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Married Gay Man To Unmarried Gay Men “You’re All A Bunch Of Teenagers!”

It all started when another gay man told Lee Suckling and his fiancé: “You’re so brave. I can’t imagine why two men would want to get married.”

“It took my husband and I a while to figure out what he meant,” Suckling writes in a recent op-ed titled Why do gay men act like teenagers? published by the New Zealand Herald. “Why wouldn’t two men want to get married?”

We can think of a number of reasons why, but our readers are probably already aware of them.

Suckling continues: “In the lead up to my wedding, I’d started to realize there was a certain adolescence I was letting go of. What I didn’t quite comprehended, until I thought that older gentleman’s comment through, was that such an adolescence isn’t something a lot of gay men want to let of go of.”

What follows next is an assault of outdated stereotypes and generalizations about gay men and their “Peter Pan syndrome.”

“Our culture permits — even encourages — an eternal Peter Pan syndrome whereby we can choose to remain young and free at heart,” Suckling writes. “And we do the best we can to keep our physicality in such a state too.”

He cleverly refers to this “eternal Peter Pan syndrome” as “gaydolescence.”

“For the most part, the gaydolescence comes from being denied a legitimate adolescence in our teenage years,” he theorizes. “The consequence of this is often young gay men don’t partake — and actively distance themselves — from the adolescent experiences of teenage love, sex, even good friendships.”

Maybe for some people. But these days, more and more LGBT youth are coming out at a younger and younger age.

“The fall out effect of this becomes apparent when we accept who we are, at 18, 22, or sometimes 30 or older, and then we become 16 year old boys all over again,” Suckling continues. “Sex drives ramp up. We join a party culture that doesn’t stop for anything. We date around and finally get the sexual education we missed out on (and then some).”

Oh, but it doesn’t stop there. Suckling continues: “It’s obvious that gaydolescence extends to some gay mens’ physical appearance, too.”

They do this, he says, by getting “buffed up” at the gym, paying more attention to their “skincare and hair regimes,” and wearing “hi-tops and tank tops at 38.”

“For some guys, the gaydolescence never really ends,” Sucking writes. “Others might drag it out until their mid-40s when they realize a the benefits of a prolonged adolescence are no longer outweighed by the effort it takes.”

“But for the gay men coupling up and getting married early-ish in life (myself included),” he says, “our gaydolescence isn’t even going to last into our 30s.”

So there you have it, fellas. Lee Suckling is better than you because he decided to get married and stop being a “gaydolescent.” Now you can either follow his lead or grow into one of those tired, old 40-something gay men wearing a tank top at a gay bar on a Saturday night. Your choice.

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'American Horror Story: Freak Show' Episode 9 Recap: Murder At A Tupperware Party
*** WARNING: Contains spoilers! Please do not read on unless you’ve seen Episode 9 of “American Horror Story: Freak Show,” titled “Tupperware Party Massacre.” Or if you don’t mind spoilers, go right ahead! ***

Before I get into this week’s recap, I want to say sorry for missing last week — I was on vacation and away from all computers. Apologies. Of course I missed a major one! RIP Gloria. Not so much Ethel.

Ah, Tupperware. Who would’ve thought that the stuff we so nonchalantly use to pack our lunches and keep our food fresh in the fridge could possibly be used as a metaphor on “American Horror Story: Freak Show”? Strong yet weak, transparent and when not in use, empty. Even things safely contained within Tupperware also eventually rot. It perfectly coincides with many characters’ storylines and the keeping of secrets, especially Dell, who ghost Ethel sums up so nicely (“You were never strong”). For a show that many people scoff at, “AHS” sometimes nails it with these things.

If nothing else, “AHS” should at least be praised for its mastery of the opening scene. The Puppet Mother was hands-down one of the more disturbing things I’ve seen on the show; it’s stuff like this that keeps me coming back. That poor Avon lady had no idea what she was walking into, then bam! Dandy with the candlestick in the foyer — it’s like our own version of Clue. He tries to have Maggie/Esmerelda set things right by reading his fortune, but since we know she’s a fraud, of course it’s ineffective. And so his God Complex and killing spree begin.

