some photos from the protest:

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Avengers 2: Age Of Ultron Super Bowl TV Spot – VIDEO

Avengers 2: Age Of Ultron Super Bowl TV Spot – VIDEO

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May 1st cannot come soon enough for fans of The Avengers, but Marvel Studios is doing the best they can to keep moviegoers sated until the release of Age of Ultron with a short new tv spot that was shown during Sunday’s Super Bowl. There are robots swarming, Scarlet Witch blasting, and – of course – Hulk smashing.

Thankfully, no creepy appropriations of classic Disney songs in this one.

You can watch the special effects spectacular AFTER THE JUMP…


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4 Women Wore Hijabs For A Day To See What Life's Like For Some Muslim Women

4 Women Wore Hijabs For A Day To See What Life's Like For Some Muslim Women
If you are a woman who chooses to wear a hijab, do people treat you differently? Does the experience impact the way you feel about yourself? In a new Buzzfeed video, four female staffers — who don’t normally wear the head covering — try to answer those questions.

The traditional Muslim headscarf is sometimes viewed as oppressive and sexist in Western cultures. “I feel like it’s an American thing that if you see a woman with a hijab it’s like a symbol of oppression,” one woman said at the beginning of the video. By the end, however, the four women concluded that as long as a woman makes a personal choice to wear the hijab, no one has a right to judge that decision.

The women in the video spoke with Edina Lekovic, the director of policy and programming of the Muslim Public Affairs Council, to learn what the hijab stands for and how to put it on correctly. Lekovic also shared her personal experiences with the headscarf, telling the four women that the first time she wore her hijab a woman came up to her and said, “Honey you’re in America now, you don’t have to wear that here.”

Not knowing how people would react, all of the women who participated in the video were nervous to wear the hijab in public. Each of them received some stares and one reported that she was “patted down extra” at the airport. One of the women even shared a moment with another woman wearing a hijab, saying that she “recognized and smiled back at me. Like saying ‘OK sister, we’re on the same mission.’ We had this kind of female connection. It was very sweet.”

Towards the end of the video, one of the women perfectly summed up the conclusion all four of them reached: “As a woman you should be able to wear whatever you want, and if [a hijab is] what you want to wear that’s what you should wear.”

H/T WifeyTV

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More And More Men Are Refusing To Masturbate And Here’s Why

More And More Men Are Refusing To Masturbate And Here’s Why

20061120225525-QQ216It all started back in 2011 when a mysterious thread titled “When men don’t masturbate for seven days, their testosterone levels increase by 45.7%” emerged on Reddit.

The post was published by a group called NoFap, which challenges people to abstain from watching porn, having sex, or masturbating in an effort to “seize control of your sexuality and turn it into superpowers.” The thread then challenged readers to see how long they could go without pleasuring themselves, with participants being called “NoFappers” or “Fapstranourts.”

According to NoFap’s website, by abstaining from carnal behavior, a person can recover from “porn-induced sexual dysfunction” as well as enjoy heightened self-control, more hard-drive space, more free time, and an improved attitude.

The whole thing is supposed to be a joke. (Or at least we think so.) But more and more men seem to be taking it seriously, according to the blog Neon Nettle.

“First I thought ‘well this is a great way to get laid, because I’m like a girl magnet now,’ but then it just became ‘whatever… that’s not why I do this,’” Reddit user T_nyDubs writes. “Don’t get me wrong, I love getting laid, but primary motivation is me and fixing myself in my relationship with the world, not just some part of it.”

Reddit user killajoy714 claims that refraining from pleasuring himself has given him “insane confidence,” writing: “don’t give a f**k about what others think about you, easy to maintain eye contact, more respect from guys, more attention from girls, more strength and endurance in the gym, feel extremely happy and positive, brain is more efficient, less retrieval failure, clearer/brighter face and skin (cold showers and getting some sun), more productive, more energy, increased desire to study and learn, willpower increases significantly, easy to get rid of negative influences, and a deeper voice.”

One guy went so far as to post a six-minute video on YouTube gushing about how amazing the experience of not masturbating has been for him.

But according to Neon Nettle, the practice of “nofapping” is nothing new. In fact, records show the practice dating all the way back to antiquity, when athletes in ancient Greece abstained from sex before a big game, believing that sperm provided an added boost of strength necessary to win.

Napoleon Hill’s internationally bestselling self-help book Think and Grow Rich labels the practice of “nofapping” as “sex transmutation.” The theory behind it is that by not releasing one’s sexual energies through regular means (i.e. masturbation, sex, etc.), those same energies find alternative, more productive routes of escaping the body (i.e. projects at work, artistic endeavors, relationships, etc.).

Neon Nettle also cites the website Yourbrainonporn.com, an online resource that explores the relationship between x-rated videos and the human brain. The website suggests that watching too much hanky panky on your computer can lead to a slew of long-term health problems, including your brain being “rewired.”

What do you think? Could you go seven days without masturbating? And do you think your sexual energies would find other ways of escaping your body? Sound off in the comments section below.

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22-Year-Old Straight Guy Says He Gets Turned On By Big Erect Penises

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NOM Backs Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore's Unlawful Crusade Against 'Judicial Tyranny' on Gay Marriage: AUDIO

NOM Backs Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore's Unlawful Crusade Against 'Judicial Tyranny' on Gay Marriage: AUDIO

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On Friday, National Organization for Marriage president Brian Brown expressed his unwavering support for Alabama Court Justice Roy Moore’s unlawful campaign to convince his state to defy a federal court ruling overturning the state ban on same-sex marriage.

Right Wing Watch reports on what Brown wrote to his supporters:

We need to stand up to this kind of bullying whenever we encounter it, but especially when it comes dressed up in the robes of the state authority. Indeed, then we shouldn’t call it merely bullying at all, but assign it the true name it deserves: tyranny. […]

Marriage Supporter, this is the kind of principled stand we need more of our public officials to take—and we need to take such a stand ourselves, too. […]

And as we work, let’s remember that we’re not alone in this fight! Lately, I have had a few opportunities to meet with marriage leaders throughout the globe, such as at the recent Vatican Colloquium on the Complementarity of Man and Woman. The experiences of these countries make it clear that we have a global fight to preserve marriage, and that the biggest threats to marriage are unfortunately coming from the West — led by the United States (and the lawless actions of President Obama) but also including some countries in western Europe.

Moore, meanwhile, was interviewed by the American Family Association’s Sandy Rios on Friday and talked about the similarities he sees between the gay marriage issue and Dred Scott v. Sandford and Plessy v. Ferguson – in that all three are instances of where the courts were in the wrong both morally and constitutionally.

Later in the interview, Rios asked Moore what he would say to Christians who are upset that he’s breaking the law by defying the federal courts. Moore replied “This is not against the law, this is for the law.”

Listen to Moore’s interview, AFTER THE JUMP


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