On the other end of the spectrum, Jimmy is at an all-time low. Heavy into the sauce, he’s taken to engaging in dirty food-sex talk with the newest recruit, Ima Wiggles, and having what looks like incredibly uncomfortable intercourse with her. This sudden “sex with anything that moves” attitude from Jimmy and everyone else seems a bit tacked on, since just last week he was in love with Maggie/Esmerelda. If it’s meant to show his descent into vice and self-destruction, then OK. But still, it’s a little weird. He’s so drunk he can’t even perform at the Tupperware party, and is kicked out by the horny housewives.

Dandy shows up and turns it into a pool party. A bloody one. What a fantastic, disgusting scene. While the housewife’s husband walks in and discovers the carnage, I could only sit there and imagine how impossible it would be to digest what you saw in front of you. I don’t even think a scream would be possible.

I did let out a loud internal scream when a drunken Dell, unable to write suicide letters to Desiree and Jimmy, encounters Stanley on the dirt road. Stanley shows him his “appendage” and then starts masturbating. The sounds and the visual were just too much for me. I love Denis O’Hare, but blech. It may have been his twitching while he did it, I don’t know. Regardless, it seems like Dell and Stanley end up doing something, but we don’t see it. I’m thankful for that. (In case you’re keeping score, I called that these two would hook up a long time ago.) Dell’s suicide is foiled by Desiree, who cuts him down at the last moment. It was morbidly cool to see it all from Dell’s perspective; dark, dark stuff.

Bette and Dot are also contemplating something dark: getting surgery to separate from each other. Elsa and Stanley concoct a plan to trick the twins and euthanize them. Elsa has reservations, but Stanley brainwashes her into going along with the scheme. He almost succeeds in fooling the twins, too, but ultimately they decide they need each other. When Dot professes her love to Jimmy and takes off their (?) shirt, I thought that Jimmy had it made. But nope, he’s in love with Maggie/Esmerelda (c’mon, it can’t be Ima), and he rejects the twins outright. Ouch. But hey, I hold out hope. Dandy seemed quite interested in Maggie/Esmerelda’s powers, so he might still kill her, leaving Jimmy free to love Bette and Dot.

Despite Regina’s attempts, Dandy manages to escape persecution by bribing the Jupiter cop with $1 million. Out of nowhere, the cop shoots Regina in the head. While ridiculous, it’s also not totally out of the question that someone would take that much money in a pinch. I mean, it is the 1950s. Imagine what $1 million was like back then?! Fully in control, Dandy frames Jimmy with that goddamn glove — I wondered where that thing went — and is off scot-free. What is it with Evan Peters’ characters getting wrongly accused and/or arrested? There’s a trend here.

A lot of people are dying now, at a pretty steady clip. You know what that means: this season is nearing its end. Who will emerge the ultimate victor? Will anyone survive? I feel like the whole freak show is going to go up in flames before this series is through.

Freak Of The Week: Can we include Dandy? I’m including Dandy. Can this guy steal a scene or what?

Random Thoughts:

• Malcolm Jamal-Warner. What the hell was that? Care to elaborate, “AHS”? You introduce a character for one minute and that’s that?
• There’s such a lack of Gloria quotes now. It’s so noticeable when I write out the random thoughts!
• How did I never make the connection with the last name Mott? Does Motts know that their name is being used by a fictional deranged psychopath? I can just imagine the angry emails being composed right now.
• Man bum x 2 tonight. Ryan Murphy certainly knows what the show’s fans want.
• You know what they say about the circus and the show: it ain’t over til the fat lady sings, which means a song by Ima will most likely close out this season.
• Ghost Ma Petite: “Sign it!” That was actually kind of scary.
• Ghost Ethel talking about giving birth to Jimmy by “squatting by an oak tree” was another gross moment. Not as gross as seeing O’Hare masturbate, but a close second.
• Sarah Paulson deserves some sort of award for this season. Someone please give one to her.

“American Horror Story: Freak Show” airs on Wednesday nights at 10 p.m. EST on FX and FX Canada.

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